Do we have any Kacey fans in here that also play Tomodachi Life??? The customization features are a little tricky to use, and I’m not the best drawer in the world, but I’m happy with how these came out :)
Also, please forgive my boomer screenshot taken with my iPhone. The game doesn’t let you share any screenshots taken on the Switch 😞
I looooove savory oats and have had them for breakfast nearly every day for years at this point.
For the base, I cook oatmeal in chicken broth. You can use any type of oatmeal you fancy. Right now, I’m using Bob’s Red Mill quick cooking steel cut oats. The instructions say to use 1/2 cup of water for a 1/4 cup serving, but I use a full cup of chicken broth or whatever liquid I’m using. They come out way too dry for me if I only use 1/2 cup. I season it with black pepper, mushroom powder, garlic powder, and nutritional yeast. I typically don’t add salt since it’s plenty salty already.
I use this base for everything and switch up the toppings for variety! I like to add veggies, but I was being lazy and just wanted something quick. Today, I did 2 links of chicken breakfast sausage from Trader Joe’s, a Korean marinaded egg, and green onions.
For the eggs, I soft boiled 6 eggs for 6.5 minutes. Transferred them to an ice bath as soon as they were done cooking. The marinade I used is 1/4 cup soy sauce, 1/4 cup dark soy sauce, 1/4 cup water, 1/4 cup honey, 4 green onions, 5 gloves of garlic, and 1 Thai chili. Marinaded the eggs in this overnight! They should last me the rest of the week :)
I left my PA a little more than a year ago. Life is honestly really good in many ways. I have a fantastic group of friends that I love dearly who have taught me what real safety in a relationship feels like. I’m also really enjoying myself as a single woman and just focusing 100% on myself.
But the betrayal trauma is an ever present addition to my life now. I have a lot of days where I can’t get out of bed or get off the couch. Enough time has passed where I can confidently say that I am forever changed from my experience of being with a PA. I am so hyper vigilant with men now, and the thing is, I feel like I’m not wrong for being this way. I do think the vast majority of men are liars and misogynistic.
The constant lying and gaslighting did such a number on my psyche. I used to be such a lover girl. I’ve had my heart broken before. Many times in fact. Something I’ve always admired about myself is my continuous belief in love. No matter how hurt I’ve been, I never lost hope that love is still out there and possible for me. This time is much different though. I’m not sure if I believe in love anymore, and that’s such a wild thing to say coming from me. If you’re into astrology, I’m a cancer sun and a true hopeless romantic through and through.
I simply just don’t believe there are many men out there who would prioritize a real relationship with me based on authenticity and vulnerability over their access to porn. The sad thing is too that I don’t even think it’s about addiction in this case. I think a man could see me for all my good qualities and loving characteristics, and he would still choose porn out of sheer entitlement. Even if it meant losing me forever. Even if it meant being with a less compatible partner.
I truly don’t know how I’m supposed to feel safe in the world or safe in a relationship ever again. My ex hid his true self so well. He curated an entire persona and value system that was never real. He wasn’t perfect, but he was truly an amazing partner and it was the best relationship I’ve ever been in. Then we had our d-day and he shut it all down completely at the drop of a hat. He had an entire personality switch up in the blink of an eye. That guy I thought I was with was gone. We tried to work on the relationship a little bit after that, but it was clear he was completely emotionally checked out and done with me after I found out. I was met with so much distain and resentment. He rewrote our entire love story so thoroughly that sometimes I still question what actually happened. He made me feel insane for thinking we were in it longterm. Like I was crazy for thinking we’d get married, even though we discussed it many times. How can I ever trust another person again after this???
It’s hard to go on knowing that people are capable of this much deception. I’ve met my fair share of liars. I have mentally unstable people in my family with personality disorders who love to craft stories and bend the truth. I have never, ever encountered someone who is so loved, admired, with as many friends as he had, where it was all fake. The whole lot of it. None of it was real.
Sorry for being such a downer. I’m going through it at the moment and trying to find the light. Thank you for reading.