Fear & anxiety in 5 year old
Hi all, I am interested in some insight from parents who have dealt with their five year-olds being super fearful and anxious of trying new things. I’m seeing some symptoms of ADHD in my son (but also could be age appropriate honestly, it’s hard to say) - such as impulsivity, mild inattention, and sensory seeking. He gets in trouble at school for not keeping his hands to himself, and is a bit socially immature compared to his peers it seems, but he does spend most of his time with his 3 y.o. brother. I used to just think it was his temperament. Little brother is far more easy-going, calm, appropriately curious, and easier to discipline. But I think it might be deeper. I try to have age-appropriate, meaningful conversations when he’s not escalated, but he is closed off and pretty negative and it almost sets off the fear response. He gets incredibly emotional and repeats things like, “I can’t do this.” We assure him he’s safe, mentally prepare him for things, we are always honest about what we’re doing, but we do push him to do the things he’s worried about even if he freaks out. I’m talking things like going to school, swim lessons, and baseball practice. But it’s so interesting because he rips on his bike, loves ocean fishing with grandpa, things that are objectively more “scary”.
For added context, I did just have a baby two months ago, but this has started long before then, but it has definitely amplified the separation anxiety. He also has obstructive sleep apnea and recently had his tonsils removed. We’re hoping this helps improve his sleep and overall mood and behaviors, but any insight in the meantime would be deeply appreciated.