u/RegaultTheBrave

I will start by saying that this isn't an overly common phenomena, but over my years on the internet I have encountered multiple guys who claim that being short is this horrible crippling thing for their dating prospects, and that they will never be in a relationship because of it.

It wouldn't be a peeve, if they didn't get so insufferable about it.

The evidence of my eyes shows that plenty of shorter guys are dating plenty healthily. I have close friends who dated ladies much taller than them. I have a close lady friend who dated and married a dude actually two feet shorter than her. It HAPPENS.

Yet the insufferable guy will exclaim loudly that those relationships are doomed to fail or some other stupid reason and that guys being short is them being turbo stunted in the "dating market".

Then I explain that my dad is 5 foot tall and my mom is 5'10" and then the goalpost shifts further to just raw luck or something else supremely stupid.

Idk it's just so insanely annoying because who tf are they trying to convince? It feels like they just want to feel sorry for themselves and blame anyone and anything but their own attitude and personality for their lack of success in dating.

And I unfortunately somehow find myself on the receiving end of this once or twice every other year and it's always an annoying experience.

Maybe my real peeve should be about myself, cause my idiot brain always feels like I can try helping bitter people feel better.

Stop it.

Holy shit.

I just wanted to vent that I am hurting because of X thing. I don't need you to explain every way you experience pain too, and compare it to mine.

Pain isn't a competition.

I don't think I have ever had a coworker who DIDN'T make me feel shitty for expressing that I want to go home early some days cause my chronic illness is acting up again, and I'm just so over the comparisons.

To this date, there's only been 3 total incidents, but I am worried it's becoming a pattern.

For context, we are not on speaking terms, and the last communication was over 8 months ago. They even went to the police and got a trespass notice against me for leaving a final note on their car after I found out they were cheating on me months prior.

About 2 weeks ago, my ex's mom showed up at my place of work (a thrift store) and watched me work for 5-10 minutes before leaving.

The second time was also the mom on Saturday, but I wasn't 100% sure it was her cause it was far away, but they were staring until the moment I noticed them directly, and then they walked away.

And today, the ex herself showed up and nearly ran into me and then went the other way and left.

I'm I being followed? Or are they just happening to be at the store at the same times I work and happening to be in the same area I work?? AIO??

This is especially brutal when you first start a job, and are already strapped for cash. I worked for two weeks, I would appreciate the money asap especially if there's any commute involved. I have to sink a bunch of money into even working the job before that paycheck arrives driving to and from.

There's plenty of situations where it extra sucks having the delay on your paycheck though. If you have to take unpaid leave, that paycheck is always just later than you expect and smaller than you expect, and if you work overtime for any reason, it's still annoying to have to wait that extra week before you can use any of it.

Anyways, I understand there's a bit on the logistical side, but I will always prefer the money coming in faster and it is annoying HOW long most companies take to pay you.

It peeves me to no end when you aren't understanding what someone said, and so you ask what they mean, and they OUTRIGHT REFUSE.

There's a couple ways it presents itself.

1. They just repeat the same thing over and over without changing it.

2. They say "I said what I said" and won't elaborate further.

3. When asking why something is the way it is, they respond "it just is that way".

4. They call you combative or argumentative when you ask for clarification.

5. In text based formats, they just tell you to re-read, but "slower" this time.

All of these fucking suck to be on the receiving end of, and I know there are plenty more examples. It's just frustrating, because if you werent understanding it the first time, then why the hell does anyone expect you to magically have perfect comprehension now with no elaboration???