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For those that have had a successful TTC month after your TFMR, how many cycles did it take? And what was your cycle like?
They say cycles can take a while to stabilise but I have seen stories on here who had positives quite quickly. Did you manage to get a positive with a wonky cycle?
Looking for stories of hope during this dark time. Deciding when to TTC is very difficult at the moment 💔

I am writing this post because I want to share some experience of terminating due to mental health.

I ended a planned pregnancy because I was completely hit with anxiety and depression from my positive pregnancy test. I tried my hardest to push on but unfortunately I couldn’t, I have two other children to consider. I spoke to midwife’s who referred me to a perinatal team but the waiting list was so long where I am based, I was unable to see them.

I mean how scary is it that a pregnant vulnerable women can access abortion care quicker and easier than mental health support.

I spent every day crying, I didn’t recognise myself. I hated everything about my life and what was planned. It was an incredibly dark time.

I am now 7 weeks post surgery and I can hand on heart say I’m the worst I have ever been in my life. The termination didn’t change anything and it made me worse. I have so much regret and guilt, I feel so unworthy and struggle to see any hope for my future. all I can think of is having another baby but it’ll never replace the baby I lost.

I guess the reason I am posting, is if you are in this situation I’d really suggest trying to seek urgent help. I wish I had done more for myself, and I wish others around me who knew had also done more. I wish I had just dialled for an ambulance or something to make it clear how mentally poorly I was.

I hope nobody has to face the pain I do now. It’s a really rare category to be in, and even now post termination I’m still struggling to find the right kind of care.

Hi all. I know a lot of people TTC post their TFMR. I’m not planning on TTC yet but I feel like my first cycle is slightly abnormal. My LH readings are lower than I’ve ever had before and my temp is still up and down. I think a lot of that is due to stress which I’m trying to work on. But I wondered, did anyone here have unusual cycles and still go on to conceive?

Hey! I know this is TTC but if there is anyone on here who has had success, can you share your BD chart? Thanks! X

The arrival of my first period post surgery has came with an array of emotions I wasn’t expecting. I feel like I’m getting worse, and struggling to see any positive going forward.
Due to this, I’m struggling at the idea of ever wanting to be able to TTC again.
How did you navigate and manage your TTC journey? Did anyone else find they got worse before getting better? Although I know I’ll never be fully happy again 💔
Health anxiety is peaking and I can’t imagine how I’d enjoy a pregnancy, how I’d feel sure that I’m deserving of a healthy baby etc. it’s all very negative thoughts for me right now.

Has anyone in the UK requested access to their paperwork? I believe it is meant to be signed off by 2 doctors, yet I don’t recall ever seeing a doctor. I’d be interested to see this. My termination was due to poor mental health, and I’m not sure this was ever assessed by a doctor.

I tracked my cycle post TFMR and caught a peak. Today I’ve started my 1st period, which is leaving me with a 10 day luteal phase. That’s not usual for me, normally at 13 days. Did anyone else experience this?

Unfortunately my TTC journey has been a really rough one since 2022. I had a LC pretty easily back in 2015. I then naively thought my next child would come easy again, but it took a lot longer than expected. 1 Misscarriage in 2022, 2 in 2023 and finally a LC in 2024. The longest it took to fall pregnant was 9 months between miscarriage 1 and 2.
I then fell pregnant end of 2025 but that sadly ended as a TFMR earlier this year. That pregnancy was a shock, easy conception (a one time try) on peak day and it worked. I was 32.

I am now 33 and scared, worried and anxious about the thought of TTC again. Mainly because I’m scared to have miscarriages again or having to do TTC for months on end. I’m not sure when I’ll feel ready but I feel like my age is against me.

Part of me thinks if I could get pregnant from 1 try at the age of 32, why do I feel it’s impossible now I’m 33.

has anyone else felt these struggles or had a rough journey like this? How have you coped?

I’m 5 weeks post my termination. I find weekly my thought fixation changes, I’ve had weeks where I’ve just felt complete regret, weeks when I’ve craved another baby and most recently my mind is CONSTANTLY replaying the procedure. I’m slowly coming to terms with having to have the termination but my mind is currently thinking of the procedure (d&e).
Some of my thoughts are: what must the doctors think of me, what did the baby feel, why did someone else get to see my baby and not me, the logistics of the procedure itself.
Did anyone else feel like this?
I completely hate myself because my thoughts are just so negative.
Just to add I am seeking help, therapy etc. I’m just at the very start so my emotions are completely messed up right now.

Since my TFMR, I have the most intense feelings that I’m going to be punished for this decision. It’s like my gut is telling me I’ll never be able to get over this and go on to have more children. Does anyone else feel like this?

Id be interested to hear of people who felt like this and went on to have children too. How did you handle it?

I’m not TTC and won’t be any time soon as I’m trying to recover mentally but these thoughts are constantly in my head. (I am in the process of getting therapy so will raise it here).

I also feel like no matter what happens in the future, I’ll never get that baby back and that breaks me down daily.

Struggling to see how I’ll ever not be heartbroken. 💔