u/Prudent_Yam_3708

I know this is a stereotype for INFJs, but I wondered if some of you actually pursued this career path and whether you're happy or regret it. In general, I'm interested what your attitude towards it is.

I personally fell in love with psychology when I was in high school when we had the subject for the first time and realized I've always been interested in understanding human behavior.

Luckily, my parents supported me and I first studied cognitive psychology (B.Sc.), then cognitive neuroscience (M.Sc.) and now I'm towards the end of my PhD in developmental psychology. I honestly never thought I'll get to a PhD level because I wouldn't say I'm very scientifically oriented, but now I've grown to like doing research and I'm even considering a PostDoc. The downside is that if I pursue that route, the only option for me would be to become a Professor, which is almost impossible to do where I currently am and I also don't see myself being one.

On the side, I've started a logotherapy course (still got 2 years left out of 4 to finish it) and I absolutely love the philosophy behind this type of therapy. Funnily enough, I ended up attracting clients who are the exact opposite of what I wanted - essentially people like my parents who have communication problems and are either separated or going through a tough time.

All in all, being a psychologist and a therapist is not what I expected, and although I was frustrated at first with how things are, now I'm beginning to enjoy doing what I do and I'm hopeful for the future.

Hey,

So I work as a therapist and from time to time I would ask my clients if they want to do a personality test. So far I've used the Sakirnova one and Mistype Investigator, but I wanted to ask if you know of a better one I can use for my work?

Thanks a lot!

Hey fellow INFJs,

I was wondering what your favorite video games are and why? Trying to see if there is any connection between our cognitive functions and preferences for games.

My personal ones are:

Bioshock (all parts + DLCs)

Dishonored (all parts + DLCs)

Horizon Zero Dawn (still haven't played the rest but will)

Darksiders (mainly part I and II)

Mass Effect (all parts)

Final Fantasy VII + Crisis Core (I love Zack)

Mortal Kombat

Far Cry 3

Assassin's Creed (not all)

Fable III

The Spiritfarer

Don't Starve + Don't Starve Together

Mystery Case Files (especially the early ones, like Ravenhearst)

There are probably more but I think that's sufficient for now.

What's up with the fetish of pairing an aloof INTJ guy and a totally chaotic ENFP woman in literally every single Korean comic or K-drama and other popular media?

I really need more variety beyond the grumpy x sunshine trope when it comes to those types. 🫠

I'm writing an INTJ character and I'm interested in how your thoughts work from the inside, so I can successfully portray things from his POV without adding any of my INFJness.

For example:

• When you're alone, what are you usually thinking about?

• Do you think in words, images, concepts, patterns, or something else?

• When you're solving a problem, what does that process feel like internally?

• Do you have a constant narrator in your head, or is it quieter than that?

• How often do you rehearse conversations or analyze past interactions?

• What kinds of thoughts occupy your mind when you're stressed vs relaxed?

I know we share Ni but the Fe vs Te really makes things messy, so I'm trying to understand what your experience is like rather than how INTJs are typically described online.

Bonus question: does anything change internally when you've fallen deeply in love with someone and if yes, what is the change?

Thanks. ♥️

To those who have seen Steven Spielberg's new movie, what do you think the main cast's types are?

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I couldn't find anything on Personality Database, so here we are.

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For me, the clearest ones were Noah Scanlon (INTJ) and Hugo Wakefield (INFJ) because their conversation at the house was a very clear NiTe vs NiFe argument.

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As for the rest, I have zero idea. I would've said Daniel Kellner is INTP because you know, cyber security guy, but then he struck me as Fi-coded. Margaret got weird halfway through, so I can't really type her.

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Any ideas?

I really don't understand why I'm like this - every now and then I would get obsessed with a book that would completely drain me emotionally and mentally.

This time the culprit is Daughter of No Worlds by Carissa Broadbent.

I cannot think about anything else, everything around me is gray and boring, I have no motivation to do anything other than to think about the book, the world, the characters, replaying specific scenes, etc.

Is this a book hangover? How do I get rid of this condition and how do I start the second book if I know it'll lead to the same? T_T

Just describe the moment and why it made an impact on you.

EDIT: ok, please name the books/series but use the spoiler tag!

Holy cow, what a journey! I loved every bit of it so much. Taking a short break and then continuing with book #2. ❤️

I just wanted to mention the most memorable moments in the book for me:

The chapter that I loved the most: #26, where >!Tisaanah describes beautifully hers and Max's intimacy in their routines together. Might be vanilla for some, but for me it's peak romance!!<

The chapter(s) that made me cry: #41, where >!Reshaye killed Max's family (I'll never recover from this) and #78, where Max dreamt of Kira forgiving him.!<

The chapters with the most tender, sweetest moments: #17, where >!they went for a swim and he saw her scars,!< #27, where >!Max gave Tisaanah the butterfly necklace!<, and obviously #62, where >!the two claimed each other in the tent (poor Sammerin).!<

The chapter that WTFd me the most: #72 and the following ones, where >!Tisaanah just went mad with Reshaye, especially since I didn't really understand what she did with Reshaye's powers.!<

Can I also just say that I was honestly shocked how >!morally grey Tisaanah turned out to be?!< I can't decide if I'm liking it (those b*stards deserved everything they got) or if I'm cautious to form an opinion (I like her goals but I don't want her to lose herself completely).

I am halfway through book one and I am utterly devastated after reading what >!Reshaye did to Max's family!<. I literally cried and I honestly don't remember a book dealing so much emotional damage before.

Did anyone experience the same because I am honestly NOT OKAY and I need some support and understanding. T_T