u/Savings_Reporter3900

My aunt and cousin live in a very desirable location and have a big single house. My Aunt began hoarding about 20 yrs ago and the whole house just had a path u could walk thru with boxes stacked high to the ceilings everywhere. My cousin is intellectually disabled and isn’t receiving any outside care or home health care aides they adamantly reject and refuse any help, they say no to it all.

My aunt has been in the hospital off and on for a few years always leaving my cousin (she’s in her 50s now) home alone. My cousin wants to stay home and keep herself busy, she doesn’t want to go to any day programs or anything like that, she doesn’t want any aides to come help her with anything. She can heat up food in the microwave but that’s the extent of her cooking skills and I worry because she’s not eating a healthy diet at all. She has a brother who lives 3 hours away and he does what he can such as send food and makes sure bills are being paid, but they have pushed him away and caused a lot of pain.

The problem is that adult protective services has been out to the house a few times and they said as long as a path is clear to the exits they are saying they can live as they choose even though it’s not what most people would want…it’s their lives. The problem is now I don’t know when or if my aunt will come home from the hospital she’s been in there 7 months and my cousin is refusing to let me even take out her trash. She has 7 months of trash in black bags but in her dining room.

My cousin calls me for emotional support constantly , which is overwhelming, and she even calls the police when she gets scared and they come out to her and they are aware of the situation. I guess I’m just trying to figure out what to do with this whole situation and who can help?

I was with my ex on and off for 18 yrs, he would drink and become verbally abusive saying anything and everything to hurt me, then the next day act like nothing happened or he’d actually try and say that I was the one who did the awful things he did.

I finally left and now he has a new girlfriend, but I can’t help but wonder how is he treating her and is he treating her well? He actually had me fooled for 2 yrs I thought I played it safe not moving in with him until we were together for 2 years but he didn’t show me his true self until after our child was born.

When I left him he went to counseling for a month to “work on himself” at which point he told me he only needed to go for that month because the counselor showed him what he was doing and now he knows not to do it. He said he was holding on to animosity about some things I had said to him about not helping me with our child and that when he drank he could let it all out. I haven’t been able to move on because I’m scared to pick another guy like him and it really messed me up knowing he has someone.

Where are some good spots that I can grab take out for lunch/dinner to feed myself and my teens without breaking the bank?