u/PriorAd8136

My family is from northern/central Mexico. A few generations back the ties were strong, connections to language, land, community. Then it broke, and not gently. The language wasn't passed down, the community connection was cut, and everyone downstream came out mestizo and identified that way. My relatives still do. Some would be uncomfortable if I called them indigenous.

It's a strange spot to be in. I roughly know where I come from, but I have no community, no language, and nobody who could vouch for me. Calling myself indigenous seems wrong, that belongs to people who live it and are accountable somewhere, not to people who just carry the ancestry. But acting like the history has nothing to do with me feels false too, and conveniently so, it affirms the active erasure.

Is "proud of the ancestry, not claiming the identity" a real position, or just a way of having it both ways?

Not fishing for reassurance, just looking for perspectives.

Hello, I (28 M) work in IT and I’ve noticed a consistent pattern that I’m trying to understand from a body language perspective.

I regularly have older women (roughly 30s–50s+) do things like light touch on the arm or shoulder, ask more personal questions than necessary, hold eye contact a bit longer than normal, and make comments about my style like “nice boots” or “not everyone can pull those off.” It feels way friendlier than normal, or at least strong friendliness.

At the same time, I get basically zero of this kind of behavior from women my age. No compliments, no extended eye contact, no physical contact, nothing obvious.

So I’m wondering if this is mainly a difference in how different age groups express interest, or if I might be missing more subtle signals from younger women. I’m also curious if there could be something about my vibe that appeals to older women.

Edit: meant 35-50’s, sorry

Also worth mentioning, women around my age sometimes act in similar ways, but I’ve later found out they have boyfriends, so I doubt that they are flirting.