u/RaeOfSarcasm1

Just need to vent for a minute.

I’m 14+4 with an untested IVF embryo and recently found out we’re having a baby girl. Our NIPT came back low risk, and honestly we’re over the moon. We already have a daughter from a spontaneous pregnancy, and we went through IVF for secondary infertility to have this baby.

I know I’m probably extra sensitive right now, and pregnancy hormones definitely aren’t helping, but something my dad said today really got to me.

I love my parents and we are very close, but sometimes they can say things that come across as insensitive without intending to be.

Today my dad asked how my husband felt about the baby being another girl. The way he said it made it sound like he expected my husband to be disappointed that we’re not having a boy.

Maybe I’m reading too much into it, but it honestly hurt.

After infertility and going through IVF, the ONLY thing either of us care about is a healthy baby. That’s it. We could not care less whether this baby is a boy or a girl. Hearing someone ask if my husband might be at all disappointed by this baby that we already love SO deeply just made me sad. It felt especially tone-deaf after everything it took to get here.

Anyway, thanks for letting me scream into the void.

I work at the site level and have noticed a newer trend from industry sponsors that I haven't really seen before in my 6 years in clinical research.

Several sponsors have started asking for planned PTO/vacation schedules for research team members, sometimes looking as far as 6 months into the future.

I'm curious about the rationale from the sponsor/CRO side?

It seems a bit inappropriate to be asked for employees' future vacation plans, leave, ect. especially that far in advance.

Just posting because I'm feeling really nervous about my OB appointment tomorrow at exactly 12 weeks. I graduated from my IVF clinic at 7+3 and my OB got me in 3 days later at 7+6 for my first appointment with them, so I haven't seen baby in about 4 weeks. I've been feeling absolutely miserable with nausea so I'm hoping everything is going well in there.

With my first baby, I ended up exclusively pumping for the same reason a lot of people do; baby wouldn't latch. I started pumping in the hospital to help establish my supply, fully expecting she'd eventually figure out breastfeeding, but she never did.

The problem was that I ended up with a pretty significant oversupply. While there were definitely some benefits to that, it also caused a lot of headaches. I dealt with clogs constantly. I got pretty good at clearing them, but honestly, the juice wasn't worth the squeeze.

This time around, I already have a scheduled C-section and I'm anticipating needing to pump at least some in the beginning to help my milk come in. Looking back, I had absolutely no idea what I was doing when I started pumping the first time, and I suspect that's a big part of how I ended up with such an oversupply.

Knowing now that supply doesn't really regulate until around 8–12 weeks postpartum, what can I do from the start to avoid creating a large oversupply if I end up on the EP path again? Any tips or things you wish you'd known?

8 w + 3 d and the nausea is kicking my butt. I was nauseas with my 1st pregnancy (natural/ not IVF) so I was expecting this to some degree, but this feels worse. Last time it lasted until about 15 weeks so I know I could be in this for awhile longer. My doctor gave me Zofran but I'm only taking it when absolutely necessary because it causes such horrible constipation, acid reflex, trapped gas, you name it, so I'm just trading one symptom for another. I'm on PIO and estrogen until 12 weeks, so about 1 more month. Is there any hope that when I stop these medications I will feel any better?