u/Quirky-Blacksmith268

Hi everyone,

I’m trying to figure out what would be a fair amount to ask my baby’s father to contribute and I want outside opinions before I decide.

We have an 11-month-old daughter. She lives with me about 90% of the time. I’m currently not working because Im in an ABSN program.

Her father works in New York City and makes around $70K–$90K per year. He does not have her often (very limited overnights). I currently receive Medicaid for her (no monthly cost), and I need her to start daycare soon full time which would be around 1500

I’ve been trying to figure out what would be fair to ask for monthly. I don’t want to overask, but I also want to make sure I’m not underestimating what she needs. I also want us to continue our good relationship. I hear horror stories and I do not want to go thrh courts so pls no suggestion of that.

From what I’ve researched, I’ve seen numbers anywhere from about $700 to $1,100/month depending on income and time-sharing, but I’m not sure if that’s fair. I have a lot of support and I have been living off of money saved from the time I was working and pregnant. (He was not) I also never have asked him to contribute anything. He has though about 3000ish over the 11 months.

What would you consider fair in this situation?

Thanks in advance for any advice.

i’m in between two job offers one that’s 62K in Florida. I have a 10 month old daughter and family in Florida right now. I don’t pay rent. I’m with my mom or 100 K in LA. California. My daughter would have to stay with her father for a while, which he is OK to dobut I would have to relocate pretty fast but it’s a good part of LA and I could grow there and I’ve been wanting to move because I don’t wanna grow complacent. but I would be by myself. Reddit What do you think?

TLDR, single mom of 10 month old daughter. Choosing between 62K in Florida versus 100 K in LA California. Support in Florida no support in LA but more growth in LA less in Florida.

Edit: the job in la is in century city. the dad lives in another state but he would take her for the summer and we share custody. the la job is hybrid and the fl is fully onsite, regardless of which she has to go to daycare

Another edit: i’m 24 so idk if an opportunity would come around like this again