u/Seahawker1212

Does anyone have advice on how to get their sick partner to follow the doctor's directions for medicine and self-care? She believes that she knows better, does not like medicine, and it continues to put us in a situation where she gets a seizure and is now back in the hospital again. I’m really starting to get angry, and I know I cannot have a conversation with her about it because it will upset her; that’s the last thing she needs right now.

My wife had brain surgery last June to remove 5 tumors. Since then, her personality has changed, and starting in December, she has had a seizure every 4-6 weeks that takes her offline for up to two weeks.

She loses the ability to talk, to understand things, her hand shakes, and she's nauseous, and her head hurts for days.

She had her 5th seizure in the last 6 months today, and I was supposed to go on a day trip tomorrow for work. I canceled the trip, and fortunately, the client is a friend and knows her story.

How do I stay present at work? How can I travel and do my job effectively? My two college-age daughters are home, and I could have left her with them, but that wouldn’t be fair to them.

The stress, the feeling of helplessness, not knowing exactly what to do when this happens, and her anger start because I can’t understand her.

Thanks, all!