Sometimes I feel like people expect physical intimacy before there’s even emotional connection, trust, or commitment. And if you’re not comfortable with it yet, they act like you’re “too much” or “old fashioned.”
Am I the only one who still wants emotional security first before getting physical?
Please share your thoughts
Because honestly, as someone in my 20s, if I date someone I want it to be for the long term. But sometimes marriage genuinely scares me, especially in countries like Nepal and India. Even now, dowry expectations are still so normalized in many families. And if the bride’s family can’t meet those expectations, the girl is often the one who suffers. What scares me more is that this doesn’t only happen in uneducated families anymore. Even women from well-educated families end up getting harassed, abused, or worse by their in-laws. It makes me wonder if love is really enough when marriage starts involving family pressure, money, status, and control.
Does anyone else feel anxious about marriage lately, or is it just me?
My ex recently came back saying he wants to try again. But during the conversation, he also said he doesn’t really have strong feelings right now and believes that starting physical intimacy early would help rebuild emotional connection and trust between us. I honestly didn’t feel comfortable with that. I told him I’d rather take things slow and focus on rebuilding emotionally first before anything physical.
After I said that, he got upset and said he needs space/a break now. I’m feeling really confused because I don’t know if this is just two people having different ideas about how to restart a relationship, or if it’s actually a sign that this isn’t a healthy way to approach things.
Part of me feels guilty, part of me feels like I did the right thing, and part of me just misses him and doesn’t know what to think anymore.
Has anyone dealt with something like this? How did it turn out?
My ex taught me a lot Like how to spot red flags faster than WiFi.