My gf broke up with me

Baat shayd thodi lambi hai and ignore if I used 'my gf' instead of 'ex'🙂.

So we were together for 2.5 years

But I was just so madly in love with her

She didn't like when I pointed out little things like it is very common in couples arguing about small things,

Even on serious topics my perspective was to sort that thing out at the same moment by having h discussion because I didn't want any misunderstandings to create between us agar koi baat aaj ki h to aaj hi khatam karo

But for her it was a burden wo apne piece of mind ke liye 'leave it's ' chhodo' bolti thi and next 2-3 days rudely baat karti thi is liye mai zabardasti betha kr usse saari baatein clear karta tha because I knew agar hum in future alag hue to ye one of the major reasons mai ek hoga

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I didn't like her 2-3 friends because unme ek do meri cousins thi and they were my childhood bestfriends too

But I always thought of them as my sisters no other feelings but one of them idk she liked me as a man or what but she was always giving me hints even after I and her got into a relationship,

We actually met on 23 November 2023 and got into a relationship in 22 dec 2023 ik it's too early itni jaldi to friends bhi nhi bante log but we both got connected to each other so quickly idk how

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But after we got into a relationship my cousin started dropping more and more hints I didn't want her to feel any worry about any girl since she had no male friends and I had a couple of female friends from childhood,

So I gave my insta password to her and she gave hers to me too

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She read my chats with my cousin and it was actually impossible for thinking about anything like that with my own cousin so i thought maybe aisa karte honge kuch log but after almost 1.5 years she confessed about how she felt and I humbly apologized to her and after that I broke my connection from that cousin and that cousin also bi*ched about her so much with her bestie and when I came to know that I never talked once to her bcz i respected my gf so much that if anyone disrespects her no matter my normal friends or bestfriends i just stopped talking to them

But once when we(me, she my friend, and her two friends) let's say one of them was Z

So there was an issue of timings because Z had to go somewhere else too so she asked to change the timing at 2 pm and the actual plan was for 12pm

But Z ne meri gf and mere ek friend k samne use bola 'tu third person k liye dosto ko chhod rhi h' and us time meri gf ne bas 'abey yar' bolke baat khatam kardi i expected that she'll take a stand for me no she didn't and it happened around a year ago.

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Once when hume saath Mai 1 saal bhi nhi hua tha tab around September ke time one of her tuition friend let's say K told her to ask me about let say N

N is the guy who was in our school and when I was in 10th my friend got into a fight with him so i just helped the teachers to identify the people but is baat ko already ek saal hogya tha so I told her that 'han pita tha ye ek baar meri class se' because he was actually got beaten so badly but her friend instantly pulled her phone took a screenshot and sent it to her account and K was the bestfriend of N

And ye baat meri gf ne mujhe batai bhi nahi and nafis mere hi school k bahar bande lekr aagya and mere hi friends k saamne he slapped me 2 times

And it was my first time I felt so bad and idk agar koi dusra ladka hota to shayad chhod hi deta usi time but I bared the shame from that

But still usme khud se us baat ki apology nahi di unless I opened up about it

Maybe usne realise karne ki hi try nhi Kari

And in my opinion she gave her priority to her friends more,

We used to meet like every 2-3 months and kabhi hangout karna hota tha to when we were studying in school she used to bunk her school and mujhe to permission mil hi jaati thi

To wo apni friend saath laya karti thi humesha just to be safe but you literally meet her every day at least jis din mujhse mil rhi ho wo to din mere saath hi hona chahiye but she always run to her friend even kabhi bhi hangouts karte the to she just end up running to her friends

And I literally got slapped in public apne khud k friends k saamne i couldn't even talk back to my friends and when Z said me that way and in dono jgh ek friend common tha and even he used to feel bad about me because when Z insulted me i could've said back but I resisted myself because she was her friend

But still na usme stand liya aur na baad m aakr khud se sorry bola unless after a week I talked about it

But use is chiz k problem thi ki Mai yhi chize baar baar kyu bolta hu and I accept I said those things 3-4 times but not because I want to demean her i just wanted to make her realise how I actually felt because asi baatein bolne par bhi what I got in the name of apology was 'yeah sorry'

And kal when I asked her to remove her friend who was my cousin and almost ruined our relationship, and my gf always said that she didn't like her, she didn't even meet her nor she talks to her, i removed her from all my contacts just to prove that I'm not that type of guy who'll fall for anyone, but all I got was 'maine bola tha ye sab karne ko?'

Wo bhi tab jab i removed all my friends, bestfriends, and everyone who had the slightest problem with our relationship just because I didn't want ki koi relationship kharab kare aakr, and uska ye act dekh I said 'tumne humesha friends ko hi priority di apne' jispe wo gussa hogyi and she literally ghosted the chat

And uska har baar ka hi tha aisa kabhi uski galti hoti thi to koi explanation nhi di aaj tak I was the one who always begged, even jab saari galti uski hoti thi tab bhi apni chhoti se chhoti galti nikal kar uski maafi maangi just so ki chize normal hojaye, but usne to direct WhatsApp, snap se block hi kar diya i contacted her sister to tell her to text back and when she called her and the moment she said my name she hung up the call

And after a while I got this massage.

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Idk if I'm wrong here or not, should I make up with her again like i always used to? What do you think?

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I'm still waiting for her text idk if she'll change her decision or not

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'pata hai aaj kya hua' thanks for reading such a long story my brain is just disturbed since yesterday I hope you guys understand.

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u/Rehanyouknow — 2 months ago