u/Savings-Feeling4803

So last night before retiring to bed I was on this community and one other - once I shut everything down (phone, tv) I got things coming through - usually I shut it down but this felt urgent so I went with it

Firstly there was someone asking repeatedly “are you dating?” “Are you seeing anyone?” It didn’t feel like they were asking directly but more like they are searching for answers and the more the question was asked the more I could feel their heartbeat beating faster - there was an anxiety attached to it, a desperate need to know. I feel there’s been a change in this person - I’m sensing a change in circumstances but also being told a change of heart around him (whatever that means) but also there’s been a change in you and I feel like something you’ve posted online (feeling like it’s a new photo - feel like there’s been a bit of a glow up) has triggered him, he’s wondering if you’ve met someone and that’s the reason for the glow up and he’s doing everything he can to find out whether you’ve met someone and if your dating. There’s no contact here and I feel like there’s been no contact for a significant amount of time - I’m sensing like it’s been more than a year.

There is so much black and emerald green swirling around this person - so much they don’t know, so much jealousy because they don’t know and they are letting their imagination run away with them.

The black and emerald turned into night time and I see this person struggling - they are in deep water and struggling to keep their head above water (this isn’t literal - water usually represents emotions - they are emotionally in too deep, emotionally almost drowning - they are almost just treading water trying to stay afloat but it does feel like they could just give up and slip beneath the surface at any moment)

Then it turns into day time and it’s almost like there’s a facade - the anxiousness is still there, the questions, the fast heartbeat - everything under the surface, all the feelings… but the struggles, the treading the water - he acts like they aren’t there, there’s nothing wrong, nothing bothering him. No one else knows just how much this person is struggling emotionally. They feel like a very guarded person and during the day come across as happy go lucky and keeps himself busy and surrounded by people to stop himself thinking of you, it’s only of a night time when he’s alone that he allows himself to think of you and all of these emotions take over. Feels like this has been happening for a couple of weeks now and spirit make me feel like you have a knowing that this person is thinking of you - they’ve possibly started randomly showing up in your dreams and your asking yourself why.

I feel like this person is trying to work out whether to contact you so brace yourself because he is on the fence right now.

Just as a clarifier, something that will possibly indicate whether this is meant for you or not - One thing that did come through was there is an issue with the left ear of this person - not sure entirely what this issue is but they have some known issue with the left ear specifically because they are making my left ear feel different.
I’ve been told you keep seeing repeating numbers also 11.11, 22.22, 00.00 and 15.15 are all numbers being shown to me as being relevant.

So there’s a guy I’ve known 11 years - was meant to be nothing more than one night together but he wanted more. Over the years he has tried to get me to give it a go but I’ve kept him at arms length, had my walls up etc until December and then I finally became vulnerable and let him in… things were good for a few days talking about future plans and a date and then he just ghosts… radio silence. I reach out on New Year wishing him Happy New Year but again was met with silence.

He pops up again three months later - casual as anything, as if nothing has happened - no acknowledgment or accountability and I just couldn’t deal with it at the time. I had my child in autistic burnout and my focus needed to be with my child. Being honest I was still upset after it all anyway. So, I archived the conversation.

When I came back to it at a later date… there was two more messages - one focusing on my lack of response (trying to hold me accountable - double standards if ever I’ve seen them) and the second one was giving me a final chance to reply with a 12 hour deadline or else I would never hear from him again. I saw these messages after the deadline so I accepted and respected his choice and left it.

The last month I’ve been focusing on my child and myself - I’ve lost three stone most of that being in the last 3 months, look better now than I have in a long time… I’m feeling confident, skin is glowing and just feeling good overall.

Then today out the blue I get a follow request from him on instagram - I’m just in the process of getting ready to go out with my nieces - so I continue my day whilst trying to figure out why he asked to follow me, especially after saying I would never hear from him again. Then after 3-4 hours he deletes the follow request… why even request in the first place?

Can anyone give any insight to why this ghost popped up after three months - tried to make me accountable and then delivered an ultimatum before blocking me to never contact me again… and then he’s done this today? I’m just proper confused - this is a massive head f**k… so any advice or insight would be amazing.

Thanks xx

This is a bit of a long one… sorry in advance.

So I met this guy in work, we were scheduled to work two days together, we got on really well and he gave me his phone number on the last of the two days. I misplaced his number and then when I found it again I contacted him.

We would message and flirt constantly, would arrange dates and then he would cancel and ghost - this repeated many times with him always returning using holidays/special occasions to make the reconnection.

Same thing again until 4 and a half years after meeting, we arranged a date and this time he didn’t cancel, we went on the date and became a couple and were in a relationship for nearly 2 years.

The first year everything was great but then the second year was distancing himself and pushing me away - I knew there was some things going on that he didn’t open up to me about - I suspect money worries, depression for sure but being an older soul and a manly man this was not something he would admit to - he would always act like the life and soul cracking jokes regardless.

Things came to a head when I said that I needed to end things, he had pushed me away and I had tried everything - tried to give him space, tried to be supportive with offers of being there and offers to talk. He acknowledged he knew he had been pushing me away but hadn’t meant to. Then he ghosted me.

