u/Sad_Beautiful9637

I’m wondering if anyone who are in healthy relationships if you have tried, want, and or have had two separate bedrooms or spaces with your partner.
I have been living alone in my studio for over three years with my 2 cats.
My partner and I want to move in together. January.
I have never lived with a partner in a serious relationship and he’s lived with two partners in serious relationships. He made a comment the other day that it would be nice to have separate spaces and I got defensive and I said I don’t wanna be roommates cause…
I am jealous that someone already got to experience that with him and that’s probably childish, but then I’ve been thinking I’ve loved having my own space and being able to decorate how I want to decorate and sleeping alone because sleep is very important when we have EDS. He’s a big muscly guy who snores and runs hot he hates my bed because he just sinks into it. His bed is too firm for me. We have wildly different tastes in almost everything lol and now I’m contemplating if we should do a two bedroom 2 Bath place together…
but society tells us that then we’re just gonna be roommates and not in a relationship. I’m wondering what you guys think or have experienced in this thank you!! 🫂

I’m heading back to work at the end of August after being on medical leave, and honestly, my anxiety about the future is completely spiraling.
I’m genuinely terrified that everyone at work is going to expect me to walk back through the door completely "cured." But that’s just not how chronic illness works. I didn't take this time off to get fixed; I took it because I’ve been forcing myself to work full-time for two straight years, and I desperately needed a pocket of time to finally get the medical testing and treatments I’ve had to put off.
If I’m being real, I already feel like a huge burden because my disability requires me to work from home. Now, going back, I feel like I’m going to be under this massive microscope.
I have this constant, heavy fear that they’re just waiting for me to slip up so they can fire me and replace me with someone who isn't disabled.
Medical leave isn't a vacation… it’s exhausting, overwhelming medical maintenance. I just wish survival in the working world didn't mean masking my reality just to keep my job.
If anyone else out there is balancing EDS body within this hustle culture I see you 😭🫂

I have had no issues with my car until Monday when I was driving back from Kirkland after putting $65 dollars worth of gas from Shell
I drove about 15 minutes or so when at a stop light my car started chugging and then got quiet but it was still on.. and then the light turned green and I started to put my foot on the gas to go, but it wasn’t going the RPM just sped up and then all of a sudden my car jolted and then I was able to drive it and I drove it for a few minutes. Scared about what just happened and then
it started chugging again so then I tried to pull into a parking lot, but there was a hill so as I was trying to drive up the hill with my foot on the gas, it wasn’t going anywhere. It was just staying there and then it started to reverse into traffic, cause I was on a hill and I put it in park. I turned off my car I put on my hazards. I restarted my car after a minute and then I put my foot on the gas to try and drive it into the parking lot and it started chugging again but I made it into the parking lot not on a hill so I just parked my car. I was luckily only 1 minute away from a shop and I got my car there, I told them what happened and they said they’re booked for a week. I already had an appointment the next day for an oil change at a shop closer to home so I had my car towed there and the mechanic looked at my car and is stating that I need a new transmission and these were the quotes

Transmission quote-
Rebuilt- 200,000 miles $4,874
110,000 miles $6,549
New- 7,267

It’s currently not drivable and I don’t have that kind of money to fix it, is there anything else I can do?! Thank you so much from a 32 year old disabled woman who knows nothing about cars 😭

I’m sure I’m not the only one that’s gone through a breakup it’s unfortunately you know a part of life, but there’s like a whole other side to it when you have a disability/illness.

When I met my most likely now ex-boyfriend I was not nearly as disabled as I am now, I have gotten worse over the years, we’ve been together for over three years.

I have this intense fear of completely starting all over again with someone else even more disabled.. like we met in the gym 🥲

I think I just need a little bit of encouragement or hope that there is someone who’s been through or is currently going through that process.

And Does anyone have a happy ending they’d love to share?