u/Proof_Television_695

This reaction was always so odd to me.

Not a good look peaches

There was a person in Guys community who was dming multiple people, many who were half his age and married, inappropriate sexual messages. Let’s call him C. On a private discord server, multiple people were complaining about C being creepy and hitting on them.

Several folks reached out to Guys mods to tell them to be careful of this dude, because he was still active in Guys community. The mods said they informed Guy and he banned the person. That seemed to be true- in fact this person, C, deleted their account all together.

Fat forward a week. A person with a faceless Getchell snark account on both TikTok and Discord posted in that same private server where people talked about their experiences with C, a link to a TikTok video that accidentally sent from their private family account, that has their minor children on it.

Suddenly, almost everyone who outed C on Discord was getting a message from someone claiming to be C’s “backup acct”. Only he wasn’t messaging people C used to talk to- in fact, they blocked a few of them. This profile was only messaging the women who stated they were nervous about C. “Backup C” specifically messaged the women who were afraid of him to say he was “blocked from Guys account but he sees the light now.”

But remember C wasn’t just blocked. C deleted his account. Backup C doesn’t seem to know that plot point.

Then the “backup C” messaged the private facing page of the creator mentioned above. The page with their minor children that has zero ties to C or anything Getchell related.

C never knew of that account.
C doesn’t talk the way backup C does.
Backup C, who it seems is not actually C but someone pretending to be, could’ve only gotten that persons personal account from that discord link.
Backup C only messaged people who stated they are scared of C, not people he regularly would interact with.

But who did know about C? Guys mods. Guy himself.
Other info from that private server has gotten back to Guy quickly.

But to emulate the profile of a predator to intimidate people? That’s a new low.

What's up snarkers,

Why do you snark?

I'm not talking just talking about Pat and Sarah's behavior, rather, why do you snark?

I believe snarking a defense mechanism. Prove me wrong...

I’m concerned my ex (44M) is in a mental health crisis and I’m the only one that knows the extent of it.

We’ve known each other for eight years and he’s always had issues with getting validation from other women, but in spring of 2024 out of nowhere, he flies half a country away to meet a woman he met online. I went no contact with him for two months but unfortunately our kids are friends and I let my guard down and took him back as a fwb.

We’ve been just friends since February but in mid March it’s like a flip switched and he’s been calling me 8-9 times a day, bringing me lunch 3-4x a week, in constant contact and using me for emotional support.

Well guess what happened out of nowhere Friday? He lied and concealed that he was spending the entire weekend meeting up with a stranger online in a cabin two hours away.

I’m beginning to believe these are manic episodes. It goes so much deeper than the meet ups- he’s also had job losses, fights with so many friends and family members that he’s isolated himself, insane debt (behind on child support, taxes, credit cards, etc) I just found out he hadn’t washed his clothes in over six months. He stopped paying most of his bills, was evicted last year, lives with his grandmother and if she were to pass, he’d be homeless. It would take him literally years to recover to a baseline, and that’s with him getting mental health help that he’s not willing to get.

There’s no one in his orbit I can reach out to with my concerns, so I feel like all I can do is watch him crash and burn from the sidelines. His ex wife hates me, and his family sees most of this behavior and just avoids him. All his IRL friends aren’t talking to him because he kept starting fights with them, his only friends are the random women he meets in dating and fetish Facebook groups. I feel stuck because I don’t want him to get worse, but every time he goes through this cycle it does get worse. I don’t know what to do.

What would you do if your ex was in an obvious mental health crisis and you were the only one that knew the extent of it?

We’ve known each other for eight years and he’s always had issues with getting validation from other women, but it’s escalating into dangerous activity now.

The first time I caught him talking to other women online was just a month into our relationship, and I should’ve left him then because it would happen at least once or twice a year since. After living together a few years (in my house) I sold that house and downsized so we no longer lived together but stayed together until August of 2024, but I stupidly started fwb with him. Well last spring out of nowhere, he flies half a country away to meet a woman he met online. I went no contact with him for two months but unfortunately our kids are friends and I let my guard down and took him back as a fwb.

We’ve been just friends since February but he’s been calling me 8-9 times a day, bringing me lunch 3-4x a week, in constant contact and using me for emotional support.

Well guess what happened out of nowhere Friday? He lied and concealed that he was spending the entire weekend meeting up with a stranger online in a cabin two hours away.

I’m beginning to believe these are manic episodes. It goes so much deeper than the meet ups- he’s also had job losses, fights with so many friends and family members that he’s isolated himself, insane debt (behind on child support, taxes, credit cards, etc) I just found out he hadn’t washed his clothes in over six months. He stopped paying most of his bills, was evicted last year, lives with his grandmother and if she were to pass, he’d be homeless. It would take him literally years to recover to a baseline, and that’s with him getting mental health help that he’s not willing to get.

There’s no one in his orbit I can reach out to with my concerns, so I feel like all I can do is watch him crash and burn from the sidelines. His ex wife hates me, and his family sees most of this behavior and just avoids him. All his IRL friends aren’t talking to him because he kept starting fights with them, his only friends are the random women he meets in dating and fetish Facebook groups. I feel stuck because I don’t want him to get worse, but every time he goes through this cycle it does get worse. I don’t know what to do.

What would you do if your ex (44M) was in an obvious mental health crisis and you (38F) were the only one that knew the extent of it?

We’ve known each other for eight years and dated on and off the whole time, he’s always had issues with getting validation from other women, but it’s escalating into dangerous activity now.

The first time I caught him talking to other women online was just a month into our relationship, and I should’ve left him then because it would happen at least once or twice a year since. After living together a few years (in my house) I sold that house and downsized so we no longer lived together but stayed together until August of 2024, but I stupidly started fwb with him. Well last spring out of nowhere, he flies half a country away to meet a woman he met online. I went no contact with him for two months but unfortunately our kids are friends and I let my guard down and took him back as a fwb.

We’ve been just friends since February but he’s been calling me 8-9 times a day, bringing me lunch 3-4x a week, in constant contact and using me for emotional support.

Well guess what happened out of nowhere Friday? He lied and concealed that he was spending the entire weekend meeting up with a stranger online in a cabin two hours away.

I’m beginning to believe these are manic episodes. It goes so much deeper than the meet ups- he’s also had job losses, fights with so many friends and family members that he’s isolated himself, insane debt (behind on child support, taxes, credit cards, etc) I just found out he hadn’t washed his clothes in over six months. He stopped paying most of his bills, was evicted last year, lives with his grandmother and if she were to pass, he’d be homeless. It would take him literally years to recover to a baseline, and that’s with him getting mental health help that he’s not willing to get.

There’s no one in his orbit I can reach out to with my concerns, so I feel like all I can do is watch him crash and burn from the sidelines. His ex wife hates me, and his family sees most of this behavior and just avoids him. All his IRL friends aren’t talking to him because he kept starting fights with them, his only friends are the random women he meets in dating and fetish Facebook groups. I feel stuck because I don’t want him to get worse, but every time he goes through this cycle it does get worse. I don’t know what to do.