u/Sad-Manufacturer173 — reddlx

Image 1 — UPDATE** kinda? (MIL is gonna make me lose my MARBLES)

UPDATE** kinda? (MIL is gonna make me lose my MARBLES)

https://www.reddit.com/r/inlaws/s/fjMpGJlSu2

Previous post is attached. (I don’t know if that link will work, but it won’t let me attach photos if I attach the url!)

This is mainly for the people who understood and saw my pov, I got a lot of mixed comments but I was prepared for that! Here’s my semi update:

She hadn’t texted me after telling me to not text her, except for me to ask my husband to call her. I was hoping she would call my husband when we were together, but she never called him and I don’t think he answered her one call. She did text him multiple times previous to these messages about seeing the baby this Sunday, throughout the week. However, she would throw in something like “I can’t believe OP” or “OP needs to get over it” so he wouldn’t respond.

The blacked out messages are just her texting about his truck insurance/wifi being under her the same account. When she needs him to send her the money she will text him in advance, or she tells him she wants him off of it. She always texts him about it, I think to get him to respond because when we bring it up and say let’s do it she makes excuses to postpone. Husband and I have agreed to get it changed over so he will have to do that separately with her. (Pls don’t judge we’re 22 and have been moved out for some months but life gets busy!!)

Anyways, I was nervous he would cave but after he told me to read what she said I made it clear that I didn’t want to bring him over there this weekend especially since she doesn’t want to talk about anything. She still hasn’t responded to his message and she usually responds very quickly. I was thinking about bringing the baby over there together to talk on Sunday, but I feel like after what she said in the text it felt kind of demanding or entitled? Idk but I suppose this is the only update I have for now and I guess I just wanted to fill the people in lol

The reference to his “other grandma” is my mom- she lives 3 hours away and she’s only held him twice, the last time she held him he was 5 days old. My mom is planning a visit soon, but she hasn’t seen him in almost 3 months!

Either you care or you don’t but thanks for reading regardless!!

The screenshot is from my phone from her to me, and the other photos are from her and my husbands texts.

u/Sad-Manufacturer173 — 12 days ago

▲ 1 r/MyEx

I’m 22F and still keep tabs on my high school ex boyfriend

TW ABUSE/ I do briefly mention physical&emotional abuse

I NEED to get this out somewhere. I’m not seeking judgment, although I know a lot of what I’m going to say may warrant some😔

I’m 22F, and I am currently in a relationship and we just had a baby 7 weeks ago! I LOVE motherhood and I love the season of life that I’m in, and I always wanted kids young so I’m happy. I’m happy in my relationship, but I still keep tabs on my ex boyfriend from high school. I still think about him every few days or sometimes every few weeks. I don’t MISS him, and I’m over him- so why do I feel the need to still search him up and see what he’s up to/check his tiktok reposts???

My ex and I started dating in December of 2020 when I was 16, and we continued a very traumatic/abusive relationship until November of 2022. We broke up because I moved states after high school, and there was no way in hell that relationship was going to survive distance. After we broke up, he immediately got a new girlfriend and they dated for about a year, and he treated her perfectly. She ended up texting me asking about him because he showed some crazy after they broke up. I was so upset and jealous and gutted that I got the shit end of the stick and then he turned a new leaf and became a “brand new man” although it was just a facade looking back.

There are SO many instances of which I could elaborate on as to why I said abusive. 3 months into our relationship he started the name calling. (Whore, dirty hoe, dumbass bitch, cunt, the usual.) 6 months into the relationship he was already telling me to kill myself, telling me I’m good for nothing but sex, etc. He cheated on me for the first time 7 months into the relationship (that I know of.) Over a year into the relationship he put his hands on me, cyber stalked me every time we would “break up”. Sent my nudes to everyone on my instagram from MY account (I didn’t know he was logged in.) Threatened to send my mom nudes if I wouldn’t do something, or tried to leave him.. and way more. I was constantly getting blocked/unadded for days- then no caller id calls million times a day if I blocked him, coming to my house throwing rocks at my window, etc.

Don’t ask me why I went back, I was in love in a really twisted way. Each time he or I would have a talking stage/relationship we would always go back to each other. Although all of that happened, I still saw the good in him and saw the person he “could” be and I guess that’s why I always went back. Even though we ended in 2022, we would still always text each other every few months over the years- sometimes rekindle a friendship but fight like we were together. The last time we spoke was early 2025, didn’t leave on good terms and we have each other blocked on everything except my burner accounts he doesn’t have. I dated someone in 2023-2024 and I was still occasionally texting my ex and maintaining a semi friendship with him. I have NOT texted him since being in my current relationship, and we haven’t spoked or interacted in well over a year.

