u/Organic_Future6909

So, I did a post earlier about how a girl of my cooking classes might be interested in me (she asked for my number and IG, told me to invite her to the movies, asked me if I wanted to see her today, said that i could potentially go to her house etc) and most people said that she was probably flirting with me, ngl, I considered it.

But today, we met because of her birthday and she came to my house, we had a great time and she told me that she loved spending time with me.

However there's something she said I can't stop thinking about.

When we were going to a cafeteria, she told me:

"You would be such a good boyfriend!!! I could even introduce you to my female friends"

I took this as a direct rejection, but a bit later she complained about how her friends and parents were shipping us, and one of the things she said was "can't a woman and a man be friends?".

I'm not an insistent guy, I'm mature and I can handle rejection, but these sudden comments confused me a lot because she was the one who gave the idea of "dating" two times, and now she's implying that she sees me as a friend.

My father told me that she was probably teasing me so I could start being more upfront with her, but I'm not really sure...

I'm thinking of inviting her to the movies this weekend, but me instead of her this time, what should I expect?

So, there's a girl in my cooking class that I consider a friend and I think that she also does see me as a friend.

However, everyone (my friends and parents) thinks that she likes me and I'm just to dumb to see the hints, and even if I don't think that she likes me, I'll admit that I might be biased and clueless because... welp, I'm autistic.

We met because we're in the same class and we always take the same bus because we are from the same city, so I had a few convos with her before and she even asked for my number and IG.

The things became confusing when I was talking with her and two other friends of the same class about how a friend of mine cancelled the plans we had of going to the movies, and she said "welp, invite me then!".

I didn't invite her at that moment because it was a movie that I knew she wasn't going to like (it was the umamusume one) but when we go home I thought a little bit about it and I decided to invite her to see another movie (the Mario one) and she accepted.

Things went very well, I paid for everything and we also went to a cafeteria and my home afterwards, she said that she wanted us to meet again to see another movie, but we couldn't because the schedules were super late.

She sometimes sent me pictures of her in text but we don't talk too much over there.

So yeah, that's all, there's something I'm not seeing here?

I'm asking because I'm afraid of thinking that she likes me when she does not, because she isn't a person with many friends so she might just want to befriend me, and I'm afraid of ruining that just for a miscommunication.

Idk what to do, any advice?

Everyone knows that V1 is cool as fuck, But who knows what it's thinking? Who knows why it kills husks? And why do we think about it as fondly as we think of the mythical (nonexistent?) hell itself? Perchance.

I believe it was hakita who said "war without reason is blind, but reason without war is mere intellectual play", V1 exhibits war by killing husks all day, but he exhibits reason by stating "BLOOD IS FUEL", keep it up, baby!

When V1 leaves its place of safety to shoot huskies it knows that it might die. And yet, for a machine who can purchase lives with coins, a life becomes a mere store of value. A gun that can be paid for, much as a rich angel feels any law with a fine is a price. We think of V1 as a hero, but it is simply a one percenter of a more privileged variety. mankind, perchance.

Idk if it's because I'm autistic, but I'm a person with very, VERY specific political opinions and almost no one shares my ideology, everyone I know has disagreement with me in almost everything so having left wings or right wings friends was never a problem for me (unless they did something I didn't agree with)

But I've met people that broke up with their partners because they voted for different parties, and that's something that I can't understand no matter how much I think about it.

So yeah, how much does politics influence your relationships?

Idk if it's because I'm autistic, but I'm a person with very, VERY specific political opinions and almost no one shares my ideology, everyone I know has disagreement with me in almost everything so having left wings or right wings friends was never a problem for me (unless they did something I didn't agree with)

But I've met people that broke up with their partners because they voted for different parties, and that's something that I can't understand no matter how much I think about it.

So yeah, how much does politics influence your relationships?

I think that the main problem in this sub is that they analyze eastern media the same way they analyze marvel movies, without understanding the cultural and religious context.

Let's be honest, 99% of this sub is just anime stuff, at this point this sub could be called "r/animewritescaling" and nothing would change.

There's nothing wrong with that, at the end of the day we're just people having fun and all, so it's fine.

But if you ask me, I really wish people in this sub were able to read Buddhism subtext as they do with Christian subtext, especially considering that a lot of animes (especially shonen ones) have some form of Buddhist references/messages behind but people in this sub only care about religion in a series when it's Christianity.

