I do not celebrate holidays. Birthday. Anniversary. Etc etc. I’ve never met anyone else like this. Are you out there?
I absolutely gift for reasons. Cheer up gift-like a car detail for someone down on the dumps. If someone has a dietary change, visit a baker of foods and recipes just printed out. A delivery of frozen meals for new families. A day of home repair honey do things even if I have to hire it out and pay for it. If you call me for funeral food dishes to take, your getting Costco.
But the commercial paper bow on this day- nope. Not doing it. No trees, candles, dinners , music and all that. Not for me.
Not everyone in my family is like this and friends find it ghastly.
To them I say “so what” - they do NOT whine to me so that’s a big benefit. The look on my face is just too plain. I’m not the one.