When an autistic person says:

"I hate being autistic, people reject me for no reason, I was bullied and discriminated against, I can't find love, I got fired at work, etc."

People in the comments support this, share the feeling, say that autism sucks, talk about how disabling their symptoms are, etc.

But when an autistic person says:

"I hate NT's, they reject me for no reason, they bully and discriminate against me, they make it impossible to find love, they get me fired at work, etc"

People in the comments will tell OP that they're wrong, that not all NT's are evil, that their feelings are non-valid, that their autism is the actual problem and blah blah blah...

I just want you to imagine how this would go the other way around:

Imagine if an autistic person who vents about their disability gets the type of comments that people share when an autistic person complains about living with NT's.

"No, you can't say that you hate being autistic! Autism is not always something bad! NT's are the actual disability!"

You see the problem, right?

But why does this happen? Both problems are really similar, autism and NT's are a big barrier for the average autistic person's quality of life, so why autistic people are only allowed to hate one but not the other?

This, my friends, is what we call "gaslighting".

It is a typical tactic that oppressors use to make their victims hate themselves but not them, the ones who are in power don't care if the ones who are below them complain.

As long as it doesn't involve them.

This is what white "allies" do all the time, they will allow you to rant about the struggles of being black in a racist society but don't you EVER mention white people, NEVER.

What? You're saying that a lot of struggles of being black involve white people? Don't justify your bigotry!

NT's do exactly the same thing.

They will mention 100 statistics of how the symptoms of autism affects the quality of life of an autistic person if it's necessary to prove that autism sucks, but don't you even DARE to talk about how (for example), autistic women are more likely to experience physical and verbal abuse than allistic women, usually from NT men.

But hey! Don't worry! We NT's are for you guys everytime you need us! If a cure comes out we won't hesitate to give it to ya!

But, uh, if a cure for autism is never found and we are forced to address the obvious issues of power imbalance between NT's and ND's, then... We will... Uh...

Just don't think about it!

The point I'm trying to get across is:

Don't let people tell you what you are allowed to hate or not as long as it causes you suffering.