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I took analysis my senior year but took calc 3 my sophomore year so might not get calc 3 credit. same for lin alg 😭💔 are they usually lenient w replacing the major requirements w/ grad courses?
am i cooked
I recently came across a post about consulting clubs and was surprised that being a pretty girl gets you into those clubs.
Does pretty/attractive(?) privilege really take a big part of club applications (like quant IB consulting etc)? Also how attractive does one need to be in order to experience this “pretty privilege”?
I am currently a high school senior, an immigrant from South Korea who is living in the United States.
My friends tell me that their Asian parents compare them to me, so I would like to share my POV.
I will assume that everyone here knows vaguely how toxic Korean parents are—especially the ones who are Korean natives.
Korean kids are forced to stay in “Hagwon” until 1AM, all on top of required schooling. All your youth is measured in what college you got into, your Korean SAT score, and many other “numerical” results that do not reflect your personal growth whatsoever.
I am proud to say that I adapted pretty well to the environment, partially due to my passion towards academics/competition, but I want to also admit that although my achievements were quite impressive, I had to compromise my emotional growth that should have happened around that age. I could not grow up at all until I moved to the United States. Academically? Awesome. House life? Oh, fucking awful.
I was inevitably socially awkward when I first got to the United States. Getting bullied and socially isolated for more than 3 years now, I have already given up being like all the other girls at my school who talk about concerts that they are looking forward to, the boys that they are interested in, etc. No driver’s license, no car (duh), no friends because they are somehow ALWAYS horrible influences, no boyfriend even at college. They are following me to my out-of-state T10 college. Got beaten up when I told them I am choosing my state school (also T10 and the best in the world for my major, how funny) over the school I am committed to now because I want to be independent for once.
So, getting to the point, I want you to just know that the kids that your parents compare you to are going through just as much as bullshit you are going through. Wearing makeup (yes, got beaten up), wearing contact lenses (yes, got beaten up + attempted but got made fun of instead of getting any help), even taking math courses at a local university were big hurdles for me to overcome.
My homophobic, sexist, racist, punchy, and never apologizing Asian parents would never EVER understand how I felt getting robbed of my childhood. Being a high level athlete, smartest kid in the class, fairly outgoing, speaking 4 languages, and trying to be a kind person only ended up in them yelling at me for 3 hours just because I had my bag open.
Yes, I probably should have gotten help. If you can, PLEASE seek help. Trust me, that will do you better in the long run. My parents banning me from the school therapist(…) also played a HUGE role in me not being able to think about bad things.
I am writing this post to tell my fellow Asian sons and daughters that you are not alone—and just in case you are conparing yourself to the kids that your parents compare you to, they are not as perfect as you think.. Being a “person” at the end of the day is nothing about being better or worse than one another.
I hope EVERY SINGLE ONE OF YOU have a great day :)