Four and a half years of building a friendship (admittedly on and off) and then almost two years of a romantic relationship and just ghosted like I never ever mattered and not given any real closure.

This was two and a half years ago - I dealt with it, moved on (not romantically) and have been focusing on family and myself. I never thought about him at all - that part of my life was done, finished. But recently I keep feeling his energy again - he’s showing up in dreams (although it was his friends first and then progressed to him which was strange anyway), things keep popping up from when we were together (songs, places, things we spoke about) and I was out and about and this woman I’ve never met before came over and started talking to me and me being me I was friendly and started chatting back - turns out she was a psychic - she told me all about the situation with my ex and told me that she just needed to warn me that he was making a return in the future, he was going to contact me in the coming months and I needed to be ready for it. It’s sent my head west - actually that’s an understatement - it’s completely scrambled as this was something I had completely drawn a line under and had made peace with the fact that I would never get answers to why he decided to ghost rather than speak to me and work things out. For a little more context - I said I have been working on myself and my family - in terms of myself… I’m probably looking happier and healthier than I ever have - skin is glowing and I’ve been happily posting make up free photos and photos of myself showing an almost three stone weight loss - these haven’t been for him or for anyone, they’ve been for myself, documenting my journey and showing my renewed confidence (because let’s face it, being ghosted messes with your confidence and self-esteem anyway).

Just wanted to ask really whether anyone else has been in a similar situation and whether their ghost did make a return especially after so long?

This is a bit of a long one… sorry in advance.

So I met this guy in work, we were scheduled to work two days together, we got on really well and he gave me his phone number on the last of the two days. I misplaced his number and then when I found it again I contacted him.

We would message and flirt constantly, would arrange dates and then he would cancel and ghost - this repeated many times with him always returning using holidays/special occasions to make the reconnection.

Same thing again until 4 and a half years after meeting, we arranged a date and this time he didn’t cancel, we went on the date and became a couple and were in a relationship for nearly 2 years.

The first year everything was great but then the second year was distancing himself and pushing me away - I knew there was some things going on that he didn’t open up to me about - I suspect money worries, depression for sure but being an older soul and a manly man this was not something he would admit to - he would always act like the life and soul cracking jokes regardless.

Things came to a head when I said that I needed to end things, he had pushed me away and I had tried everything - tried to give him space, tried to be supportive with offers of being there and offers to talk. He acknowledged he knew he had been pushing me away but hadn’t meant to. Then he ghosted me.

Four and a half years of building a friendship (admittedly on and off) and then almost two years of a romantic relationship and just ghosted like I never ever mattered and not given any real closure.

This was two and a half years ago - I dealt with it, moved on (not romantically) and have been focusing on family and myself. I never thought about him at all - that part of my life was done, finished. But recently I keep feeling his energy again - he’s showing up in dreams (although it was his friends first and then progressed to him which was strange anyway), things keep popping up from when we were together (songs, places, things we spoke about) and I was out and about and this woman I’ve never met before came over and started talking to me and me being me I was friendly and started chatting back - turns out she was a psychic - she told me all about the situation with my ex and told me that she just needed to warn me that he was making a return in the future, he was going to contact me in the coming months and I needed to be ready for it. It’s sent my head west - actually that’s an understatement - it’s completely scrambled as this was something I had completely drawn a line under and had made peace with the fact that I would never get answers to why he decided to ghost rather than speak to me and work things out. For a little more context - I said I have been working on myself and my family - in terms of myself… I’m probably looking happier and healthier than I ever have - skin is glowing and I’ve been happily posting make up free photos and photos of myself showing an almost three stone weight loss - these haven’t been for him or for anyone, they’ve been for myself, documenting my journey and showing my renewed confidence (because let’s face it, being ghosted messes with your confidence and self-esteem anyway).

Just wanted to ask really whether anyone else has been in a similar situation and whether their ghost did make a return especially after so long?

After almost 11 years of knowing you, I never expected things to end this way. I at least thought we would always maintain a friendship but we no longer even have that.

I know in terms of romance, I always kept you at arms length, I found it hard to let down my walls and let you in, found it hard to let myself trust you with my heart but I finally took that chance, finally let you in and trust you and where did it get me? Ghosted for months!

If I hadn’t become vulnerable and let you in then your silence would have been fine but when you ghosted you broke my trust and just reinforced that I had spent years protecting my heart for the all the right reasons and my instincts had always been right.

It wasn’t even the fact that you ghosted me after I became vulnerable and let you in that hurt me the most - it was the fact that when you returned it was like nothing had even happened. No acknowledgement or explanation of why you ghosted me or apology - I wasn’t even looking for an apology more of you just taking accountability.