Every time an anime has biblical references (like evangelion or CSM) people treat it as the second coming of Christ and make 20k posts talking about it and glaze it as the best thing ever.

But when you try to analyze the scene where Gojo literally ascends and says "through heaven and earth, I'm the honored one" as a Buddhist reference people will say:

"Ermmmm what the sigma are you talking about bro 😂 we all know that JJK it's just hype and aura moments 67!!!!!"

Like, you can't properly analyze the writing of JJK without having AT LEAST a little bit of knowledge of Buddhism without making a nothing burger.

The six eyes, the heavenly restrictions, yuji character development, domain expansion hand signs, Mahoraga concept and design, the cycle of curses, Mahito CT, etc.

And I just used JJK as an example because it's my favorite animanga of all time, but the same can be said about Naruto, bleach, hunter x hunter, and much more.

I'm not saying that you should glaze anything just for having a religious subtext behind it, but if you want to properly talk about the writing of an eastern series, you should remind yourself that you aren't watching a Marvel movie and have a little bit of knowledge of its cultural/religious context, otherwise you're not sharing anything meaningful.

"We should prioritize the mental health of people with disorders/mental illness!! Depressed people's feelings matter! Suicidal people's feelings matter!! BPD people's feelings matter!!

But, if you're the loved one of someone with a mental illness, don't you even DARE to think about your stupid feelings, who cares about how you feel? If someone tells that they're suicidal, just listen to them and do everything they say! It doesn't matter how you feel about the situation! Their feelings matter, not yours!"

Look, I have no problem with all this mental health movement awareness yabadaba, and yes, mentally ill people obviously matter.

My problem comes when people completely ignore the opinions and feelings of the loved ones of a suicidal/mentally ill person (say, their partners, parents, friends, etc), and think that just because someone you love has depression (example), you should do everything you can to obey what they say and help them.

Why do people criticize someone who doesn't want to deal with the outbursts of someone with BPD? Why do people criticize someone who doesn't want to deal with a suicidal person manipulation? They don't matter anymore?

We're not psychologists or therapists, no one should leave their mental wellbeing just because someone they love has a mental illness, sorry suicidal folks, but the world doesn't owe you anything!!

I see this only A LOT, when people online complain or vent about having to deal with these kind of people and the comments say stuff like "imagine how they must feel".

Dude, you know that not only people with disorder suffer right? You know that people with disorders aren't the only ones that have to work on their mental health?

I had to live through this when I asked how to leave my suicidal ex girlfriend in another sub because I can't tolerate weak people, and they told me that I was an asshole and a bad person, why? Because my feelings didn't matter and I had to do everything I could to help her even if I didn't want to or if that affected my mental health.

Gosh, it's so annoying.

When debating the topic of suicide or assisted suicide, I always see a word that is mentioned without exception, usually by people who is against it, and it's the word "selfish".

One of the main arguments against suicide is that killing yourself is a selfish action because you're traumatizing the people that loves you permanently, and this means that suicide should be seen as the last option or not even considered.

A lot of people agree with this, and many of them are or were suicidal, this surprises me because apparently is a convincing argument for both sides of the discussion, pro's and antis, but for me this argument means basically nothing for the sake of the debate, it doesn't matter if you're pro suicide or anti suicide.

But let's answer the question first: it's suicide a selfish action? Yes or no?

Welp, the answer is clearly yes.

According to the Collins dictionary of English, suicide means: "someone concerned solely with their own needs, benefits, or welfare, often disregarding the rights or feelings of others. It typically implies a lack of consideration for others and is used to criticize actions motivated by personal gain over the common good."

If we think about it, suicide fits in this definition because is (almost always) a decision made for the benefit of the person that acts, they usually want to escape from an anguish situation or an intense feeling.

Of course, this isn't always the case, some may do it for the sake of others thinking things like: "if I was dead the world would be better" or stuff like that, but most of the time this isn't the main reason at least.

Now, the reason why I don't think that this is an important factor when talking about suicide is because the intrinsic nature of suicide is selfish, just like everything we do for our own sake.

When we're discussing rights (in this case, the right to die), we always do it with the impression that it's for the benefit of the individual, rights are inherently selfish because they're things that we do for our individual desires (mostly).

