u/Rosen_Lake14

I'm at the start of Season 3, and I couldn't help noticing that Will has seemed very cold and uncaring towards Bram for most of the show. He shows love towards Gracie and Charlie regularly but only hugged Bram once. He wasn't desperate to bring Bram home when he was stuck at the labor camp, unlike how he was trying to find Charlie every chance he got. Seems like he only yells at Bram. Of course, Bram is very moody and argumentative himself so maybe that's it? I just find it odd. No spoilers though please.

Ever since a time we had a fight about my ability to drive and I got angry and repeatedly asked him if he would be willing to marry if I couldn't drive, my boyfriend has become hypersensitive to me asking a lot of questions. 3 times now he has reacted with frustration and used self-hate talk towards himself, even when I am not angry towards him but just worriedly expressing my fears. My ROCD has latched onto this, making me think this is a red flag! and that he's emotionally manipulative. But I will say he was never like this until I happened to get angry at him. He's likely scared of angry people...

Anyhow, I made the mistake of telling a female coworker about all this and she immediately tried to counsel me into thinking that my boyfriend might not be the one and that I should leave him as he sounds manipulative. She even went so far as to say he sounds like a narcissist with his self-hate talk, which couldn't be further from the truth as my boyfriend has a very low opinion of himself and is usually very sweet and kind. Heck, she doesn't even know my bf, has never even met him. But she was already trying to tell me he's a bad partner and I deserve better. This was extremely triggering and now my brain is going back and forth and remembering all the things he's done I don't like... Please help. Anyone else have a similar experience?

Ever since a time we had a fight about my ability to drive and I got angry and repeatedly asked him if he would be willing to marry if I couldn't drive, my boyfriend has become hypersensitive to me asking a lot of questions. 3 times now he has reacted with frustration and used self-hate talk towards himself, even when I am not angry towards him but just worriedly expressing my fears. My ROCD has latched onto this, making me think this is a red flag! and that he's emotionally manipulative. But I will say he was never like this until I happened to get angry at him. He's likely scared of angry people...

Anyhow, I made the mistake of telling a female coworker about all this and she immediately tried to counsel me into thinking that my boyfriend might not be the one and that I should leave him as he sounds manipulative. She even went so far as to say he sounds like a narcissist with his self-hate talk, which couldn't be further from the truth as my boyfriend has a very low opinion of himself and is usually very sweet and kind. Heck, she doesn't even know my bf, has never even met him. But she was already trying to tell me he's a bad partner and I deserve better. This was extremely triggering and now my brain is going back and forth and remembering all the things he's done I don't like... Please help. Anyone else have a similar experience?

How can I stop interrogating my bf? Ever since a time we had a fight about my ability to drive and I got angry and repeatedly asked him if he would be willing to marry if I couldn't drive, my bf has become hypersensitive to me asking a lot of questions in other matters.

Like yesterday, he put his hands in the air in frustration and groaned, "This relationship..." And went on about how he always messes up. This was after I kept asking him if he would still let me wear clothing that might have chemicals in them if we were married. He is understandably worried about health effects but I was posing the question of whether I'd have to throw out all the clothes and what he'd ask of me..

I feel horrible that I once again was a fool asking too many questions and frustrated him. What can I do about this problem I have? I suspect it is ROCD related, as I frequently obsess about potential dealbreakers and problems in my relationship