u/ReceptionBetter4933

I’m 21M and I recently broke up with my girlfriend, and since then I’ve been having a really hard time figuring out what I’m supposed to be doing with myself.

The breakup itself has been really difficult. I went from having someone I talked to every day and shared basically everything with to suddenly feeling like I’m completely on my own. I don’t really have anyone in my life that I feel like I can genuinely talk to about how I’m feeling, so most of the time I just keep everything in my head and deal with it by myself.

On top of that, I’m not doing well in school. I don’t feel motivated toward my degree, I don’t know what I want to do for a career, and I don’t really feel passionate about anything. I see other people my age who seem like they’re building careers, making friends, finding things they care about, and moving forward with their lives, while I feel like I’m just existing without actually going anywhere.

The only real exception is soccer. I genuinely love playing. When I’m on the field, it’s one of the few times where my brain actually shuts off and I’m completely focused on something. I look forward to games and I care about improving, but obviously soccer alone can’t give me an entire direction in life.

Lately everything has just started to feel pointless. I wake up, go to work or deal with school, go home, distract myself with whatever I can, sleep, and repeat it. Sometimes I genuinely feel worthless because I look at my life and don’t really see anything that I’m particularly good at or anything that I’m working toward. I know logically that I’m only 21 and I have a lot of time to figure my life out, but knowing that doesn’t really make the feeling go away.

The breakup made all of this hit me at once. Before, even when other parts of my life weren’t going well, at least I had my relationship and someone I loved to come home and talk to. Now that’s gone too, and I’ve realized how little I have outside of it. It feels incredibly lonely.

I don’t want to spend the next few years just drinking, playing video games, scrolling through my phone, or doing whatever else I can to avoid thinking about how unhappy I am. I want friends. I want something I’m passionate about. I want to actually care about my future and feel like I’m building toward something. I just genuinely have no idea how to get from where I am now to that point.

Has anyone else reached their early 20s or really any age and felt like their life had absolutely no direction? Especially after losing a serious relationship? How did you start rebuilding your life when you didn’t really have a support system or even know what you wanted?

I’m not necessarily looking for some perfect answer. I think I just need to hear from people who have been in this kind of place before and eventually made it out.

I’m 21M and I recently broke up with my girlfriend, and since then I’ve been having a really hard time figuring out what I’m supposed to be doing with myself.

The breakup itself has been really difficult. I went from having someone I talked to every day and shared basically everything with to suddenly feeling like I’m completely on my own. I don’t really have anyone in my life that I feel like I can genuinely talk to about how I’m feeling, so most of the time I just keep everything in my head and deal with it by myself.

On top of that, I’m not doing well in school. I don’t feel motivated toward my degree, I don’t know what I want to do for a career, and I don’t really feel passionate about anything. I see other people my age who seem like they’re building careers, making friends, finding things they care about, and moving forward with their lives, while I feel like I’m just existing without actually going anywhere.

The only real exception is soccer. I genuinely love playing. When I’m on the field, it’s one of the few times where my brain actually shuts off and I’m completely focused on something. I look forward to games and I care about improving, but obviously soccer alone can’t give me an entire direction in life.

Lately everything has just started to feel pointless. I wake up, go to work or deal with school, go home, distract myself with whatever I can, sleep, and repeat it. Sometimes I genuinely feel worthless because I look at my life and don’t really see anything that I’m particularly good at or anything that I’m working toward. I know logically that I’m only 21 and I have a lot of time to figure my life out, but knowing that doesn’t really make the feeling go away.

The breakup made all of this hit me at once. Before, even when other parts of my life weren’t going well, at least I had my relationship and someone I loved to come home and talk to. Now that’s gone too, and I’ve realized how little I have outside of it. It feels incredibly lonely.

I don’t want to spend the next few years just drinking, playing video games, scrolling through my phone, or doing whatever else I can to avoid thinking about how unhappy I am. I want friends. I want something I’m passionate about. I want to actually care about my future and feel like I’m building toward something. I just genuinely have no idea how to get from where I am now to that point.

Has anyone else reached their early 20s or really any age and felt like their life had absolutely no direction? Especially after losing a serious relationship? How did you start rebuilding your life when you didn’t really have a support system or even know what you wanted?

I’m not necessarily looking for some perfect answer. I think I just need to hear from people who have been in this kind of place before and eventually made it out.