u/Pristine_Beyond_1799

I’m 24F, and I’ve been post grad for a while now and live with my family in a small, quiet suburb. I feel pretty isolated here. I don’t have any friends, and I don’t wear what I want because I’ll be kicked out. After quitting my last job earlier this year, I knew I wanted to move somewhere else with more freedom, flexibility, and opportunity.

Ever since then I’ve been prioritizing getting another job, and saving up for the move. I’ve calculated all the expenses, started looking for jobs in the city, and planned everything. However, I haven’t been as efficient in my plan. I feel like my head is spinning, going back and forth between if this is a good or bad idea.

Because my current home isn’t terrible physically, I think I’m starting to convince myself that moving out is a stupid idea. I have good space, and live close to get whatever I need. I still need to pay to live at home, but I feel at ease knowing I won’t be homeless. When I move out, I’m terrified of my plan failing and ending up unhoused because of the current market. My parents have also said that if I leave, they won’t allow me back.

Would it be better to live with my family for and wait until the US job market and cost of living gets better?
Or do I continue with my plan to move out and create a safety net in case things go south, knowing my parents won’t let me back or help? (3-6 month Emergency fund, roommates, etc.)

I appreciate it! thanks 😊

I’m in my mid 20’s. For as long as I can remember I’ve never had anyone pay attention to my looks or how I dress. I’ve always worn long sleeves, loose pants and dresses. For context, I grew up in an Islamic household so I’ve worn the hijab since I was 5.

I’ve since changed my beliefs, and no longer identify with the hijab or Islam. So I don’t have any reason to dress down. I’d love to dress up, express my style and wear makeup but something internally makes me feel indifferent at best and fearful at worst.

I like blending in and not being noticed by others and I don’t care about having a romantic relationship. I’m afraid of being more visible, and potentially having my ego blown up by people who only care about looks. I’ve also received insults from family members when I have my makeup done and look nice, and that confusion has made that internal feeling more pronounced.

To clarify, I’m not talking about being catcalled or experiencing other gender violence as that happens no matter how you look. I guess I’m more concerned about the indirect social costs.

The recent episodes of Not Loveline suck and Brand Safe is mediocre. Canceled made the most sense for her. It’s sad cause the only episodes w/ Tana I find interesting are the ones where she’s exposing so much of her personal life.

I think podcasting (if that’s a word?) has become such a cop out career. Unless you’re interviewing celebrities/public figures, no one’s going to hear you and your friends talk about trending topics for an hour. It gets old.

I’ve watched Tana’s yt videos since I was in middle school. But as I’ve gotten older I realized that Tana doesn’t have much going on in her stories aside from shock value/personal experiences. Made me think what tf does she even do??

The money & attention kept her in the space and stunted her individuality. She needs to move on atp. She has great qualities. Are yall vibing w/ not loveline?? Maybe im a hater tho 😭