Advice for toxic coworkers
Alot of what I see online regarding BPD and toxic work spaces are usually for the person without BPD and how they should navigate us " manipulating and emotionally draining " people. I rarely see any articles or research out there meant for advice/ protection for people living with BPD and how we can engage others in a way that is emotionally safe for us and without triggering/ setting back progress we've already made.
Long story short, how do you guys deal with workplace bullies? I have always been the quiet one- my coworkers pick at me alot because I tend not to react/ respond. Its now gotten to the point where one coworker likes to publicly embarrass me- when I finally had enough and stand up for myself ( calmly I might add) i am now the aggressor. Seeing this coworker honestly brings out my anxiety and rage- and my mind will ruminate and it isnt healthy for me. My coworkers are instigators who like seeing a good " fight" they will encourage me to " defend myself " but then tell me I am the one causing issues- its draining.
Worst of it- the bully coworker and I used to be " friends" ( big mistake I know) I have told them things of my personal life they have leverage to use against me.
What would you guys do?