u/Positive_Shock6917

I was playing an MMORPG with a bunch of people. The Guild Leader was a girl who had a bubbly personality and always fun to hang with in game, on discord, and we eventually started moving in that direction of long distance relationship because she was about 900 miles away. I felt comfortable enough with her to develop those attractive feels. I wanted to be closer -- we shared pictures/videos and were thoroughly in that honey-moon phase.

Then things began to change over 90 days. She was clearly having a bad day, and was abrasive/rude to one of our guild mates which was a huge turn off for me, although I tried to keep it in perspective that stress can make people say things they didn't mean. THEN she spent 90% of our guild's gold for a cosmetic mount for herself, even though the other 30 of us were chipping in to get some actually useful items that would help us clear content//open up more loot. I tried to rationalize that she viewed it as a loan -- that she intended to pay it back?

She did not have that intention. It was a birthday gift for her running the guild, even though most of the officer-core leadership did the heavy lifting.

I lost any amount of sexual attraction for her. I wanted to be as far away as possible because I didn't want that energy infecting my core. Of course this spiraled because she wasn't getting what she needed to be satisfied (no sexy times), and began to lash out. She started openly flirting with other guild members in chat, and started treating me like shit. I found out later that she was married the whole time.

I have come to understand that I when I feel safe/confident that a partner has good energy/intentions, I want to merge with them -- I can't get enough of them. But if they show signs of bad characteristics, I want to distance myself. This creates problems because I imagine from the partner's point of view, it is viewed love-bombing? I feel like we built a friendship for almost a year, then dated happily for 3 months, and spiraled to a breakup over another 3 months.

Of course this person in particular was a terrible choice on my part, but I noticed the same phenomenon in other relationships

I have until June 27th 2026 to drop my classes for a 50% refund. The problem is I can't afford both rent and tuition. With financial aid jacked up, I was given two options.

1. Not be able to pay for my payment plan, have it be sent to collections which prevents me from enrolling in fall semester.

2. Drop the last two classes which will make the total remainder payment ($1750) due asap.

I literally can't afford either option and there isn't an option to defer this while financial aid gets sifted through. TBH It is starting to feel like they just wanted to get as much money as they can from me at this point.

Is the hope to live off high interest credit to survive just long enough to be able to pay collections? I am in my last 25 credits to graduate if I can complete this semester...