u/Routine_Ad8138

Hi everyone. So this is a pretty complex situation, my parents are paying off a student loan due to my brother not getting job after masters and this has made them very weak financially

I do have a job but it is at a startup so job security is low and my salary isn't great. I agreed to help with current bill every month, but set strict budget bcos I need to save up for my future

But they keep asking me more and emotionally gaslight me when I don't give in. I compensated my needs throughout life because they invested everything on my brother, and he's turned out to be a useless bum

So this time I am standing firm and not folding, is it the right stance?

For context I am 23 year old virgin who has had 0 romantic interaction in my life. I am constantly thinking about girls, my insta bookmarked section is full of girls being suggestive or dancing, and my reddit is just full of porn

When I don't jerk off I am having dreams of sexual nature and end up Nutting anyways. I have tried engaging my self with football and physical workouts but it doesn't go away

It's kinda ruining my life cos I see any good looking woman as a sex object rather than a person and get very anxious talking to girls

What to do?

I assumed throughout my life the men only do the approaching when it comes to meeting potential partners

But recently my friend told me guys get approached by girls too, if you have never been approached you must be really chopped (guess I'm ugly lol)

Let me know your experiences if you've had any and how did it go

Hey everyone, so this is something that has been tormenting me for a while. I graduated college in 2024 and got placed in CG for A4 Analyst role.

It took a long time for them to reach out for onboarding so I joined a startup later that year, which offered slightly higher package than CG.

Feb 2025, HR finally reaches out, I ask for specifics of the role but she doesn't elaborate. I was stuck in a dilemma and kept delaying my confirmation so she withdrew the offer.

To this day I regret this decision, because this startup is in a pathetic financial situation, although my skills have become very strong as they gave a lot of responsibility

Was this the wrong choice?