If I want to have a kid, build a house, or start a business, the common reason behind it isn't to help others, but to receive a benefit without thinking about the others.

If I want to get a tattoo, I'm not thinking about the potential risks of it or if it will bring something good to society, I'm just thinking about getting a tattoo because I want to.

This is an example of something we do because it's selfish, but I've never seen someone trying to make tattoos illegal because it's selfish, who cares?

When we're talking about rights, we think about how it could benefit the person that acts on that right, not about the indirect damage that it brings.

You may say: "b-but the difference is that suicide brings pain and suffering for the people around the person that killed themselves!! Getting a tattoo or building a house doesn't have negative consequences for the others right?"

Ok, this is an interesting argument, but if you're against suicide because of the potential trauma and pain that it brings to the loved ones of the individual, you might be against these examples as well:

-a woman getting an abortion when her husband doesn't agree..

-an individual becoming atheist in a religious household.

-a person leaving their country, family and friends in order to seek better economic stability.

Etc, etc, etc...

I doubt you're against all these three examples, you know why? Because no one cares.

Till this day, I don't understand why the right of dying is the only right where we take in EXTREME consideration the feelings of the others and not the feelings of the person making that right.

Selfishness is completely irrelevant when we're talking about a self-made action that involves only one person, we all agree that the desires or someone about their own life and body should always go first, why we don't apply this to suicide?

For anyone who doesn't know the context or doesn't remember: (https://www.reddit.com/r/aspergers/s/E2PZz323YZ) this is my first post.

Yes, after a week of doubting it I (23 ASD) finally had the courage to leave my girlfriend (NT 24), it crushed my soul but I had no other choice.

The most important thing here is that I convinced her to go to therapy, she had a meeting with my psychiatrist and now she's taking medication to deal with her anxiety, I couldn't be more happy for her.

Cutting the bond was the hardest part, I talked with my therapist about this first, and he told me that I wasn't obligated to be in a relationship with a suicidal person as long I make sure that she's taking care.

Talking with her was extremely difficult and I don't want to go into many details on how it went, but yeah, I guess she understood and she promised me that she was going to work on herself.

She doesn't seem to want to keep in contact with me but I get it, I hate myself a little bit for doing it, but I would have hated myself more if I stayed with her, it's a really difficult situation for me because, deep down, I didn't want to do it.

I wanted to help her out and improve her situation by staying together, but I just couldn't betray the people I was helping for years in my job, I just can't.

There's a kid with autism like me in the place I work in and he has one of the hardest lives I ever heard from, he was severely bullied in his school, abused by his parents, and he clearly has signs of ID.

However, I never saw him cry or give up, let alone talk about wanting to die, idk how he does it but he's one of the strongest people I've ever known.

If I stayed with my partner, I can't even imagine how he would react, what would be the point of trying and not giving up if someone who had an easier life than him receives more help for not trying and especially from someone like me? Someone he trusts? All his efforts were in vain after all? I can't even think about it.

So yeah, that's all, if anyone has a tip or has experience in dealing with a breakup that would help, thanks.

I'm (23M ASD) facing a problem with my partner (24F NT) in a topic related to mental health (I guess...), and I'm not experienced in dealing with these kinds of problems, so I'll be glad to hear any advice especially from people who have dealt with suicidal individuals.

My girlfriend told me yesterday after having dinner at a restaurant for our 8th anniversary that she had serious suicidal thoughts for quite a while, and that she didn't want to go to therapy because she knew that she could count on me, I was shocked because that was a heavy weight that I wasn't ready to lift and because I decided in that moment to leave her, zero doubt, and I didn't know how to do it if I was the only thing holding her back.

I want to make you know that this isn't because I don't want to deal with her problems or because I'm a bad boyfriend, I DO want to help her out and make sure that she receives the help she needs, unfortunately, for a matter of personal values, morals, and political ideologies that I follow, I'm unable to stay in a relationship with a suicidal person **like her.**

I know that this will hurt her, it hurts me a lot as well and I wish I could keep our relationship together, but I can't...

Even if I understand if she doesn't want to keep being friends with me, I love her as I always did, and that's why I want to prevent her from doing anything stupid.

So, if anyone else dealt with a suicidal person before, I'll be glad of hearing your advice on *how* can I keep an eye on her and make sure that she don't do anything drastic.