u/Puzzled-Plate1641

Im a woman in my early 30’s and have been dating a guy in his late 20s for about a year now. Im self employed and earn great money. I have no kids and can afford vacations every other month. My Bf works for a call center and has been on vacation with me a few times but can’t always come because of work.
After my last vacation he made a big deal that I take too many vacations and I should tone it down. I told him that it’s not his problem and it’s not like he pays for them.
We don’t live together and he doesn’t pay for any of my expenses. I’m 100% independent and have never asked him for a cent.
I told him if that’s how he feels then I don’t think we are compatible anymore and we should see other people. Friends and family told me I took it too far and over reacted. He’s been calling me so much that I had to block him. AITA?

I, (31 Female) rejected my friends (30 male) marriage proposal.
To give some background my friend and I met on tinder during Covid. He was visiting some friends in my city and told me on our first date that he didn’t live in my city and he lived in another state. We hung out everyday when he was here and he bonded over common interests and had very passionate love making sessions. Then after a month he had to go back home.
I visited him in his home state 2 months after he left. We had a great time but, at the end of the trip he told me he didn’t want to pursue a relationship with me because of the distance. I went home heartbroken but I understood and moved on.
He disappeared not to long after that. I then met my husband and got married and I’m very happy. A few days ago I got a text from a phone number I didn’t recognize. After texting back and forth I found out it was my friend. He asked me how I was doing I explained I was married ect, he apologized for disappearing he explained that he was in a relationship and lived with his girlfriend and that’s why he couldn’t stay in contact with me. He told me his gf wanted to get married but he didn’t because he didn’t feel what he felt with me and regretted losing me.
He relocated for work and now only lives 12 hours drive from me and proposed marriage and life together with me. I told him I’m already married and he told me to divorce my husband and he will give me the life i deserve. I stuck to my guns and refused. He got emotional and told me I was hurting him and he regrets losing me. AITA?

I (31 female) have taken away my friend’s (28 male)only means of getting around.
My friend and I met on a dating app around 2 years ago. We were living 700 miles apart at the time. He’s originally from a different country and came here as a refugee and has no family in the states.
1 year into our friendship he was fired from his job and lost his car,house, phone and everything. At first i added him to my phone plan and he was to pay monthly for the phone once he got a job. He was working doordash and uber to make ends meet at the time. Then his doordash account was deactivated because he violated the T&C.
He couldn’t find a job where he was and I told him to come to my hometown and I can give him a place to stay and help him find a job.
He drove the 700 miles to my city. I put him on a property owned by a relative that let him stay there to have some there to avoid squatters from taking over the property. Then I lent him the money to get a special license to get a job.
Then a few months later i upgraded cars and let him use my old car until he was able to buy a new one. So a few months go by he backed into a fence and damaged the car, he stopped giving me money for the monthly insurance, he stopped giving me money for his phone payment. He stopped getting oil changes on the car. He refused to pay to have the brakes fixed on the car and I got to a point where I felt like I was feeling taking advantage of. His excuse is that he has to send money to his family back home and doesn’t have the money to help me.
The breaking point was I offered to pay for the oil change and to meet me at the shop. I was 10 minutes late picking him up and when I showed up he was ignoring me and sent my calls to voicemail. I honked for him to get in the car and he looked at me then continued to ignore me.I lost my patience and decided go in the shop, pay for the oil change and told the shop owner not to give him the keys.
I came back with my sister to pick up the car and he’s been calling me threatening me to give him the car back. He’s left voice messages calling me vulgar names and I better fix the brakes and give the car back. Should I call the police get a restraining order? Did I overreact by taking the car away?
AITA?

I (31 female) have taken away my friend’s (28 male)only means of getting around.
My friend and I met on a dating app around 2 years ago. We were living 700 miles apart at the time. He’s originally from a different country and came here as a refugee and has no family in the states.
1 year into our friendship he was fired from his job and lost his car,house, phone and everything. At first i added him to my phone plan and he was to pay monthly for the phone once he got a job. He was working doordash and uber to make ends meet at the time. Then his doordash account was deactivated because he violated the T&C.
He couldn’t find a job where he was and I told him to come to my hometown and I can give him a place to stay and help him find a job.
He drove the 700 miles to my city. I put him on a property owned by a relative that let him stay there to have some there to avoid squatters from taking over the property. Then I lent him the money to get a special license to get a job.
Then a few months later i upgraded cars and let him use my old car until he was able to buy a new one. So a few months go by he backed into a fence and damaged the car, he stopped giving me money for the monthly insurance, he stopped giving me money for his phone payment. He stopped getting oil changes on the car. He refused to pay to have the brakes fixed on the car and I got to a point where I felt like I was feeling taking advantage of. His excuse is that he has to send money to his family back home and doesn’t have the money to help me.
The breaking point was I offered to pay for the oil change and to meet me at the shop. I was 10 minutes late picking him up and when I showed up he was ignoring me and sent my calls to voicemail. I honked for him to get in the car and he looked at me then continued to ignore me.I lost my patience and decided go in the shop, pay for the oil change and told the shop owner not to give him the keys.
I came back with my sister to pick up the car and he’s been calling me threatening me to give him the car back. He’s left voice messages calling me a dog and a prostitute and I better fix the brakes and give the car back. Should I call the police get a restraining order? Did I overreact by taking the car away?
AITA?