Just curious- what embryo grading and day resulted in your IVF baby? Was the embryo also pgta tested?
Curious because we had five total embryo transfers and the last one was the one to stick. It was a 7 day embryo, non tested.
Thanks!
Hi all
Wondering if there’s anyone else who was in the same boat.
We had our first dating scan (6 weeks 5 days) and baby was measuring behind 4 days (6 weeks 1 day)
The clinic seemed cautious about this. I don’t think it was an ultrasound measuring error because their heartbeat was a perfect 123 bpm. Correlating with a 6 week 1 day size and beats.
The cautious comment from the clinic has resulted in a lot of anxiety. One thing I should mention it was found it at this scan the single FET split and we were on the path to having twins but one is a blighted ovum. I’m wondering if this may have caused a delay?
I feel rather anxious because they are so specific with their dates and certainties
Any similiar stories would be great
For context this has been a rough start with a pretty hectic SCH & my last FET was a MMC at Christmas so naturally I’m a bit razzed about it all
Thanks so much 😊
Spoiler, I know it's probably never.
My husband and I went through IVF due to his balanced translocation (1;7) and severe oligospermia. No factors on my end, though I've never been pregnant. We were lucky enough to get 4 embryos (D5: 3AA, 3AB; D6: 6AA, 6BA) that all PGT-A+SR tested euploid and normal, meaning not affected by the BT or carriers of the BT. My first FET with the D5 3AA was successful.
My first beta at 12dpt was 839 mIU/mL, and my second beta at 14dpt was 2384 mIU/mL. At my 6w3d scan, everything was measuring normal and heartbeat was strong. At my 8w4d scan, everything was still measuring normal and heartbeat was still strong. I got my NIPT results back and everything is low risk.
I'm currently 10w6d and everything up to this point has been textbook, including all my labs. My NT scan is scheduled for 12w2d.
Why can't I relax?
I just keep doom spiraling. What if PGT-SR was wrong and despite an UBT only having a 1-2% chance of a live birth, what is the baby has an UBT? What if the baby has a totally different and rare chromosomal issue? What if there's a random developmental error?
IVF has turned me into a bit of a monster when it comes to researching outcomes, and I guess because things have gone well, I keep wondering when my "luck" is going to run out. But I fear this may never end and I'll spend my entire pregnancy fixating on worst case scenarios.
I know there isn't going to be a magic answer to this feeling, but it would help to hear how others have navigated these types of emotions, what helped or what didn't.
What’s the worst thing you’ve been told while going through IVF? maybe a colleague, a loved one or friend. What’s the worst thing they’ve said when trying to ‘support’ you? Let’s have a laugh.
A friend with 3 children said to me ‘You think IVF is bad, I have triplets. How do you think I feel?’
’Well if it’s not part of God‘s plan, it wont happen for you.’
Have you tried tracking your temperature?
It’ll be worth it.
I'm 6 weeks pregnant and woke up this morning to a lot of cramping and bl**ding. I completely freaked out but managed to get in to see our clinic. They did find a heartbeat, which was a relief, but the doctor seemed concerned about how much there was. I've been told to rest all weekend, and I'm trying to, but the stress is overwhelming.
This is our first positive pregnancy after trying for so long, so I'm doing everything I can to hold onto hope and think positive thoughts. Just looking for an outlet for my stress.
Hi all.
I am on my 7th (PGT-A tested) embryo transfer, after trying many, many, many things. We finally think we found a rare issue in the embryos, and have put one in that didn’t test positive for that.
Tomorrow will be 6dp5dt. I plan to home test, as it is 98% accurate (my doctor confirmed this, but always has me do a beta on 8dp5dt anyway of course). But I feel no symptoms. NOTHING. I need stories of people who also felt nothing but then tested positive. I need this hope to get me through the night. Please help! Thanks in advance.
all I want is to work out and HAVE SEX WITH MY HUSBAND!!!!!!!!!!
But of course I live in constant fear.
Hi everyone,
This might be an unpopular take, and I’m not trying to criticize anyone — I’m genuinely curious if others experience this.
I’m an IVF mom. Our journey included miscarriages, 3 egg retrievals, 4 transfers, and now we finally have our baby. We were not listened with our first IVF doctor, gaslit and did a lot of our own research. I trust myself and my intuition. I also have a health care background.
We are absolutely over the moon our baby is here! I genuinely feel so grateful for even the hard parts of newborn life — like being able to say “we didn’t sleep last night” and feeling happy about it.
But I’ve noticed something that’s been bothering me socially since becoming a mom.
When I talk to some of my non-IVF mom friends, I feel like I can’t just share an observation without it turning into advice or reassurance I didn’t ask for.
For example:
I said breastfeeding seems to be going well because my baby is burping after feeds, and I immediately got a reminder about the importance of burping babies. I wasn’t asking — I was just sharing how things are going.
I mentioned how intense the Instagram algorithm becomes after having a baby and how it can feel a bit overstimulating, and it turned into reassurance about postpartum anxiety and “you’re doing everything right.” And it just seemed like the convo flipped like they thought I was having anxiety….
What I actually notice in myself is that I’m not feeling anxious in those moments. If anything, I feel pretty grounded. The hardest part for me was getting here — not the day-to-day newborn experience.
I’m starting to wonder if people hear “IVF mom” or “new mom” and assume I’m fragile, overwhelmed, or looking for reassurance when I’m not. We also have an extremely good baby so far.. so maybe I’m the one who can’t relate?
Has anyone else experienced this shift after having a baby — where normal conversation gets turned into advice-giving or emotional check-ins instead of just… listening?
Would love to hear if this is common or if I’m just noticing a change in how people interact post-baby.
