u/Routine-Cobbler8237

6 year eating behaviour

Hi All

Sorry for lengthy paragraph .
I am going through a trouble times in married life but 6 year kiddo is everything for me. Kiddo was overweight through since excessive feeding by spouse. I am trying to feed more healthy and less quantity as I am worried about weight and r possible bullying in school( kiddo was called fat by other kids in school). Recently I noticed pattern of multiple items missing from fridge or basement fridge( muffins, small soda cans etc.) When I asked kiddo how many were eaten, kiddo said I ate/drank 1 other were by other parent. Me and kiddo are alone in the house as spouse is away since last week. Kiddo had 2 egg omelette for breakfast, small pizza slice & 1 small muffin, half apple, juice box for lunch for school. After school kiddo had 1 banana & half apple. I had to work 1 hour extra from home and kiddo was playing in the basement( all toys are in basement). I bought 12 pack of small chocolate chip muffins( each weighs 28g, 130 cal) today and noticed 10 missing muffins in the evening. When questioned, kiddo admitted to eat 1 and rest 9 were eaten by imaginary creature named Bouser( creature used to play pretend game since 2-3 years old). Kiddo also admitted to eating 250 ml of ice cream during that 1 hour. Kiddo becomes really sad and cry if I become strict or question. I am really worried about kid’s health and weight and also struggling as single parent as my spouse is not involved in our lives/activities. I take kid to 4 activities( 2 lessons and 1 practice) and almost 4-5 times per week to park and cycling. I am thinking about storing all kids food in the basement fridge and keeping it locked. Only give 1-2 snacks as required. Am I over analyzing? What can I do over to parent such behaviour from becoming lying habit and what can I do more to fix this situation.

I really appreciate all halo and guidance

Hi All

Sorry for lengthy paragraph .
I am going through a trouble times in married life but 6 year kiddo is everything for me. Kiddo was overweight through since excessive feeding by spouse. I am trying to feed more healthy and less quantity as I am worried about weight and r possible bullying in school( kiddo was called fat by other kids in school). Recently I noticed pattern of multiple items missing from fridge or basement fridge( muffins, small soda cans etc.) When I asked kiddo how many were eaten, kiddo said I ate/drank 1 other were by other parent. Me and kiddo are alone in the house as spouse is away since last week. Kiddo had 2 egg omelette for breakfast, small pizza slice & 1 small muffin, half apple, juice box for lunch for school. After school kiddo had 1 banana & half apple. I had to work 1 hour extra from home and kiddo was playing in the basement( all toys are in basement). I bought 12 pack of small chocolate chip muffins( each weighs 28g, 130 cal) today and noticed 10 missing muffins in the evening. When questioned, kiddo admitted to eat 1 and rest 9 were eaten by imaginary creature named Bouser( creature used to play pretend game since 2-3 years old). Kiddo also admitted to eating 250 ml of ice cream during that 1 hour. Kiddo becomes really sad and cry if I become strict or question. I am really worried about kid’s health and weight and also struggling as single parent as my spouse is not involved in our lives/activities. I take kid to 4 activities( 2 lessons and 1 practice) and almost 4-5 times per week to park and cycling. I am thinking about storing all kids food in the basement fridge and keeping it locked. Only give 1-2 snacks as required. Am I over analyzing? What can I do over to parent such behaviour from becoming lying habit and what can I do more to fix this situation.

I really appreciate all halo and guidance

Sorry for long paragraph m:

Married for 10 years living in CANADA and have 6 year old kid.

Indian background for both of us. job(\~130k) with pension, spouse job 40k per year

Single property under joint names

Had been contemplating divorce for last 7-8 years, discussed with lawyers but never took the signal step with hope of things improving and for sake of my child. I paid for the down payment and all mortgage/bills till date. Spouse was working on and off after house purchase but has been working regularly for last 2 years and still does not contributes anything towards mortgages, bills or child expense. Spouse was still asking for more money/gifts all the time. Spouse has older sister(no child, divorced and lives in another city)who has full control and wants to control our house and child’s life as well. Now things have become unbearable due to financial constraints, dead bedroom, ignorant towards kid(give iPad and disappearing bedroom), sister teaching kid to lie to me etc. I cook for myself and kid, take kid to school, park and all activities.

I always knew that I am being exploited one way or another but now I have decided to start the divorce process for my own and kids wellbeing. I have talked to couple of lawyers. One lawyer asked me to move out but after paying mortgage, bills and new rent, I will be left under 3-400$ monthly in pocket for groceries. Bank told me that I will have to continue making mortgage payments till my name remains on property even if I move out and credit will be badly hit if don’t(job is linked with credit history and security clearance). Another lawyer suggested to stay in house and start the divorce but it’s really hard for me to constantly walk on egg shells and keeping kid in toxic household. Even in past arguments with spouse, kid will run and hide under the bed. I have tried communicating but spouse does not listens or cares. Like I am stuck between cliff and mountain. I have family(siblings) in hometown but don’t want to go there as I don’t want to breakdown completely in front of them. Please guide me on what to do. Please share any experiences in such scenario and please help me decide which option to go for.

Sorry for long paragraph m:

Married for 10 years living in CANADA and have 6 year old kid.

Indian background for both of us. job(\~130k) with pension, spouse job 40k per year

Single property under joint names

Had been contemplating divorce for last 7-8 years, discussed with lawyers but never took the signal step with hope of things improving and for sake of my child. I paid for the down payment and all mortgage/bills till date. Spouse was working on and off after house purchase but has been working regularly for last 2 years and still does not contributes anything towards mortgages, bills or child expense. Spouse was still asking for more money/gifts all the time. Spouse has older sister(no child, divorced and lives in another city)who has full control and wants to control our house and child’s life as well. Now things have become unbearable due to financial constraints, dead bedroom, ignorant towards kid(give iPad and disappearing bedroom), sister teaching kid to lie to me etc. I cook for myself and kid, take kid to school, park and all activities.

I always knew that I am being exploited one way or another but now I have decided to start the divorce process for my own and kids wellbeing. I have talked to couple of lawyers. One lawyer asked me to move out but after paying mortgage, bills and new rent, I will be left under 3-400$ monthly in pocket for groceries. Bank told me that I will have to continue making mortgage payments till my name remains on property even if I move out and credit will be badly hit if don’t(job is linked with credit history and security clearance). Another lawyer suggested to stay in house and start the divorce but it’s really hard for me to constantly walk on egg shells and keeping kid in toxic household. Even in past arguments with spouse, kid will run and hide under the bed. I have tried communicating but spouse does not listens or cares. Like I am stuck between cliff and mountain. I have family(siblings) in hometown but don’t want to go there as I don’t want to breakdown completely in front of them. Please guide me on what to do. Please share any experiences in such scenario and please help me decide which option to go for.