u/Satan768

do me a favor never ask the Reddits of the state your husband or loved ones passed in.. about roadside memorials you will be banned from their group and muted by their staff just for reporting others for ignorance.. and harassed multiple times . never ever ask people for support in those states… , I will never trust the state of South Carolina I will never trust their government or their people ever again… I can’t trust them. I do not believe they will help me with my husbands death investigation… they will cover up the real reason of why he died on their roads and I will live with this anger and fear forever I will never return or support their tourism in their state I will never go back to that godforsaken state…. I fucking hate that these people in that state won’t even help me…. I am forever angered and haunted by it.

I am wanting to know if there are permanent roadside signs, here in Florida we have permanent drive safe in loving memory of signs .. I was wondering if there were anything similar in South Carolina and if roadside memorials were legal to have there

should I try to get a roadside memorial placed where my husband died? my only issue is I never want to return to the state he died in… what can I do to help ensure he’s memorialized and so it may be a cautionary tale for others on the road to drive safely… these are really hard questions for me to ask to be honest with all of you… , I’m not sure how I can if I am unable to feel like I can return to that state.. where he died

I have had a few select friends who have decided that my grief is something. I should hide something that is to be shamed and that I’m never gonna get better if I keep talking about it, But it’s all I can do.. people will try to say they have it worse than me or try to say that in the grand scheme it doesn't matter… basically belittling my trauma and grief…, and that I need to magically feel better just because they were able to move on from their own grief a week after theirs happened. I can not magically move on.., I will not be healed from this automatically like they can.. they tried to say that i bring people down and that I shouldn't speak of my husband or talk about him… that I should move on and forget him… but I can’t when I'm constantly reminded that my grief doesn't matter… some people have stopped checking in on me all together, some people have just thought that if they don’t speak about it that it makes it better, Id rather people check on me and see how I am feel than to feel so alone, some people in my life will try to say oh it’s the same it’s the same thing as what they went through but it’s not because 27 year olds aren’t supposed to die.. people in my life have equated sudden death to cancer it’s not the fucking same! Cancer you know the person is gonna die eventually… its cancer.. but when it’s someone who died in a car wreck people just don’t seem to get it..people in my life think that this is the same as losing your grandmother but it’s not.., Some people in my life have diminished and extinguished my grief have told me it’s not worth anything.. that I am going mad Just because it’s all I can talk about because my partner was stolen from me… I will never hold my partner again and he will never hold me again.. I will never here him talk about airplanes and army tanks and starwars or dnd or the new rooster teeth podcast he’s listening to or the new game I have to try to play with him sometime … or the way he sang… I will never hear his voice again I regret not recording him sing.. I regret not getting more photos and videos because that’s all I have now… I wish some people could understand I’m haunted by ghosts in the walls but they aren’t in the walls they are here in my heart and body and my soul and they are creeping in of what couldve been as it swallows me whole.. people think grief is in stages I can tell you now in sudden death it’s not stages it’s a giant hurricane of feelings that wrecks everything in its path it’s a category five hurricane that leaves scars like Katrina did to New Orleans….. it’s the kind of damage that permanently destroys and changes parts of you… That is what sudden death grief feels like.. it doesn’t feel like a kiss goodbye or a hug it feels like someone is eating your insides and your flesh is torn up for the rats and bugs to eat… it leaves a decay in your body and heart and especially when you longed for someone who felt like home.. now the home has burned down memories are covered in ashes and soot as I couldn’t save you from chasing your dreams even if selfishly i would have if i had known you’d die… I hate that people think i can magically feel better. it’s like someone saying hey i need a life preserver because I'm lost at sea and drowning about to go down with the ship and then the rescue team throws an anchor at you…

I wish no one had to die… I wish no one had to endure this pain… especially when those in your life isolate you

warning mentions of fatal accidents and sudden death and profanity

To give some Information I am a masc queer widow, I lost my partner this year.. his name was mason he was stolen from us 6-14-26 this day will forever haunt me , and should be a reminder that we need to drive safely and watch out for other drivers 💔He was 27 when those lowcountry roads took him.. he will forever be 27, together for 5 and married last year and I never thought I would be his now widowed husband. I thought we’d have 100 years of adventures, I thought we’d getting old together and watching our kiddo grow up together… he is 2 1/2… and has been asking for daddy. And I now collect books about death for children to explain to him later.. right now he says daddy not here…. want daddy..💔 How the fuck am I supposed to say someone stole daddy’s life to him when he gets older and starts wondering and looking for him in rooms he won’t be in… kiddo will have a void forever that was once daddy .. I don’t care if it was an accident his life was stolen and I live with that forever.. and the fact our baby doesn’t have daddy.. and the fact we had to make a build a bear With daddy’s hair and daddy’s voice for kiddo. The fact we have to explain daddy is only in pictures now … the fact I sat front row of a funeral that shouldn’t have happened in the first place his dreams were stolen, his career as an aviation mech cut short.. his dreams shattered along with ours… we were gonna start over after being in survival mode for so long our lives were finally at the end of the darkness and then he was stolen from us… and I have no answers and I had to hold his body and he wasn’t there before they cremated him… The police blamed him when we all know he didn't… the police won’t even help me and I’m next of kin and his spouse.. they refuse to give any information.. because I’m an out of state widow and did reports based on assumptions instead of actually investigating and seeing what the other driver’s toxicology was I am hoping when toxicology comes back we get justice.. … I am traumatized and scared and horrified on how it’s being handled … they probably just view it as just another sunday but for me it will haunt me and I will forever be in mourning. I will tell you this he had other people who have to have that closure and he leaves behind a broken hearted spouse and his own baby a little toddler, and his nieces and nephews… forever haunted that he was blamed when he suffered while the other drivers survived .. something in my bones is telling me he didn’t cross the line… and that something else happened. Another thing I should mention I was in that car in that same state 2 days before he died…. I am forever haunted that he didnt make it this time… I am now suffering in anguish and anger…. because he wasn’t supposed to fucking die not like this and forever broken -a 27 year old widow….

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have police in sc ever been wrong about how a crash happened? like who was at fault in a fatal accident involving two cars? and is there a way to prove that the person who passed didn’t cause the accident. I think people need to look at cameras more because roadside security cameras can’t lie.. . but I want to know your thoughts on this matter. Also what actions do I need to take as a widow to prove my husband’s innocence since he can’t defend himself as the dead can’t speak. Ive gotten no accurate information about anything that’s happened and I’m next of kin from out of state . this state doesn’t seem to like to help out of state widows it seems. because every police and state police I’ve asked says they cant help me and I get put in a cycle of who can and they all put me through a loop because I’m not a resident of South Carolina. any advice would be helpful

I know this is not something you want to hear on a toyota corolla reddit having high regards for them , But there is something you need to know about the Toyota Corolla LE 2023 model.., I don't believe it’s a safe car, I’m gonna be completely honest this is coming from someone who has lost their husband in a fatal crash, The safety board has claimed this is a safe car in head on collisions and crashes. He drove a corolla 2023 LE, His car did not save him, he suffered blunt force trauma and passed, and his car was not salvageable..His car should have protected him and kept him alive but it didn’t .. He was a very safe driver and was driving in an unfamiliar area and at night.. . His car should have protected him in the event of this crash but it didn’t.. The crumple zones were torn to shreds, it’s still under investigation and the other vehicle involved we have very little information on,.. we still don’t know what happened other than the my husband’s car should have protected him and it didn’t… please be mindful of this when purchasing older Corollas from the 12th generation.