u/Royalchariot

Obligatory this happened last week

So my coworker Jan and I have kind of a silly, joking relationship at work. We talk casually and talk like we are friends and not just colleagues (talking about personal lives, swearing, talking smack about the boss, etc). She is moving out of state and and her last day was supposed to be Wednesday, but she did not show up Monday or Tuesday. Also, Jan is a very emotional person, and has been crying at work about moving away and missing everyone.

Anyways on Wednesday I see her come in and I'm like bro! there you are! Aww you're leaving us! and she looks very sad as expected. I said I was worried she wasn't coming back at all but wouldn't blame her haha. I asked if everything was ok and she looked at me tearfully and said her mother had had a heart attack (but was well and back at home) and that's why she was out of work. I said "She had a heart attack? Oh my god, when?" THEN she says "She had a heart attack on Mother's Day." ....... I immediately broke into a smile but tried to suppress it. The irony of a mother having a heart attack on the one day dedicated to mother's somehow turned out to be funny in my mind.

I slapped my hand over my mouth and quickly said "I am so sorry I don't mean to laugh. It's not funny and I'm glad she's back at home. It's just so ironic." I look over at Jan and to my surprise she is cry laughing. She's like "That's so messed up" but laughing about it between breaths. We ended up laughing for a while about it and yes then really talked about her mom's health.

TL;DR - laughed at my coworker's mother having a heart attack on mother's day

for context, we work in a law firm, but it’s a pretty relaxed atmosphere. We don’t have to wear suits or anything like that. So today, my boss comes in and she had a little hole in the side of her sweater that she was worried about. I know one of my coworkers had a little sewing kit and was able to patch up the hole really quick.

Later on when speaking with her I noticed the undersides of the arm of the sweater were bleach stained in a few spots. The sweater is black so the bleach stains were orange. I didn’t say anything though, figuring people are probably not going to notice it and there’s nothing major happening like meetings or clients.

I casually told my friend about this and she said I’m an asshole for not saying anything, my boss may have had a different sweater to wear and I just let her walk around like that all day.

TLDR: did not tell my boss her sweater had stains on it.

My hair is totally flat and frizzy and has no volume whatsoever. I shower at night and when I wake up, this is what it looks like and this is how it stays all day. My bathroom is connected to our bedroom where my husband sleeps so I can’t use any tools that make noise. I get up super early to go to work. I’m looking for ways to add some body and texture to my hair without making noise with tools? My hair is very fine and gets damaged easily with heat. I was looking at some overnight hairstyles, maybe? Or one of those wrap barrel curlers? I am afraid to use heat because I’m worried I’ll fry my hair. I am 40 also so any updos or styles should be age appropriate. As much as I want to wear 90s butterfly clips