Hi,
I'm 4 days in from my fresh embryo cycle. I am really struggling with waiting the 2 week period as this was my only embro this time around and they said it hadn't grown as much it was a grade 2, after 5 days blasto.
How early can I take a pregnancy test. I'm not getting any symptoms apart from the mild period like cramps. (Still taking cyclogest 3 times).
Unexplained Infertility- all genral test came back fine.
Last year I had 10 eggs only 3 made it 1 fresh transfer 2 frozen, all negative results.
This year had 8 eggs only 1 survived but not grown much. dependant on this one we have now decided after 10 years to close the chapter on having a baby if this doesn't work.
No OB appointment until almost end of 12 weeks. I'm told that's still within timeframe to do NIPT.
My IVF doctor wants me to stop all hormones at week 10.
That'll be almost 3 weeks without ultrasound or lab work, I'm super anxious.
How did it go for you guys?
I'm considered high risk but don't have my first OB for a few more weeks. Did you guys wait until you saw OB or schedule your own MFM visit?
Good morning all. I am 5 days past my 6 day transfer today. I took an at home pregnancy test (I know I should not have) and it’s negative. Did I test too early? I told myself tomorrow I’ll get a positive test. Has anyone else been through this? Maybe it is too early?
Just need to vent for a minute.
I’m 14+4 with an untested IVF embryo and recently found out we’re having a baby girl. Our NIPT came back low risk, and honestly we’re over the moon. We already have a daughter from a spontaneous pregnancy, and we went through IVF for secondary infertility to have this baby.
I know I’m probably extra sensitive right now, and pregnancy hormones definitely aren’t helping, but something my dad said today really got to me.
I love my parents and we are very close, but sometimes they can say things that come across as insensitive without intending to be.
Today my dad asked how my husband felt about the baby being another girl. The way he said it made it sound like he expected my husband to be disappointed that we’re not having a boy.
Maybe I’m reading too much into it, but it honestly hurt.
After infertility and going through IVF, the ONLY thing either of us care about is a healthy baby. That’s it. We could not care less whether this baby is a boy or a girl. Hearing someone ask if my husband might be at all disappointed by this baby that we already love SO deeply just made me sad. It felt especially tone-deaf after everything it took to get here.
Anyway, thanks for letting me scream into the void.
8DPT Negative
For context this is my 2nd transfer on 2nd cycle but first fresh transfer. I had a first cycle but FET and have birth to my now 10 months old son.
I got lucky the first transfer and everything worked for me. During my TWW i had a positive on 4DPT. Soooo this time round, I was expecting an early positive but no.
I think im out this round and feeling so sad about it. My embryo was a very early blastocyst grade 3AB. I had so much hopes as my son was a grade 3AC.
I thought I'm strong enough for this. Im 42 and want to have a second child fast as my age is creeping up.
What do you guy suggest? Should I go for another transfer right away? Or should I wait 6 months to grieve and prep the body?
Or should I go for 1 more egg retrieval and I only have 1 embryo on ice. 😭😭😭😭😭
Was there anything early on that made you believe that you were carrying twins?
Like when you were testing did your lines show up dark very early on if you tested before your beta?
When you got your first beta what was your HCG levels?
Or were you guys completely unaware until your first ultrasound and then almost hit the floor??
Asking for a friend. I'm the friend.
How did you all manage work travel?
I have a work conference coming up where I will be interacting with 100 or so people. There will be socializing and dinners after the meetings. It is 5 hour domestic flight. I am not concerned about the air travel but I am concerned about getting sick. I will be around 15-16 weeks at that time.
I am 40 and it took me 10 years to get pregnant and this probably my last chance as we don’t have any Euploids left.
Hi everyone! Currently 3dp5dt and itching to test!! When did you get your first positive?
Emotionally, I’m feeling really good! Just excited to see if this cycle is finally it for us. Sending you all so much love and baby dust! 🥰
I have two kids (8&3) and one on the way due 9/1. Baby number three will be an elective induction because I had one with my second at 39w5d due to him measuring large and it was so smooth and stress free. With that said, this is my first IVF pregnancy and I’m worried about going to 40 weeks. I’ve been down the Google rabbit hole of complications, c-sections, placenta issues, still birth, etc. I’m 35 and so I know that puts me at a higher risk. I have a growth scan at 33w with the MFM so I’m sure they’ll look at the placenta at that point. My OB will do weekly no stress tests and ultrasounds starting at 36 weeks. Ideally I’d like to be induced late 9/1 so she can be born 9/2 as that’s the school cut off date for our local school district. I really would prefer her to be on the older side of the class than the younger. Our district doesn’t allow holding kids back a year so that’s not an option. I’m just wondering if I’m putting myself at a huge risk being induced at 40w0d and having her 40w1d. Any similar experiences would be really helpful. My OB doesn’t have a problem with this plan but now that I’ve read all the things I’m worried it’s a poor choice.
My beta for my 3rd FET came back today at 72. I had a MMC last transfer and my beta was 230 so a huge difference.. should I be concerned? My clinic said anything over 50 they consider good at this point. I had some slow progression which concerns me..
Thanks x
Hi! I am 12 weeks this week and my midwife has suggested I start a low dose aspirin. She told me it’s to prevent preeclampsia, so I understand the why behind her suggesting it, but I like to be fully informed on things. She didn’t go into any detail other than that, so in addition to doing my own research, I also wanted to ask here. Are there any risks associated with the low dose aspirin? Any experiences - good or bad - from taking it?
** I want to add some of my hesitation comes from spotting during the first few weeks or early pregnancy and having asthma - both things she kind of brushed over when I asked about it and was like “it’s fine”.