Since keeping tabs, I recently saw that my ex got his current girlfriend pregnant. I have been wanting to text him and congratulate him on fatherhood, given that I just became a mom, and I want to just see how he’s feeling/doing. I know that it’s bad and I feel so guilty about it. I don’t know why I feel this way- I don’t miss him. I think maybe I’m wanting to do this because back then when we were kids we talked about having kids? And now we are both parents, and I didn’t think it would happen this way? I don’t know. I do not still have any feelings for him. He was so horrible to me, so WHY do I feel this way??!!! I love my partner very much, and I love the life that I have, so why do I still feel so reminiscent??!!! That goes for the entirety of December 2020 to November 2022. I am so reminiscent on that time of my life, I think about it often- and I have also trauma blocked a majority of it out of my mind.

Is there some psychological explanation for why my mind is working this way? Almost against my logic? Have anything to do w the trauma?? Just had to get it out and maybe someone had an explanation.

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u/Sad-Manufacturer173 — 2 months ago

▲ 3 r/pregnant

Signs of labor? 40 +5

Hey guys!! You can assume by my title that I am MISERABLE. I am 40 +5 today with a medical induction scheduled for Sunday evening. I have tried all the things to induce labor naturally, but haven’t had luck yet. I had a Braxton hicks contraction the night before last, but it was short lived. My feet have started swelling more, my lower back is hurting pretty bad, and I have some cramping but it isn’t really intense enough to where I’d think it’s a contraction. At My 40 week appointment on Monday my cervix was still closed, but forward and soft. I had been pretty constipated until yesterday, and my stools are a little looser and I’m going frequently. This, in addition to the back pain and mild cramping, I am really hoping are signs of labor. Anyone had signs of labor they can share?? I’m trying not to get my hopes up😂😂

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u/Sad-Manufacturer173 — 4 months ago

▲ 54 r/inlaws

“MIL” wants to meet baby but talks shit behind my back

Backstory: My fiance and I are 21 & 22, both living at home. We will call him Bill. I am due to have our baby in literally a week. I live with my Mom 3 hours away from where he lives with his Grandmother. It isn’t the traditional situation but it gave us time money and we are due to move into a house together in August!

Now, to his Grandmother (76F). He doesn’t have a relationship with his mom and his dad has been in and out of prison his whole life- so his Grandmother is his mother figure, and his dad still lives with her at nearly 50 years old. To say his grandmother is a control freak is an understatement, she will get angry and yell if she cooks and Bill doesn’t eat it. She still cleans his room, does his laundry, but will get angry and say “I’m not your maid” even though he never asks her to clean his things. She has moved things in his room that I made him for Valentine’s Day/gifts etc.

In march, he and I spent about $1000 on the baby shower. She spent about $500 in food, but wanted me to keep my receipts so I could reimburse HER if she spent more money than me. When I first found out I was pregnant, she told me she was going to retire so that she could be the sole caretaker of MY baby, and that she didn’t want him in daycare- and she didn’t want him in secondhand clothing.

She is completely overbearing. I have always had a feeling she didn’t like me- and I have continuously overheard conversations where I’ll be in Bills pocket on the phone, and she will tell him that we are going to be bad parents, she isn’t proud of him, she feels sorry for the baby, etc. With all of this in mind, I decided that it would be entirely too stressful on me for her and his dad to come visit when the baby is born. She automatically assumed she was going to be in the delivery room with me and Bill, when my own mother isn’t even going to be there. About a month and a half ago I told her I did not want her in the delivery room with me, nor did I want her or Bills dad to come to the hospital to visit. (She made a comment previously saying they were going to follow the baby and not me).

Ever since I told her that, she got very upset and claimed she “didn’t understand” and she had “never heard of it before” and before she even responded to my message she was complaining to bill (not knowing I could hear her) saying she wanted to him talk to me and she didn’t understand why I wanted that, and she didn’t “expect to wait 3 weeks to meet HER grand baby” and that is “HER grandsons baby”.

Right… Since I have put those boundaries up, she has refrained from messaging me, asking how I am doing, asking about the baby, etc. She doesn’t even ask Bill how the baby is. It has become very obvious to me she does not like me, although I have no clue what I did. The last straw was about two weeks ago, Bill came home from work and she immediately started telling him “you have been miserable ever since you and OP have been together” “she tells you what to do” and etc.. Bill was asking her what she meant and why she was saying these things, and told her I could hear her and that I wouldn’t want her to be around the baby if she was talking about me that way. She then said “I never planned on meeting that baby anyways.

WHAT do I do. I don’t know what to do. I know she has seen my message, and I want to know WHY she said them. I know she only apologized bc she wants to meet the baby, because last night when Bill and I were on the phone I reiterated to him that I do not want her around my baby until she apologizes to me for the things that she said, and tells me why she feels that way.

I think she feels like an apology will cut it, but she hasn’t responded and I feel like I’m not going to get anywhere with her. I honestly don’t care to have a relationship with her, but I can put that aside and be cordial if I could get an explanation. What do I do

u/Sad-Manufacturer173 — 4 months ago