0 relationship , + l'infini situationships😪
I wanted to share my experiences and ask for some honest advice because I feel like I keep repeating the same pattern.
My first situationship happened when I was 3 ème lycée . I really liked this girl, and we had a lot in common. I confessed my feelings, and she didn't reject me. She said she liked me too, but that we needed more time to get to know each other before starting a relationship.
The problem was that, in my mind, I already treated us like we were a couple. I texted her all the time, bought her chocolates, and gave her a lot of attention. At first she was responsive, but over time her replies became slower. Looking back, I think I was overwhelming her. Eventually, she told me that she didn't think we should continue or pursue a relationship because I wasn't giving her enough space and my affection was too intense.
So, in a way, the relationship that existed only in my head ended before it had even started in real life.
Then, during my freshman year at university, I met another girl. This time, she was actually the one initiating most conversations. She would send me reels, ask me to hang out, and invite me to study together.
I wanted to learn from my previous experience, so I decided not to confess my feelings too early. I thought it was better to take things slowly and let us get to know each other naturally. But every time I considered expressing how I felt, I kept telling myself, "It's not the right time yet."
Eventually, various problems came up, things faded, and we stopped talking. She later made it clear that she didn't want to continue or pursue a romantic relationship.
In both situations, even after being rejected, I found it very hard to let go. A part of me always wanted to keep trying, hoping that if I just put in more effort, things might eventually work out.
Now I'm wondering if I'm making opposite mistakes. The first time I rushed things and was too intense. The second time I waited too long and never expressed my feelings.
Has anyone else experienced something similar? Do you think there's a pattern in my behavior that I'm missing? I'd really appreciate honest feedback, even if it's something I might not want to hear.
( Both of them and any girl that I knew said that I m nice guy , helpful , Gentil.... Mais l we9a3 I got rejected each time 0 relationshop..)