u/Primary_Charity_2570

Long story short, im 22 and live with my single mother. Im moving out in January to a different state.

This morning, i left the house at 8 to go for a long run.

She calls me at 10, “where are you?”

Me: “im outside running”

Mom: “did you ask me you were leaving?”

Btw i locked the door and everything.

Me: “I didn’t know I had to tell you where I was going if i locked the door?”

Her: “this is my fucking house..”

*I hang the phone up.*

Here’s our messages before I blocked her because she wants to start her shit this morning.

**Mom:**
“So if u grown get out today!”
“If u so grown pay for your own food.”
“I don’t care.”
“Your phone is suspended too.”
“And I’m not paying that card u got towards living with me for free.”
“And your response so dumb.”
“Sweet heart it’s my phone dumbass! And your perception is slow and retarded actually! And you \[redacted\] says you talk shit about me too her! Dumbass”
**You:**
“I’ll move today.”

For context: i got that phone when i was 17😭 im 22 now… and im trying to finish my last semester in college. I can’t wait to leave and never fucking come back!

MY credit card she used she refuses to
Pay it back. Then 2-3 hours later have the nerve to ask for it, and i tell her its her last time using it. And she gets all ego and shuts the electricity off in my room and take the WiFi cord with her.

What does it sound like?
Controlling!

Long story short, im 22 and live with my single mother. Im moving out in January to a different state.

This morning, i left the house at 8 to go for a long run.

She calls me at 10, “where are you?”

Me: “im outside running”

Mom: “did you ask me you were leaving?”

Btw i locked the door and everything.

Me: “I didn’t know I had to tell you where I was going if i locked the door?”

Her: “this is my fucking house..”

I hang the phone up.

Here’s our messages before I blocked her because she wants to start her shit this morning.

Mom:
“So if u grown get out today!”
“If u so grown pay for your own food.”
“I don’t care.”
“Your phone is suspended too.”
“And I’m not paying that card u got towards living with me for free.”
“And your response so dumb.”
“Sweet heart it’s my phone dumbass! And your perception is slow and retarded actually! And you [redacted] says you talk shit about me too her! Dumbass”
You:
“I’ll move today.”

For context: i got that phone when i was 17😭 im 22 now… and im trying to finish my last semester in college. I can’t wait to leave and never fucking come back!

MY credit card she used she refuses to
Pay it back. Then 2-3 hours later have the nerve to ask for it, and i tell her its her last time using it. And she gets all ego and shuts the electricity off in my room and take the WiFi cord with her.

What does it sound like?
Controlling!

I’m 22 from VA. About to finish college in one semester for Tech. I live under my mom because I got college paid for with health benefits. Living on campus is expensive.
My mom is under the government due to being a single parent and my little brother having autism.

So I never had a job before. I only had school. And if I work, I kick my mom off the program and that’s not fair . So I become homeless. I have no other family to live under till i save for an apartment. I feel hopeless trying to transition into an independent adult.

On top of that, I get abused. She keeps putting her hands on me. Choking me, hitting me. Mentally abusing me. And if i called the cops it would not benefit my little brothers. She threatens me to kick me out on the street and then acts sweet to me. It’s just a cycle. I just want to finish my last semester and figure out from there.

My bf of 5yrs and his father who lives in Chicago offered that I could stay with them and work out there. But I don’t want to be a burden. And thats what my mother thinks of me and that’s how i grew up. I couldn’t do that to them. On top of that my mom will taunt me for living with a guy.

I know I’m adult but I was never really taught to be. I feel like I’m thinking emotionally instead of logically. I feel so hopeless. I want to transition. Any advice?