I didn’t respond - it wasn’t for revenge, it wasn’t to hurt you, it wasn’t to play games - it was because I was genuinely trying to figure out my feelings on all this and believe me I looked at this from every angle. I made so many excuses for you - wondered if there was personal issues or that you were just overwhelmed. But then I also had to consider whether the thrill had just been in the chase and you wanted me until you got me. I did question whether I had been wrong not to reply, whether I was being harsh and hypocritical but at the end of the day I didn’t want to be acting from a place of anger and nor did I want any confrontation or drama (I already had enough drama in my life). I had to remain true to myself in how I handled things. So, I archived your conversation and just carried on, I already had a lot going on in my life that was consuming all my time and required all my attention anyway. I hoped maybe in time you might come to realise that you had hurt me and try to repair things with a follow up message.

That was wishful thinking, instead of recognising I might be hurt by the ghosting and you may have broken my trust and trying to repair that, you turned it on me instead focusing on my silence and trying to hold me accountable for not replying? The fact you can’t see the irony in that is beyond me - how can you be calling me out on not replying when you were the one who ghosted me in the first place? How do you not have the emotional maturity to stand back and look at the bigger picture and realise that whilst my silence is an issue for you, your silence was also an issue for me, especially with the timing of it.

Unfortunately, you never figured it out which was evident in your final message to me when you sent an ultimatum giving me a final chance to reply and a deadline - your conversation was still archived so I didn’t even see the message until days after the almost 12 hour deadline had passed. You just showed me even more that you have zero emotional maturity, you aren’t able to see things from anyone’s point of view but your own meaning zero compassion or empathy towards anyone and zero accountability for your actions and how they might affect people. That’s actually quite sad really.

Would I have replied to your ultimatum if I had seen it before the deadline? Probably not! It did make me angry reading it and you treating me that way - your silence I respected, my silence was a different matter - do you not see the double standards here?

I am sad things have ended the way they have, that nothing will be salvaged from the last decade but I am also happy that for once I kept my boundaries in place, I didn’t prioritise anyone else’s feelings and nor did I just reply to keep the peace and avoid drama or conflict like I always have done. So I can at least thank you for making me finally realise that I’m important too, just not to you.

I wish you all the luck in the world and I hope life brings you all love and happiness in the future.

After almost 11 years of knowing you, I never expected things to end this way. I at least thought we would always maintain a friendship but we no longer even have that.

I know in terms of romance, I always kept you at arms length, I found it hard to let down my walls and let you in, found it hard to let myself trust you with my heart but I finally took that chance, finally let you in and trust you and where did it get me? Ghosted for months!

If I hadn’t become vulnerable and let you in then your silence would have been fine but when you ghosted you broke my trust and just reinforced that I had spent years protecting my heart for the all the right reasons and my instincts had always been right.

It wasn’t even the fact that you ghosted me after I became vulnerable and let you in that hurt me the most - it was the fact that when you returned it was like nothing had even happened. No acknowledgement or explanation of why you ghosted me or apology - I wasn’t even looking for an apology more of you just taking accountability.

I didn’t respond - it wasn’t for revenge, it wasn’t to hurt you, it wasn’t to play games - it was because I was genuinely trying to figure out my feelings on all this and believe me I looked at this from every angle. I made so many excuses for you - wondered if there was personal issues or that you were just overwhelmed. But then I also had to consider whether the thrill had just been in the chase and you wanted me until you got me. I did question whether I had been wrong not to reply, whether I was being harsh and hypocritical but at the end of the day I didn’t want to be acting from a place of anger and nor did I want any confrontation or drama (I already had enough drama in my life). I had to remain true to myself in how I handled things. So, I archived your conversation and just carried on, I already had a lot going on in my life that was consuming all my time and required all my attention anyway. I hoped maybe in time you might come to realise that you had hurt me and try to repair things with a follow up message.

That was wishful thinking, instead of recognising I might be hurt by the ghosting and you may have broken my trust and trying to repair that, you turned it on me instead focusing on my silence and trying to hold me accountable for not replying? The fact you can’t see the irony in that is beyond me - how can you be calling me out on not replying when you were the one who ghosted me in the first place? How do you not have the emotional maturity to stand back and look at the bigger picture and realise that whilst my silence is an issue for you, your silence was also an issue for me, especially with the timing of it.

Unfortunately, you never figured it out which was evident in your final message to me when you sent an ultimatum giving me a final chance to reply and a deadline - your conversation was still archived so I didn’t even see the message until days after the almost 12 hour deadline had passed. You just showed me even more that you have zero emotional maturity, you aren’t able to see things from anyone’s point of view but your own meaning zero compassion or empathy towards anyone and zero accountability for your actions and how they might affect people. That’s actually quite sad really.

Would I have replied to your ultimatum if I had seen it before the deadline? Probably not! It did make me angry reading it and you treating me that way - your silence I respected, my silence was a different matter - do you not see the double standards here?

I am sad things have ended the way they have, that nothing will be salvaged from the last decade but I am also happy that for once I kept my boundaries in place, I didn’t prioritise anyone else’s feelings and nor did I just reply to keep the peace and avoid drama or conflict like I always have done. So I can at least thank you for making me finally realise that I’m important too, just not to you.

I wish you all the luck in the world and I hope life brings you all love and happiness in the future.

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