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The main cast was terrific, I really didn’t like Ashley’s character or Austin or really anyone and that’s the point. They did a good job at making them unlikable while at times highly relatable, showing how these relationships are incredibly complicated, my heart broke for Oscar Isaac after his drug trip and his realization, “how do I get to the other side where there’s all this love there”.

My issue was with the writing and some of the editing of this show. The things I’m going to criticize may not be a problem with the creators of beef and maybe more just an issue with modern tv and the industry as a whole.

Writing: The cliff hangers were really bad. When we see the surgery gone wrong we have ZERO connection to the character or situation but we’re supposed to go “oh wow!”. Perhaps if we had spent more time getting to know the surgeon for that episode it would be a huge reveal, but it meant nothing to me. when Ashley is having a break down and goes “Uptown funk gonna give it to ya” huh??? And then falls, and they make it seem like she died, i’m sorry, yes there were serious consequences to that scene, but that was so unnecessary, she’s obviously not dead. Why are you treating me like I’m 11 years old. Almost every cliff hanger with some exceptions toward the end were just terrible.

Editing: Context, I am a musician composer and I love synth music. The tracks they used were well made, but the unsettling synth score was some of the most manipulative, misplaced composition I’ve ever seen. For example, a scene where Oscar Isaac is in his office doing paperwork, there’s so little emotion in his performance, but you wouldn’t know it because the synth score is telling you exactly what to feel. And that happened throughout. Carey Mulligan could have been picking her nose and they would have put dramatic synth music behind it.

I am aware how nitpicky all of this sounds and how you could easily say “it doesn’t matter” but it absolutely impacts the show and if you remove some of these things, you might actually have a show that treats the audience with respect and makes them come to their own conclusion rather than forcing an emotion on them.

I know that with gray rock you’re supposed to just answer with yes/ no, be as boring as possible, but I want to go a step further. While I am still saving up to move out, I’m done pretending that my mother exists, I’m done speaking to her, i’m done giving her access to me in any way shape or form as long as I can allow it. If she says hello, I pretend I didn’t hear it. I don’t even look at her if we’re in the same room. I only come out when she’s not around.

Has anyone here tried this and is it more detrimental to your overall mental health to do this? I’m guessing it might be because you have to actively ignore someone rather than just give them yes or no answers and it may take a lot of my energy to do, plus I’m probably doing this out of spite if I’m being honest with myself. This stupid fucking bitch has ignored me my whole life whenever I try to connect and I’m sick of it. I’m done with her and all of her bullshit.

I moved back in with parents after I lost my job. Hard decision because I craved my independence but I bit the bullet. They offered and I didn’t have any other options. I have since gotten a new job and am looking to move out when I have enough.

My mother and I have never gotten along. She is overbearing and controlling, and constantly tries to be in charge of my decisions. I wait until she goes to sleep and I ordered some DoorDash because she has consistently shamed me for using that service even though it’s my own money and I’m recovering from surgery.

Last night for the first time ever I made a mistake of accidentally not putting the top lock on the door after I picked up the food, so unbeknownst to me the door had been slightly open all night. Not good and I feel terrible. This morning the first thing she says to me is “did your father tell you about the door”. I tried not to react because in the past when I admit I did something wrong, I get verbally punished for it. She withholds any affection from me until she is satisfied with my groveling and apology. This time I said nothing. My dad says “I must not have locked the door, it was my mistake”. I love my dad and I could not allow him to get unintentionally gaslit by me so I said “ok guys, no. It was me. I ordered door dash, and I must have forgotten to close the door. I’m sorry. ok?”

Mom’s eyes get wide “you did what?”

“I ordered? Door dash? Have you heard of it?” (Her face twitched, she did NOT like that sass lol).

Mom: “Well don’t get mad”

“I’m not mad, I’m saying that I made a mistake. This is the first time this has happened. Can we move on?”

Mom: “well what I want to know is that you develop a system to ensure that it never happens again”. (????)

“No. There is no system. It was an error. Are you capable of moving past it?”

I then proceeded to get very angry and called her out on how when I have reminded her about things she messed up on, gently, she cannot handle it. Her response was “oh god” as if I’m dramatic.

I eventually threw my hands up and said “I am done talking about this, and I am done talking to you” and left before she could say something else.
I then proceeded to text a bunch of paragraphs in our private WhatsApp group that she will never read or acknowledge.

I know from the outside that I should not be engaging with her and I should not be falling for bait or trying to explain myself or anything like that. But it really hit me today that she is incapable of showing affection when someone makes a mistake. I am all about owning up to mistakes and I feel really bad that I left the door open, but I refuse to play this game anymore because I’ve been playing it my whole life with her. Any time I screwed up as a kid, into teenage years and adulthood; I had to win her affection back by appeasing and showing I was “really sorry”. And I am embarrassed that I ever did that. I have been chasing her approval my whole life and she didn’t deserve it. I know that I just need to get out and I am trying, but it is such a weird feeling when someone who is supposed to be your mother resent you so much and NO ONE else sees it. Nobody notices or cares, so I walk around as a resentful adult desperately lashing out if I’m wronged. And that’s on me but man I wish she could see the damage she’s done.