u/Resident_Bug_1359

Infold, I was kidding, okay?! I dont care WHO shows up first when I enter the game. JUST PLEASE BRING THE WOLF BACK!!! I can't take it anymore. Raf looks gorgeous, and I can't wait to cry my eyes out and think about the plot for a good 5-7 days after I've read it, but for the love, I NEED things to run how they were first supposed to. Screw the romance; I'll be so turned off if the main story gets rewritten, knowing it was supposed to be something else. Imma give it till Caleb and Sylus's story branch, and then, after, if I still don't hear anything, I'll have one less reason not to fall asleep after work instead of being productive. PLEASE, you guys just bring Valko back or at least give us a sign that the announcement of your decision will be soon!

Not getting close to people until you know who you are is something people need to talk about more, because that's how many people end up fake. When they make a bad decision, they beg for forgiveness and make excuses, saying they will change, when they only said that to avoid the discomfort of conflict and sitting with their actions, so after they beg for forgiveness and receive it, they make more bad decisions. I think people like that need to learn to live and self-love on their own before making any big social connections, and this doesn't have to look like solitary confinement either. It can be going places alone and learning to love your own company until you feel you can actually be yourself in front of other people.

Let me give myself as an example. I'm 22 years old, and have had bad experiences with people. The people I want to be closer to, I end up pushing away because I'm too comfortable, and the people who want to be close to me, I either feel I can't be myself around, and then I become problematic and distant (or they end up being problematic). Last year, I had isolated myself socially, and I realize now that I was happiest during those times becuase I was so confident and comfortable with who I was as a person without having to worry about anyone else. Honestly, just being friendly to coworkers without getting too close was enough socializing for me, and I wish I took that into consideration sooner.

This past year, I've made two friends, and both ended badly due to me caring too much about what they thought, which ended up making me shady due to me not being afraid to be honest and genuine. With one, I was always scared to text them and sometimes left them on delivered due to fear of sending a text that would unintentionally upset them more than I want to admit. I was too uncomfortable to act myself around them and was never on the same energy as them whenever we were together, even though there were instances where they did do something that rubbed me the wrong way; they were always kind.

I've realized I want to go back into isolation due to an occurrence. I had a bad day at work, and I was sent on break and wanted to sit alone, so I did. I walked to another store and ate there. After my break was done, I walked back, but the friend's job was next to where I went. Walking back, I saw the building and felt guilty that I didn't go to say hi when they would always come to me to say hi during their break so I went in for to visit with only 10 minutes left of my break, not thinking they'd be busy(which was stupid of me bc the day before I was busy and couldn't come out in time and they waited for me) The 10 minutes ended and I didn't want to get in trouble and was already in hot watter with this place so sent I text that I had to go and left. As I said, with this friend I hadn't been the best to them, so I think this was the last straw and now they're distancing. After work, I went back to see if they were still there so we could talk, but they never texted me back from when I told them I had to go and never came out, so I already knew they were upset. As I waited, I thought about how terrible I was being and how one-sided I was making this friendship, and decided that letting them go and wishing them better without me, since I know I need to do a lot a self resetting was the best choice. So now i'm gonna start relearning to trust myself and gain self-confidence without relationships so I don't make the same mistakes again in the future.

I had been planning this for 3 years. My first plan was sleep away college to make it seems natural and keep things peaceful and I did community college with my parents being in control of the FAFSA and then was gonna trasnfer through a program, but then we caught my father sending money to other women, and suddenly they stopped paying for my college and still havne't given me a straight reason as to why; so now I've been taken out of the system and my parents keep telling me i'll get my degree eventually and keep pushing back when i should reapply.

My second choice after catching my father was to move and be out on my own so I could learn rely on myself, so I've been working to save money to get out, but then of course in the mids of all this we found out my father hasn't been paying bills for 4 months and when i was maybe 2-3 months away from having enough to escpae, I was told AFTER that my parents took money out of my account to help pay for the 4 month long bill, which came up to about 6 thousand something (it was me and my sibling who pitched in, 3 thousand each, and my mom has no money since she has no job so my dad just had us pay and didnt even pitch in, realized that a week ago). And then my parents decided they wanted to go on a cruise, and understandably I had to pitch in since it was a family cruise. But now I have no money to leave, even if I wanted to, and I feel trapped.

My fast food job's been suffocating due to stupid decisions I've made, and just from being a job I never enjoyed in general, mainly becuase i'm not good at it even on the days that aren't terrible. I had another job I did enjoy and was good at, but I couldn't stay becuase I have no car, so I switched to my current one becuase it was walking distance. Now I have a scooter, but there are no jobs that are close to me that I can ride to. I want to quit becuase it's made my mental health that bad, but my parents said I have to stay because it'd look bad on the resume, and i'm too scared to upset them, and it's been my only reason for why I want to stay at this job. I did find this job that's hiring thats kinda been my dream, but I'd need to train for it first. I already know I can't find the motivation to train if i'm coming home after work, just wanting to nap to make time go faster.

I found an at-home part-time job online that could give me more than my current full-time job if I put in the work, but I haven't told them and dont really want to after everything. I had this idea to quit my current job and secretly keep doing the at-home job until I find another place to work at. I know this would be a big risk and would isolate me, but I also feel like doing this would be a good mental reset and would take me out of my parents' eyes since they'd probably give up on me. Should I go with it? And if not, then how can I stop feeling trapped?

EDIT: LOVE that the same day I post this, my side hustle cuts off how many tasks I can do to one.

(GONNA DELETE THIS AFTER A FEW DAYS BC I DONT WANT TO KEEP THIS UP FOR TOO LONG BUT SHE NEEDS ADVICE) Long story short someone I know online wants to quit their job bc they’ve been suffocating but her parents have been pressuring her to stay, saying they understand but that it doesn’t look good on the resume so she has to stay till she finds another job so now she’s staying only because she doesn’t want I upset her parents. Now I’d agree with her parents if they weren’t so helpless towards her, she said they sound more concerned about her being jobless than her mental state. Honestly from what Ive seen I believe it and I feel terrible, I know she wasn’t planning on staying for long bc she was gonna move out but a few months ago her and her sibling had cash taken out of their bank accounts to pay for a 6-month long mortgage payment and their parents didn’t even pitch in. Her fathers been very shady with the money he makes from what Iv’e heard and has used that money for cheating only a year ago.

Anyways my friend has found a job she wants to train for before she applies and has also found an at home part-time job and told me this idea to quit, and then secretly continue to make money to keep from the pressure of her parents and she asked me if it’s a good idea. Honestly I’m torn because it’s risky but at the same time I can see that right now this job and her parents expectations are making her depressed and I want her to feel like she can breath and do her without her parents always being on top of her. I need other opinions.