u/Sea-Salt-5727

I’m in my last weeks of pregnancy, feeling extremely irritable, tired and uncomfortable. My nmom keeps pestering me that she NEEDS to see me while I’m still pregnant (what it means to her and how it affects her life, I don’t really understand but of course she decided I needed to comply). I told her that I was not in the mood and didn’t feel like talking nor hanging out. She still calls every day. Sometimes I answer and then she lectures me about being rude and moody.
Then it came to me, she’s been doing that all my life. When she was annoyed or in a mood (which was pretty much every waking hour) she would take it out on us by just finding reasons to scream and yell. When i was in a bad mood I would just “announce” it and go to my room to be alone. But she would never let me, she would find things for me to do, come into my room with “important” thing to discuss and then she would yell at me for being in a bad mood and being an extremely difficult person. Basically i am asking for a little peace and quiet and she doesn’t want to leave me alone until I snap. And then she calls me rude, selfish, always angry etc. I don’t understand what she has to gain from that? Is it the opportunity to play the victim again? How can I fight it?

S obzirom na to da je Vinted svakim danom sve gori (od botova koji “moderiraju” sadržaj preko nepostojeće korisničke podrške do nevjerojatnih oglasa u kojima ljudi prodaju poklopce od staklenki, prazne role wc papira i sl.), čula sam za Depop. Prodaje/kupuje li netko tamo i koja su iskustva? Čini mi se kao da je tamo kvalitetnija ponuda, međutim ne znam koristi li to itko to kod nas, a cijene međunarodnog shippinga pojedu cijelu poantu prodavanja second hand odjeće i predmeta.

I will give birth soon and this pregnancy made a lot of childhood and adolescence wounds (that I thought I worked through already) resurface.
It has also been really difficult physically and I am on bed rest since the beginning. I waited until I was emotionally ready to have a child, because I wanted to end the cycle with me. But now it seems not only I am back at the start, but even worse.
I was in a good place with my parents for almost 3 years. In a good place meaning that I worked a lot in therapy and I accepted that I will never get my childhood back and that I will never change them and I was finally at peace with that.
Ever since I announced my pregnancy, they have been trying to insert themselves in every aspect (except where it counts, for example taking me to a doctor’s appointment or offering to clean my kitchen/bathroom/whatever) and causing me a lot of stress and sadness as every time I would refuse something, it ended with screaming and crying how I am such a dramatic and difficult person, that I am acting as if they were trying to take something away from me. (Not only they were trying, but they were actively doing it, for example buying the baby’s first toy, first piece of clothing and so on…) I went back to therapy, but it doesn’t seem to help. I am just filled with rage and I cannot stop it from affecting my mood and my behaviour.
I don’t want to have that atmosphere in my home, I don’t want to do this to my family. But I just keep replaying all the hurtful things they did during this pregnancy and having flashbacks to previous incidents and I am angry all the time. I don’t know how to let it go.