My husband and I are debating going on a major summer trip. We struggling to pull the trigger and spend that much money.
I have a wild dream to get our kids to all 50 states before graduation. The economy and life haven’t been kind on that dream.
My kids are 13 and 11. They have been to 18 states. This trip will give time 26.
But it’s about $3000 and 2100 miles 😬😫🤑
We are torn. Pay off/save money/travel.
How do you deal with seeing everyone around you spending money so freely?
I’m struggling to see others have “all the fancy things” while I know we are paying off debt and building a better future, it’s so damn hard to see others brag about things. Also wondering how the heck they really have that money to spend?
DONE : $1000
Working on debt pay off
DONE: we have also saved that emergency fund due to my husband’s health issues. We already had to use it this year. (3-4 months saved)
Planning a trip for mid July staying to an air B&B in the Mobile area. That area seems like a central location for what I would like to accomplish.
2 adults, 2 kiddos (ages 13 and 11) The dogs will stay at the house.
My goal is to get my kids to as many states as possible before graduation. The economy and life hasn’t been on our side for my dreams.
They are at 18 now, trip would make it 23.
We would like to see New Orleans, Baton Rouge, some stop in Mississippi. And basically just cross the line and dance in Florida so it counts lol Florida is not a destination for us, just check it off the list for all the father away it is.
Any ideas or good places to stop/eat/adventures?
*Nothing is booked yet*
We would be coming from PA. So a long ride down!!
How the heck are you to get a troubled child into therapy when every where is booked? 11 male.
I have called every place with in 50’miles of my home. They have zero openings. First available is January 2027.
Our school is zero help, he has had multiple appts but all for cancelled because of “emergencies within the school”
We have great insurance too! If we had medical assistance they could get us in October. Doesn’t seem fair but ok.
-Fits of anger
-Name calling
-Zero is his fault, when you point out how it is.
He makes comments “no one wants me here” “I ruin everything” “I’m the dumb one”
We have conversations constantly about emotions, and how sometimes yes you are the problem (we all are). We talk about realizing emotions, feeling them in your body etc. that emotions are normal. Etc etc etc etc. read all the books together.
My son is 11.5 yrs old.
He is extremely emotional and often lashes out.
A few weeks ago he got into a physical fight at a sports practice. The other boy did hit him first but he full sung! He punched the kid in the face.
When he got out at baseball, he was so mad he came into the dug out in tears. He said he hates the 3rd baseman. I they aren’t friend in school but “hate”?? It was 100% a fair call.
Rarely is anything my son’s fault. He never says sorry! Unless forced to. But he will tell me he feels bad for other students (especially the few kids with special needs). I’m told he is kind and caring in school. But I have been told his teachers notice “silent frustration”
He often claims that I favor his older sister.
How he is ALWAYS told NO! (Far from the truth). He has lot of friends and is invited places 3+ times a month. So yes sometime we can’t always do.
(Currently he isn’t allowed to go any where, because last time it took him 35 mins to leave when told. Causing me to be late picking up his sister and going to work)
Today he was very emotional about missing recess due to the rest of the class behavior. I offered to speak to staff when I saw them. (I also work casual at his school) they lead to more tears!!
He missed the bus because he was messing around on YouTube that he wasn’t allowed to be on.
When he was called out on it, he cried and slammed his fists into his bed.
Is this normal 11.5 yr old behavior or is there something more?
We moved up to 12u this season and I am STRUGGLING!!
I never played sports and basically got drug into coaching the last 6 seasons. I do the books run the dug out. I can do that!!! Pump kids up, dry the tears that’s the job for me!
This season is no longer fun! Parents are mad their kids got move teams. (Some are mad they are will us, some are mad they aren’t). We needed to make sure we don’t have stacked teams, even pitchers etc.
Parents are mad we can’t play 12 kids in the infield. That kids have to sit 3 each inning.
We have 2 that can’t hit the side of a barn. And will swing as the ball leaves the pitchers hand. So we started to sub kids out so those kids don’t get us 2 outs. Parents are mad. They weren’t getting to bat. (Not my doing I’m not the head coach) I dont understand major rules. Still learning this age group.
No one gets out of cars to help. But will bad mouth is behind our backs.
My son has always LOVED baseball but now is begging to quit before the first actual game. I’m so frustrated!
Is this just 12u that drama starts?
Do we plan to win or play to make parents happier??
*** Edit:
We have always taken the kids no one else wants. We have always had the losing team. Last year we got last in the league. Year before second to last.
For once winning a single game would be cool!