u/Possible_Luck_846

Went to Magazine Open Air on Sat. It was very quiet when I entered and I was the only one walking by the dogs and naturally got pulled for the “extensive search.”

When i entered the pod for a search, one person was doing the pat down and bag search, while another was at a table looking at my ID.

They didnt find anything me and i got into the fest. But i noticed the guy who was looking at my ID was writing stuff down? I am wondering if he recorded my details, which i dont think he should since they didnt find anything?

Does anyone else who went through the search know what they were doing? I am going again this weekend and just wondering if it means my ID gonna get flagged on entry and I am gonna get searched again.

The guy also asked me a few times if i had cash on me, which i thought was super weird. I said no and he was like it’s fine. Anyone know why he was asking?

Hi everyone - looking for some advice

I made a new friend about 8/9 months ago. In person I like them but dealing with them over text is making me dislike them.

I find their text messages to be very transactional. They always seem to want to information from me. For example, they turn down plans and then ask me details like if I went, who I went with etc etc. They aren’t asking me this in the context of a general conversation, they will specifically ask me these details and then disappear again until the next time.

As they have gotten more comfortable with me, they will message me a lot about upcoming plans like days or weeks in advance, asking a lot of details like when I will arrive, who I am going with , what they should wear etc. Then after asking all these details and all the planning, they will more often than not bail either on the day before or the day of the plans. And then they will still text me to find out how it went. For example, if they know it was just gonna be the two of us and then they bail they then want to know what I did instead or who I went with.

I particularly have a sour taste after i shared some vulnerable information with them because i thought they were asking genuine questions as friend and i later found out they used the information to play me against someone else. I have also noticed some unkind comments and behaviors toward others as we have gotten closer.

I like them when our rare meetings do happen, but I find the lead up to organizing anything with them rather exhausting. What do you think is going on? Should I keep maintaining this friendship?

I am in my mid 20s. They are in late 30s. I have only ever had one friend like this before and my theory was that they were very insecure and projected it on to me. For that friend, I just cut them out. However, this friend initiates a lot, it is just that they rarely follow through on the things they initiate. It is like they want to be friends, but also don’t want to be.