u/Professional-Cat736

I (F) have been best friends with this guy for about seven years. We've been through some of the hardest periods of each other's lives. Even after moving away, we still talk almost every single day and share what's happening in our lives. I genuinely believed he was a decent person.

A few days ago, while he was drunk, he accidentally sent me a screenshot from his Reddit account asking a question. He realized what he'd done and deleted it about an hour later. I know I shouldn't have, but curiosity got the better of me, and I looked up his Reddit profile.

I wish I hadn't.

At first, I saw him actively participating in a lot of NSFW communities, posting things like asking if anyone was up for hookups or sex chat with / about women. That's his personal life,

But then it started getting bad

I found multiple posts where he was taking completely normal photos of female celebrities and influencers, posting them in sexual forums, calling them degrading names (almost in all of his posts) , and asking if anyone had their nudes or anything sexual to say about them. None of these women were posting anything remotely sexual.

Then I found posts where he wrote about being sexually attracted to his older cousin, who has always treated him like a younger brother. He described fantasies about her that honestly made me feel sick.

The final thing that really disturbed me was finding a post about one of our mutual female friends, where people were commenting and making up stories about having sex with her. I know for a fact those things never happened, so it seemed like another fantasy involving someone we actually know.

I've barely been able to process this. This is someone I've trusted for seven years. I have very few close friends, and he's been one of the most important people in my life. But now every conversation with him feels different because I can't stop thinking about everything I saw.

I also feel guilty because I invaded his privacy by looking at his profile in the first place. At the same time, I can't unsee what I found.

I'm not looking for people to immediately tell me to cut him off. I know that's the obvious answer many people will give, but seven years of friendship isn't something I can emotionally switch off overnight.

Has anyone been in a situation where discovering someone's online life completely changed how you saw them? Is there any way to process this or move forward?

I'm genuinely lost and would appreciate thoughtful advice rather than just "block him."

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I (F) have been best friends with this guy for about seven years. We've been through some of the hardest periods of each other's lives. Even after moving away, we still talk almost every single day and share what's happening in our lives. I genuinely believed he was a decent person.

A few days ago, while he was drunk, he accidentally sent me a screenshot from his Reddit account asking a question. He realized what he'd done and deleted it about an hour later. I know I shouldn't have, but curiosity got the better of me, and I looked up his Reddit profile.

I wish I hadn't.

At first, I saw him actively participating in a lot of NSFW communities, posting things like asking if anyone was up for hookups or sex chat with / about women. That's his personal life,

But then it started getting bad

I found multiple posts where he was taking completely normal photos of female celebrities and influencers, posting them in sexual forums, calling them degrading names (almost in all of his posts) , and asking if anyone had their nudes or anything sexual to say about them. None of these women were posting anything remotely sexual.

Then I found posts where he wrote about being sexually attracted to his older cousin, who has always treated him like a younger brother. He described fantasies about her that honestly made me feel sick.

The final thing that really disturbed me was finding a post about one of our mutual female friends, where people were commenting and making up stories about having sex with her. I know for a fact those things never happened, so it seemed like another fantasy involving someone we actually know.

I've barely been able to process this. This is someone I've trusted for seven years. I have very few close friends, and he's been one of the most important people in my life. But now every conversation with him feels different because I can't stop thinking about everything I saw.

I also feel guilty because I invaded his privacy by looking at his profile in the first place. At the same time, I can't unsee what I found.

I'm not looking for people to immediately tell me to cut him off. I know that's the obvious answer many people will give, but seven years of friendship isn't something I can emotionally switch off overnight.

Has anyone been in a situation where discovering someone's online life completely changed how you saw them? Is there any way to process this or move forward?

I'm genuinely lost and would appreciate thoughtful advice rather than just "block him."

I have a dysfunctional family, lost the only friends I had along the way and I'm too unstable to be able to have healthy relationships.. God how much I wish I had someone to call my own. And to be loved .

Hi everyone!

F here , I'm looking for a female gym buddy in or around BTM 1 st stage. I'm a complete beginner and will be starting from the absolute basics, so it would be great to find someone who is also new to the gym or doesn't mind helping a beginner get started.

My main goal is to stay consistent, and motivate each other to show up regularly.

If you're interested, please comment or send me a DM.

Guys. I'm specifically looking for a female gym buddy.

Thanks! 😊

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Hi everyone!

F here , I'm looking for a female gym buddy in or around BTM 1 st stage. I'm a complete beginner and will be starting from the absolute basics, so it would be great to find someone who is also new to the gym or doesn't mind helping a beginner get started.

My main goal is to stay consistent, and motivate each other to show up regularly.

If you're interested, please comment or send me a DM.

Guys. I'm specifically looking for a female gym buddy.

Thanks! 😊

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I (F) have been with my boyfriend for a little over 7 months. We love each other a lot and overall our relationship is good.

Recently he gave up his apartment because he's in the process of changing jobs and temporarily moved in with one of his sisters, who lives with her husband and child. He comes from a very close knit and traditional family, and he's extremely family oriented.

Ever since he moved there, it has been difficult for him to sneak out as his sisters place is almost 2 hour drive from my place .I'll put the scenerio here but I genuinely can't tell if I'm being unreasonable because my own family relationships are very different.

His sister calls him multiple times a day when he's out sometimes 4 or 5 times, and sometimes they're video calls.

( I told him not to tell about our relationship since she is little traditional and maybe she will stop him from spending nights with me .)

His parents also call him frequently. If he stays out late or spends the night away, his sister gets upset and wants to know where he is and when he's coming back. But He's almost 29 years old.

One incident that really bothered me happened recently. I had a dentist appointment scheduled for 4 PM, and he had promised he would take me. The reason I stayed back with him without going to my home was on one demand that he will help me get my appointment done .

He also had an important job interview the next day and needed time to prepare. From morning, his sister kept calling and asking when he was coming home because she had made lunch. Eventually, around 2 PM, he left saying i promised her I'll be there long time ago. I told him it was okay because I thought he needed to go home and prepare for his interview.

But later I found out he didn't actually start preparing until around 8 PM. That's what upset me. If he wasn't going to prepare for hours anyway, he could have still come with me to my appointment like he promised. So he only went because his sister was calling for lunch..

he once said that he loves his sister more than anyone and that she's basically like a mother to him. He often reminisces about their memories. And I get irrationally jealous and I think it's because I have a bad relationship with my own sister .

I understand that she's very important to him, and I don't have a problem with him loving his family. What I'm struggling with is whether the level of involvement is normal.

honestly can't tell if this is just a healthy, close family dynamic that I'm not used to, or if there are some boundary issues here.

Am I being irrational for feeling uncomfortable about this, or would other people also find this dynamic a bit unusual for a 29year-old adult. What should I do to move forward in a healthy way? I don't want my insecurities to effect the relationship also.