Husband vent
I cannot do this. I'm drowning trying to do all the house work and care for our 20 month old and newborn. He doesn't do any housework unless I ask him and he forgets half the time. I need more than help than folding laundry once a week and taking out the trash once a week. He just leaves his mess behind, plates and cups on the table. He stacks the dishwasher incorrectly. He just lets our 20 month old get into the closest with our books and makes a mess even though I ask him not to.
I know he'll agree to help and he'll genuinely feel guilty for me drowning like this when I tell him when he gets off work. But in this exact moment I'm drowning and I can't scream my frustrations because that would frighten my babies. I know he'll start helping around the house but I hate that I have to ask him. Why can't he just do it? Why does this have to be a conversation? I have to either sacrifice sleep or eating or actually spending time with our kids.
He plays on his computer for practically the entire time after he gets home except to eat dinner with us. He works a stressful job and I dont say anything because he needs to decompress but fuck. My decompress time is a 30 minute shower. I know things are gonna change but why do they need to? Why couldn't he just fucking see things are bad and that I need help and then fucking do them.