u/Sad_Cricket_7096

I feel like no one (other than other parents of autistic children of course) understands how lonely it is to be the parent of a child on the spectrum. Friends don’t understand why I can’t always go to play dates depending on the location (sensory meltdowns). Family members don’t understand why we can’t go and visit, why we don’t go to family reunions. My son doesn’t do well for days away from home, his max is about 2 days at the moment. So many friends and family members have cut ties due to my son being “to difficult to be around”. That includes my husbands ENTIRE family other than one grandparent of his. I have only 1 friend at the moment who really sees the struggle I go through because she does as well.

And to be clear I don’t blame my son for anything, he is the sweetest boy ever. I just think the meltdowns can be too much for people to handle. I never expected them to just stop coming around completely though. My son was the first grandchild on mine and my husbands side of the family, everyone was so excited to meet him and be in his life. Here we are 2.5 years later and everyone has just…vanished.

Was out to eat dinner with my family and my husband was supposed to go home from work and shower/change and then join us. He calls me telling me his key must’ve fallen off the keychain and asks me to bring mine. I’m on the way and get a call back a couple minutes later saying that one of the maintenance men called the cops on him for trying to break into an apartment.

All my husband did was look at his keychain, didn’t see the key, called me, and then sat down on the steps to wait for me. He didn’t go around trying to get in through a window. Wasn’t fumbling with the doorknob. Was in his work uniform in broad daylight.

I get there to the two of them arguing. The guy asks me if he’s my husband and I say yes and show him my ID with my husbands last name on it. Apparently that wasn’t enough proof, he wanted to see my lease to see if our names were on it. I show him that and he goes “well he just doesn’t look like the typical person that would live here”……..my husbands Mexican, so do with that what you will

Police show up to me yelling at him because I completely lost it after he said that. Just 2 months ago the property manager called me accusing me of never paying a pet deposit and said that I had to either pay it within 2 days or I would have to get rid of my dog or be evicted. Turns out I did pay it (I knew I did the whole time) apparently she just doesn’t know how to read a computer, I never got an apology for that. I’m calling corporate tomorrow morning to report this. I am absolutely livid and tired of the racism that my husband has to experience on a daily basis.

What the title says, hair cuts are impossible. My 2.5 year old is level 2 and nonverbal. Has never liked hair cuts but it seems to get worse as he gets older. And of course gets harder because as he gets older he’s getting stronger as well.

Posted in a mom group I’m apart of on Facebook asking for parents of kids on the spectrum or just parents of kids who loathe hair cuts in general on advice or things they’ve tried to make the process go a little easier.

My son does okay while cutting the back of his hair, starts to get a little scared when we reach his ears but no crying or freaking out. And then come the bangs, oh the bangs!! Tries to scratch us or self harm himself immediately. So I hold his head really fast while my mom cuts them and my husband has to hold his arms down so he doesn’t hurt himself. He’s in his high chair btw we don’t have him pinned to the ground or anything. And the bangs only last about 20 seconds. But it’s the meltdowns after that that are the problem.

I immediately was hit with “you’re abusing your child” “you’re traumatizing your child” “there’s no reason for him to get a hair cut” but little do they know the second his bangs reach his eyes it’s sensory hell for him. He tries to pull his hair out and claws at his forehead randomly until we are able to do a hair cut (which is usually the same day)

Kept getting told to use a headband, boppy pins, hair clips to just keep the bangs out of his face. As if he’d keep those on, he absolutely hates stuff on his head/face. “Why would you do this to him hair cuts aren’t that important “ gotcha, so I’ll just continue to let him pull his hair out and scratch his face up. Parents of neurotypical kids just don’t get it. And I don’t expect them to, how could they? But being called a shitty mom and a child abuser when I’m just trying to help my son not live in sensory hell is really discouraging.

Can anyone point me in the direction of some junkyards for car parts? We got a car recently and it needs some exterior parts (fender, headlight assembly) and we were hoping to look at one of these first before ordering brand new to save money.