
Those who have undergone therapy for infidelity, what have you gotten out of it?
My D-Day was a bit under four months ago. It was one incident that I hid from my partner over the course of our three year relationship. BP does not want contact with me following this, and reconciliation is not on the table. One of my takeaways soon after D-Day was that I don’t want to ever hurt an intimate partner like this again, both for their sake and for my own. I’ve been intent on seeking out a therapist that’s capable of covering infidelity so I can better understand my behavior in the past and so that I have more confidence that it won’t happen in the future. Unfortunately, I’m in a position where I won’t be able to afford therapy for a long time now, which is fantastic given that I’m at the lowest point of my life.
I wanted to ask my peers in this subreddit what you've gotten out of infidelity therapy, what’s helped you or surprised you or anything that you feel is worth sharing. I’m not expecting any kind of therapeutic treatment/healing, but I’d love material that will get my brain jogging prior to beginning my own treatment, whenever that may be. I know I can Google it and get answers too, but I always like hearing from others in the moment more than I like Healthline.com articles (and I do like Healthline.com articles).