u/Remarkable_Dentist52

hi! i'm 25, F and i have a boyfriend (26) and LDR kami for context: we are now together for almost a month na and we're kinda chill but lately kasi madalas siyang late magreply tas ako pag nagrereply sakanya mga 1 min, keri ko naman mag reply.

idk, nagooverthink ako dahil hindi naman siya madalas mag late reply and alam naman natin na ang number 1 rule sa LDR is communication. inopen up ko naman na sakanya yan and he acknowledged it pero, late reply parin siya. i mean kung hindi ako magdodouble message sakanya, hindi siya magrereply huhu

i had an ex before rin na ganyan na halos wala nang paramdam and it turns out may iba na pala siya. plus, im diagnosed with OCD and GAD kaya sobrang hirap saakin.

im trying my best na huwag mag overthink even sa small things pero i can't help it huhu.

yes, im very OA nga. siguro bigyan niyo nalang ako ng advice :((( thank you so much!!

problem/goal: nagstustruggle ang boyfriend ko when it comes to his mental health

context: hi! i need advice galing sainyo, i have a boyfriend and LDR kami. he lives in india, he's a good and funny guy at sobrang haba ng pasensya niya towards saakin. sabihin nalang natin na may pagka-green flag siya, kahit green flag siya it doesn't mean na perfect siya and i'm aware of that. saaming dalawa, ako ata ang red flag. bakit ko nasabi iyon? i was diagnosed with OCD and GAD this year before i met him, sinabi ko ito sakanya nung nagkakilala na kami na i have this struggle and hindi siya madali kaya sobrang open ko sakanya if may episodes ako and he's willing to listen and gave me an reassurance.

going back to my problem, these past few days kasi may times na hindi siya nakakapag message saakin. gets ko naman na may ginagawa rin siya sakanila pero minsan inaabot na ng 3 hours na walang paramdam, kung magpaparamdam naman siya minutes lang tas mawawala ulit. para bang ghosting ganon, so i confronted him; sabi 'ko sakanya if busy siya or hindi siya okay, pwede naman nya sabihin saakin and maiintindihan ko. alam naman natin na ang number 1 rule when it comes sa LDR is communication. naacknowledge naman niya ang mali and he will try daw. so, napatawad ko naman siya.

pero kahapon lang, doon na ako na-trigger. tinanong ko siya kung okay lang ba siya nung una sabi nya hindi, so hindi ko muna siya slightly ginulo rin dahil after he said that hindi na ulit siya nag-reply. mga siguro after almost an hour, i message him and updated him na nakauwi na ako galing work and nagreply siya, tas kwentuhan saglit tas maya-maya nag paalam siya na lalabas daw muna siya. hindi ulit kami nag almost ulit for an hour and after that, he messaged me na nakauwi na siya and lalabas ulit siya para bumili ng gatas tas sabi ko "okay, message me if you got back" tapos siguro mga 30 mins nagmessage siya saakin na "wyd" so it means nakabalik na siya and then nireplyan ko siya agad tas after nun, hindi na ulit siya nagparamdam hanggang sa nakaidlip ako. nagising ako kanina mga bandang 1AM and i confronted him kung anong problema and thankfully, nagmessage siya saakin and inamin nya saakin na he's emotionally and mentally blank daw tas hindi niya raw alam kung bakit, so i tried to understand him. and now i told him if he needs some space and he replied na "maybe" so, sabi ko na sige bigyan ko siya ng space. hihintayin ko siya hanggang sa maging okay siya dahil yun lang ang kaya kong magawa for him since im not with him physically

and now, iniisip ko kung paano ko ba matutulungan and i cant stop thinking na what if hindi siya maging okay. i just love him and care for him so much kaya nagwoworry ako for him and baka makaapekto ito sa relationship namin

thank you so much sa advice ninyo in advance and it means a lot to me, pasensya na ang haba. need ko lang talaga ilabas ito kasi nabobother na ako and wala akong mapagsabihan dahil ayoko maging bothersome sa mga friends ko na may kanya-kanyang struggle rin. :)

hi! i was diagnosed with ocd, gad and mdd in remission

sa office, i had an episode of anxiety attack yesterday because i was stressed and pressured and then kanina, inaasar ako ng ibang officemate namin because of what happened to me and sabi saakin "[my name], huwag ka maoffend ha, katuwaan lang" and sinakyan ko nalang na hindi ako naoffend but deep inside i was.

it hurts to think talaga na majority of filipinos still not understand our struggles when it comes to the mental health. kaya siguro sinasabi 'yun dahil hindi nila nararamdaman ang nararamdaman ko/natin.

so ayun lang, thanks for reading and kaya natin 'to guys. :)