u/RachmaninovWasEmo

I hear a lot of manifestors and coaches talk about how you "shouldn't" try to communicate with someone you are wanting a change from in the 3D and to only go inside. There are some big misunderstanding about this topic I see from people and I want to clear it up and bring some dang grounding to the manifestation community so that you don't feel like you have to operate in a way that feels almost inhuman and when you SHOULD and when you SHOULDN'T try to get what you want through participation in the 3D. There's multiple facets to this that I will go over.

The other day I casually clicked on a LoA short on YouTube and heard the coach say, "never communicate with what you want in the 3D to your person. Go inside and do it because otherwise all you'll get is ego ego ego."

And yes, that can be an experience when we believe the POWER comes from our interaction with the 3D, but how limiting of a statement is that? Someone can't possibly have healthy communication with a partner in the 3D? That's absolutely not true. People do it all the time. I'm sure YOU do it with certain people in your life and just not others.

We are living a human experience and most of us are going to desire to have a stereotypical, human relationship with someone. It is perfectly normal to desire healthy communication with your partner or a friend or whoever. And guess what, you can manifest just that. You can create the belief "me and my person always work out issues with healthy communication and understanding for each other." And if that's what you will believe, you will have that experience. You have every right to desire that experience.

Here's where manifestation comes in to play when it comes to communicating problems to people in the 3D:

1.) You keep hitting a roadblock with them in communication. Maybe they are doing something that is hurting you and you wish they'd do it differently. They keep disagreeing with you and not seeing your point of view. That's a signal that something inside of YOU is not allowing them to see your perspective or change their opinion to match yours, apologize, etc. You have two options. You can:

A.) Create the belief that they will just change the behavior, you don't have to say it to them, they are just now this person who does this thing in the way that you prefer.

B.) Create the belief that next time you guys talk, they will finally see your point of view, apologize, learn from their mistakes and make the change. Maybe this is the bridge of incidents for it to happen? Who knows?

I've personally done both ways and it all just depends on what am I desiring. Do I want validation from my person before the change happens? Or do I not care about validation and just would be satisfied with the change happening on its own. Its all up to you! You are ALLOWED to experience validation in your 3D. You dont ALWAYS have to be this detached wizard morphing your person to preform like a little puppet without saying a word. Don't limit yourself to having to have a conversation but dont feel like you're not allowed to have that experience either. You can have ANYTHING you want to experience and don't let anyone tell you that your desire is "limiting" because its not coming from some omnipotent POV. For me personally, I had a childhood filled with invalidation, so it FEELS very good to me to have validation in my experiences. I'm giving myself something that is important TO ME. Its no different that giving myself the experience of travel because I was often stuck inside a lot growing up.

**You are allowed to desire basic human experiences. Even as a manifestor.**

Maybe someday you'll move past wanting these things, maybe not, maybe a combination of experiences like me, who knows? Whatever you desire is right for you. 👍🏼

Here's the other time where manifestation comes in handy when you are wanting a change in your person behavior:

2.) Maybe its not something they are doing that bothers you because its "wrong" in your eyes but maybe it is a neutral "immutable" characteristic that they have that you want to change. We are conditioned to believe that certain things about people's personalities can't be changed and we shouldn't try to change them. Maybe they're gay and you wish they were straight. Maybe their favorite color is blue and you wish it was green. These are the times its really handy to go inside your imagination and change your idea of who they are so they can reflect what you want.

For example: Let's say your person hates the color blue but you love they way they look when they wear a blue shirt. Instead of trying to convince them to wear blue when they dont want to or instead of settling for them never wearing blue, just go inside your imagination and start imagining that they love the color blue and that they are wearing it. I literally did this the other day with my person when it came to the new color of car that they bought. I didn't have to say a word in my 3D. And now he owns a car in the color I imagined and loves it even though a week ago he was saying he hated cars that color.

I find most of the time for things I view as neutral opinions they have that I want changed, I dont really care for any validation, I just simply want the thing to change and so I will imagine it and then it will happen. If they do something I feel is wrong, that's usually when I want to experience validation in my 3D bc it feels good.

I see a lot of high and mighty people in this subreddit that almost get caught in this spiritual psychosis where they're like "if you're not coming from your highest godself, you are doing it wrong and your desire is wrong."

I always think to myself "wow what a boring life to only allow yourself to have things YOU deem as "pure and godly" enough yet here you are, frustrated, trying to convince people in the 3D on this subreddit that they are wrong instead of just going inside your imagination and believing they agree with your limited viewpoint."

Oh the irony....

No, you're allowed to have a cheeseburger. You don't always have to have some enlightened spiritual green power smoothy for your dinner. Thats the whole point of this life, to exepreince all different KINDS of things.

This has happened with every guy I've been with. They say they like one thing but act another way in the bed and I feel like I'm the only one who experiences this...

For example, my boyfriend won't really do that much to be in bed. Fuck me really hard, yanking my hair slamming into me, I tell him what I like and how I'd like to do it (don't get me wrong, I sometimes like it rough but I like variety, you know?) But he seems to just revert back to this. He tells me if I go slower he will get soft.

YET.... he never cums when he's doing it like this and he actually cums really fast and seems way more turned on when I'm slow and sensual with him. I feel extremely gaslit because every fucking man proclaims to just love this rough, deratched, degrading sex, yet it never seems to actual turn them on that much and they literally tell me how much it "turns them off" to do it slow and sensual, yet when I do, I can feel their energy being intensely turned on and cum way faster and in fact, the ONLY way my boyfriend cums is when his face is close to mine, he's going slower and there's some romance/sensuality.

What the fuck is going on. Every fucking guy I've been with is like this.

My 'F/28' boyfriend 'M/28' have been in a relationship for 2 years. We live in America and were both born there. He speaks Spanish as his native language but also speaks English fluently (and actually knows more worcs in English too). He wants our kids that we have someday to speak only Spanish at home until they start going to school at age 5. I only speak English fluently and while I'm happy to learn Spanish for him and my kids, especially so I can participate in their conversations and have it be integrated, I'm going to want to speak to my children in English as well.

I dont mind also using Spanish. But there's terms of endearment that I grew up with and ways I like to explain things that I know would feel more comfortable for me in English so that I can express myself in a way that makes me feel most connected to my kids. I told him I highly encourage the idea of them learning both English and Spanish at the same time since small children tend to have an easy time with that and I suggested that putting them in a Spanish immersion school where they speak half English half Spanish would also help them stay fluent. I just dont wanna sacrifice my ability to connect with my children by being able to express myself in ways I grew up with.

My grandma and father would speak some French to me as well so I might even incorporate a little bit of that. And that's also why I understand his fear because I was the first generation in my family to basically speak no French aside from a few ways of addressing people or terms of endearment, colloquialims etc. But yeah, he seemed very disappointed about this and I could tell it upset him. I think what I said doesnt take away from his desire for our kids being able to speak fluent Spanish. I'm happy to make sure that this is a priority, but it seems like he doesnt see that these are my kids too and I don't understand why he doesnt see that we can easily have both? I am a person who sticks to my word and have proven that many times. I don't know what else to say as I've already told him basically everything I outlined in this post.

TL;DR: My boyfriend isn't okay with us speaking both Spanish and English to our kids before they go to primary school so they can be fluent in Spanish even though English is my Native language. I told him they can learn both at the same time and he isn't satisfied with that.