How to connect with culture without family?

Hello 23 F FNQ here 👋🏽
I am on my own.
This year I finally gathered enough courage to cut my entire family out from both sides. It’s another story but I am my family’s scapegoat and for my mental health & wellbeing I had to remove them from my life.
But that doesn’t mean I’m going to deny myself my culture. My Nan has the knowledge about our mob but doesn’t share it. Her excuse was always now’s not the right time or I need to organise the information. She’s a hoarder but after 20yrs of hearing that you start to suspect that’s bullshit.
I never understood why she could never just share basic knowledge with me. Like it wasn’t until last year when I was 22 that I learnt the name of my mob & it appeared everybody else in the family knew for many years. My intuition says she’s gatekeeping that knowledge. Whether that’s true or not, I’ve grown tired of waiting, I want answers & now that I ain’t putting up with their shit, I’m gonna get them. I gotta do everything myself 😂

I grew up isolated from mob so for me the only indigenous people I would interact with are my family and the indigenous people at school which wasn’t many cause I went to a private catholic school. I’ve spent most of my life in predominately white environments. I’m sure that’s normal but whenever I go to an indigenous event like naidoc I feel like an outsider. I can’t connect…
Anyways, I’ve been reading a few books about culture & indigenous autobiographies.
Following indigenous content creators on social media, follow groups on Facebook, etc…
I’ve heard about walking on country programs but I haven’t heard any insights about them.
There’s apparently courses online or you can study Indigenous studies at university?
I’ve only had a brief look because I don’t know how to go about this.
I’m thinking about leaving my job at the end of the year & try become a ranger for an indigenous company or program. Is there any mob in FNQ that would help me or just have a conversation with me. My Nan and half my cousins know the indigenous people in my area, they know the family names, but I have no idea who’s who.
This is a cry for help so I would really appreciate any information that can point me in the right direction. Thank you kindly

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u/PsychologicalFox5783 — 9 days ago
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Another broke person vent

My partner and I, both 22, can only afford groceries, rent, fuel, rego, mobile data, & $8.99 prime video subscription.

We don’t have friends which is fine idk how you can afford to have any atm.
We work and spend all other time at home because we can’t afford to go out. This is obviously depressing so instead of paying to go out it’s cheaper to buy a little bit of alcohol to numb yourself, have a cheap streaming service subscription & stay at home. We’re struggling with our mental health and keep relapsing on 🍃 every 3 months for almost the last 2 yrs. We will be on 🍃 for a month before we get the courage to try quit again. We’re just jumping between copying mechanisms to stay sane & I’m sick of this pattern. I’ve stopped using my car & just walk everywhere now, I can’t afford to use it & keep maintaining it. My partner uses it for work & essential driving otherwise I’ve given up being a car owner in my mind.

We’ve been living in a granny flat at the back of a shared house for almost the last 2 yrs with no luck of finding somewhere else we can afford & is a proper home.

We eat the same foods, we both skip breakfast but I’ll have a vitamin in the morning. My partner mostly eats the $1 tuna cans everyday for work and I’ll take the $1 single yogurt packets for work. We really are only having one meal a day, dinner but that’s a mix of the same 3dishes: frozen veggies/salad, chips, & either chicken kiev, steak, or sausages. We’ve got a garden going so soon we can eat from that.

I’m not saving anything. I have gone months without basic appliances like a microwave, chopping boards, I HAVE BEEN SITTING ON A F*CKING BROKEN TIOLET SEAT FOR MONTHS!! I can’t do anything about it. Living week to week. A hamster in a wheel, moving but getting no where. I’m 22, I don’t want to be home all the time 😞 I want to go out.
Im slipping away & the high cost of living is breaking me down.

I live in Australia btw

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u/PsychologicalFox5783 — 2 months ago

Anyone else living like this?

My partner and I, both 22, can only afford groceries, rent, fuel, rego, mobile data, & $8.99 prime video subscription.

We don’t have friends which is fine idk how you can afford to have any atm.
We work and spend all other time at home because we can’t afford to go out. This is obviously depressing so instead of paying to go out it’s cheaper to buy a little bit of alcohol to numb yourself, have a cheap streaming service subscription & stay at home. We’re struggling with our mental health and keep relapsing on 🍃 every 3 months for almost the last 2 yrs. We will be on 🍃 for a month before we get the courage to try quit again. We’re just jumping between copying mechanisms to stay sane & I’m sick of this pattern. I’ve stopped using my car & just walk everywhere now, I can’t afford to use it & keep maintaining it. My partner uses it for work & essential driving otherwise I’ve given up being a car owner in my mind.

We’ve been living in a granny flat at the back of a shared house for almost the last 2 yrs with no luck of finding somewhere else we can afford & is a proper home.

We eat the same foods, we both skip breakfast but I’ll have a vitamin in the morning. My partner mostly eats the $1 tuna cans everyday for work and I’ll take the $1 single yogurt packets for work. We really are only having one meal a day, dinner but that’s a mix of the same 3dishes: frozen veggies/salad, chips, & either chicken kiev, steak, or sausages. We’ve got a garden going so soon we can eat from that.

I’m not saving anything. I have gone months without basic appliances like a microwave, chopping boards, I HAVE BEEN SITTING ON A F*CKING BROKEN TIOLET SEAT FOR MONTHS!! I can’t do anything about it. Living week to week. A hamster in a wheel, moving but getting no where. I’m 22, I don’t want to be home all the time 😞 I want to go out.
Im slipping away & the high cost of living is breaking me down.

I live in Australia btw

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u/PsychologicalFox5783 — 2 months ago

Hi, does anyone have good recommendations on Online Social Media Content Creation courses to study?
Or can recommend a good rto that provides the Diploma of Social Media Marketing or similar?

There’s a lot available from diplomas, dual diplomas/certs, and workshops/ short courses.
Im trying to find ways to make more money (shocker ik) and im thinking about starting a cosmetic tattooing business or keep being a part time dental assistant and do social media content creation. Either way it is a good idea to pursue marketing because i will eventually want to do for my own business.

So I’m interested in marketing as a side hustle doing social media content for businesses and design websites plus I want to upskill in video editing and photography.
I’ve signed up for Business Victoria that has a few free shorts courses so I’ll trial them out.
RMIT and Jellyfish training are over $1,000 for the diplomas which im sure there’s cheaper options available.
I’m aware you can learn online for free by watching yt videos but I want a proper qualification that I can show businesses.

My adult learning college has bad reviews but the social media dual course sounds smashing so that’s a shame. Anyone have experience with them?

Any advice helps thank you

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u/PsychologicalFox5783 — 2 months ago