u/RetroMidnightSushi

exactly what the title says lol

i'm an Asian American sapphic in NYC and personally, i find it hella difficult to clock other Asian sapphics, they all look straight to me 😭

i can easily befriend any other race but my own :(

i've tried on the dating apps like HER and Hinge but they all seem to be more interested in dating than making a new friend

i was looking online and there's this group called SASS but they have a Facebook page but i don't have Facebook anymore and i don't really do social media.
does anyone know how i can get in touch with this group?

i just want more queer Asian friends 😔

general context: it's been years since i've been on the dating apps and about a month ago decided to download a couple of them. irl my game or 'rizz' is pretty good; i know how to hold a conversation, good eye contact, i know how to read body language well, know when to give touches here and there, etc. i can't touch or read ppl online so it's been quite difficult

so what are yalls go-to pickup lines, flirty texts, etc. that you use online?

edit: also, i'm a masc for (high) femme. i feel like that matters. 95% of the time, i'm the one initiating conversations, etc.

I matched with this girl on the HER app yesterday on Thursday, June 25 in the afternoon. I'm pretty sure she's not a bot, scammer or man. We were legit chatting for a good maybe 4 hours. It was by far, the best convo I've had so far on the app and we were vibing so well.

I went on today wanting to continue our chat but it says "this person is not available on HER right now". If I had to guess, her account got suspended for 'nudity' cuz of a bikini photo with her ass front and center with sand on it (it's a real nice ass).

Anyways, there's no way for me to contact her cuz I never asked for her IG or anything. I'm crying 😭 can't believe this is happening (not really crying but devastated and sad).So I'm hoping by some miracle you're on Reddit and see this post.

Some things from the conversation:
- the first thing I said after 'hi' is that you're hot af
- we talked about egg/garlic bagel and pork roll/bec
- you work in finance and live in BK
- you're mischievous and I seem innocent
- your mom is your wingman, kinda
- we have similar interests in the bedroom
- you're half Italian

Pls DM me if this is you.
(I will ask questions pertaining to our conversation for confirmation, so you creeps can fuck right off)

Has this happened to anyone else? 😭

I matched with this girl on the HER app yesterday on Thursday, June 25 in the afternoon. I'm pretty sure she's not a bot, scammer or man. We were legit chatting for a good maybe 4 hours. It was by far, the best convo I've had so far on the app and we were vibing so well.

I went on today wanting to continue our chat but it says "this person is not available on HER right now". If I had to guess, her account got suspended for 'nudity' cuz of a bikini photo with her ass front and center with sand on it (it's a real nice ass).

Anyways, there's no way for me to contact her cuz I never asked for her IG or anything. I'm crying 😭 can't believe this is happening (not really crying but devastated and sad).So I'm hoping by some miracle you're on Reddit and see this post.

Some things from the conversation:
- the first thing I said after 'hi' is that you're hot af
- we talked about egg/garlic bagel and pork roll/bec
- you work in finance and live in BK
- you're mischievous and I seem innocent
- your mom is your wingman, kinda
- we have similar interests in the bedroom
- you're half Italian

Pls DM me if this is you.
(I will ask questions pertaining to our conversation for confirmation, so you creeps can fuck right off)

Has this happened to anyone else? 😭

I haven't been on the dating apps in years and recently downloaded HER and Taimi because in-person isn't working 😢 I expected paywalls but I feel like most of these dating apps are almost unusable without paying for a premium account. The premiums are very expensive too! I seem to be getting many likes and views on both apps but I hate that I can't see who likes me, chat with them, swipe right endlessly, etc. I was wondering if any of yall have had success finding relationships, friends or hookups on the apps and if so, did you pay for premium? For context I'm based in New York City. Please help me out yall 😔

I can't contact them through email or phone and their useless-ass ai chatbot also doesn't work. BUT I NEED HELP SO HOW AM I SUPPOSED TO GET HELP IF I CAN'T CONTACT THEM. I've already tried the numbers: 866-540-3229 and 866-961-9253. Th dumbass useless ass ai bot tells me to go online and chat with the other dumbass useless ass ai bot online or it tells me it can't connect to an agent right now or it tells me I'm calling outside business hours (which I'm definitely not). Does anyone have a customer service email? I'm real close to harassing them on their social media accounts as a last resort.