u/Quiet_Barnacle8073

Male, 24, very lean and fit.

Workout I have put together.

3x A Week Muscles

Ts, Ws, Ys @ prone 2x10

Lat Pull Down 12x3

Chest Press 12x3

Low Row Seated 12x3

Set up box 15x2

Hip Bridge 10x3

Leg press 12x3

Pullover 3x15

Shoulder Press 12x3

Planks 60 seconds x3

3 sets of pushups (around 25)

Hanging Knee Raises 12x3

Dumbbell lateral raises 12x3

Added 2 Days of Cardio (average 7.5 km/h) around 30-45 minutes

And eat little, healthy and protein based.

I just watched a portion of 'The Iced Coffe Hour' podcast where Dr.K was featured on. I feel like I am super close to getting how to be happy / at peace but I am just missing the last bits of information. Maybe ya'll could enlighten me :).

As far as I understand Dr.K was explaining that some people have everything they desired, and after finally achieving all desires they realise that it didn't fulfill them and give them happines. The guy from the podcast goes on about a burger he likes and that for a few seconds he feels at peace and happy for having the burger and eating the first bite. After the first bite he doesn't have it anymore and it's gone. Meaning the desire has been fulfilled and now the next thing needs to be obtained in order to be happy. Dr.K also explains that he at first didn't get how someone who does heroin keeps doing it as it was ruining every part of his life. But the drug addict said that when he does heroin it was the only moment he felt good, aka, some sort of "happy" / fulfilled / at peace.

So what I don't fully get is how to achieve happiness in every moment without it being fulfilled by desires. For example I love playing guitar and I have a desire to be good at it and want to make great music. I know that I get some fulfillment if I do a good job at it and if others like it too. Those are two desires of mine. I know that it shouldn't matter if I am good at it or if others like it, but it seems that I truly want that. So first of all, how do I let go of that?

I'll answer myself. I let go if it by realizing that even if I was the best guitarist, singer in the world it wouldn't make me happy. Even if I got all the acclaim by other people. After, let's say a few months, would I still be happy? Probably not. The effect will have run out after a while. This gets to the point that if you fulfill a desire it won't make happiness last. It's temporary.

I think Dr.K is saying that you don't need to fulfill your desires, it's cool to strive for things cus it's fun to do but the outcome shouldn't matter as much. Also if you try to find happiness it won't work cause you desire happiness, you should know that within you happiness is always there. So is the answer to all this that I should simply acces that? The happiness from within? This brings me to my question. How do I do that? How do I acces it?

Letting go of desire? And accepting life as it is? And finding joy in everything? Even suffering? How do I acces this state of peace / not having to fulfill desires? Do I in every moment think I don't need anything to be happy? Whatever I do I already have it?

I don't know. That's the only answer I don't fully get yet. Maybe I answered it myself already, but maybe not. I don't know. If any of ya'll know, let me know. Thank you and good night.