u/Ramauna

1. No one nags at me

2. I can put toilet roll on the dispenser whichever way I like

3. I can order uber eats without anyone judging me

4. I get full 9 hours of restful deep sleep im so grateful

5. I can leave whenever I like without notifying anyone

6. I don’t have to do unexpected emotional labour; I only manage my own, no one else’s bad mood can infect me

7. I can use the bathroom whenever I like

8. I can organise my place the way I like it even if it makes no sense

9. I can buy full cake and eat it really slowly without worrying about it being gone and really just eat the amount I want each day

10. I can adjust the AC to whatever I like without someone telling me I’m wasting money

11. I can have shower in the dark with door open so small amount of light comes through so i can still see, it’s actually very peaceful

12. Again what I’m most grateful is my full 9 hours of sleep

13. No one questioning if I’m angry at them cos of my resting angry face

14. No one asking me if they can eat my leftovers which I clearly packed away so I can eat it the next day

But yeah I just have to say I truly truly love living alone, I’m truly grateful and appreciative. The pros weigh over the cons for me

Hi guys

Im sorry if this has been asked before,

I am just trying to figure out if centrelink considers me as home owner or non home owner.

I have IP with my sibling but I don't have PPOR so I am renting.

I just want to see if I went above or below asset limit.

Thank you

Hi guys, last night I had a bit of breakdown after my mum pressured me to find someone and settle down. Earlier this year, I told her that I will have child on my own but it seems that it went over her head. When she pressures me with finding a man to settle down with, it does two things. One, it feels she doesn’t support my smbc choice and two, it dismisses how hard I did try to find a partner to have family with last 10 years (I’m 31). Now I no longer have any interest in pursuing a relationship. And her being from different generation, she just can’t seem to understand how hard it is find right person and cannot see how fulfilling this smbc pathway can be.

I think I’m just stressed out from work, ex appearing out of nowhere to say goodbye cos he’s moving countries and all the research of doing ivf and being a bridesmaid to two best friends, seeing how their life is so mainstream and noticing how different my choice is and how it is a bit isolating, it all just tipped me over the edge when my mum pressured me to settle down when she normally didn’t used to before.

I guess I just needed a place to vent here and please feel free to share words of wisdom. I’m going to see my psychologist on Monday luckily and just work my thoughts through

I’m feeling quite burnt out at work, constantly staring at a screen 8 hours a day doing very difficult cognitive work most times. I work from home which is a silver lining.

I’m not sure if it’s just me but when my parent pressure me to find someone and settle down (I’m 31), i just get so overwhelmed. I just kind of cracked it today and yelled at her that I’m at my limit and I don’t have the energy to think about those things.

I feel invisible pressure to adhere to that script and though I will like those things in my life, I’m genuinely baffled that my parents think I can take more on my plate. And they make it sound like it’s easy thing too which adds to my frustration.

I’m just trying to take it and make it in the way that I can right now and I think the burn out and this invisible thread that feels like it’s pulling me to my chair and my work desk, I just really detest it and feel so trapped.

I guess I’m just wondering if anyone is in similar shoes and how you are handling it, thank you

Hi guys, i have been planning on going smbc for a year now and will start very soon and I have definitely decided to remain single during the last year. My ex whom i dated for 2 years who I considered a very serious relationship where we discussed kids and were trying for kids reached out to me yesterday to tell me he is moving to another country. I told him we broke up 2 years ago and not sure why he felt he needed another conversation to end things in a positive way etc (we ended it on bad note). I guess it just made me feel a bit like it took me back to the break up and the grief. I guess for those who chose to go via smbc after a huge heartbreak, did the sadness of heartache all disappear once you held your baby and everything about the break up/him got irrelevant?? I was already in a good mind space to do smbc, but this grief just got reintroduced very unnecessarily and I guess I am just looking for reassurance. I am hoping I will get over it in few weeks hopefully. Thank you