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Department of cannabis control was formed during covid as 100% telework. We barely made the 2 days work with the two spaces we have.

But all of a sudden as if this morning, we've got new space in Natomas and will move forward with 4 days in August. Right after the new school year starts.

For the record employees were led to believe as recently as April, that we were nowhere near getting new space and likely had at least another year at 2 days a week in office.

No information on if people will have to change headquarters or give up AWW or really any information other than suck it, peasants. Screw your childcare, commutes, 7$ a gallon gas...

My question is even if the mythical AB 1729 gets passed and signed is there any point?! With so many agencies ready to bend the knee come the summer, will any of them go back to any kind of decent telework model even if they can "justify" it.

I doubt there is another delay/hail mary to pull off before July 1.

Seems like the bill is just for show that someone tried but will ultimately be ignored.

And yes I have been fighting the fight for all agencies all along, I'm not pissed just because it's hitting me now. I'm just sharing that they finally got to one of the rare agencies that had previously stated they weren't changing.

UGH.

Specifically, I'm looking for the feature that IMDB has that shows *where* the series/movie is streaming, but for books. I'm annoyed that romance.io will say "audiobook" but not where it's available.

So, then I search audible, tempt, chirp, libby, etc trying to first track it down and then see how cheap I can get it. Does that exist anywhere? Audible usually has it, but then there's pricing. The rate I go through books even with membership, it's quite spendy!

Furthermore, does anyone else think audible should offer a rental option or sell back feature? I know nothing about apps or app making but there's a free idea I'd pay to use.

In theory it could be less than what they charge per book. Especially since once you have it, even if you don't finish, you can't take it to the used book store for a couple bucks, you're stuck with it.

But maybe that's the trade off being an audiobook user. Have to be since there's nooooo way I'd be able to actually sit down with a book nearly as often as listening during the day.

I almost always find one new thing to add to my TBR every time I ask, so here goes. Looking for some fluffy happy romcom RH that has the conflict, drama, ridiculously romantic storyline. Give me gooey soap opera!

With the dirty stuff, mm, all that, but not a Mafia/Bratva or secret society university/insane asylum etc. Not into paranormal anything really, i still like it to feel real-ish.

I've already read Pucking Around and enjoyed that, so sports, small town, cozy,cowboy, billionaire, rodeo, whatever you want to call it. I like the dark stuff but I've read a lot of it I'm looking for the playful and light-hearted. Let me hear ya!

My kiddo H, is 7 and gave me this coloring book called If You Give a Mom a Muffin by Beth Brubaker. She colored it beautifully, she read it really well, love it.

HOWEVER. The premise, mom sits down to have coffee and a muffin, can't finish because the kid spills it, she has to clean it, then she has all this stuff to do like laundry and changing diapers, including tripping and falling hitting her head on the freezer which for some reason reminds her she has to make DINNER?!

No help from dad, in fact no dad in sight at all.

By the time she remembers her coffee and goes to get a new cup, the kids have eaten her muffin.

Is it relatable and realistic? Sadly, yes for married and single moms alike. We all know about married single moms and the overstimulated moms who can't finish a single task because of all the others that come to mind. They absolutely deserve to be acknowledged and appreciated every single day for all the visible and invisible labor.

But the message is not "Thank you for all you do mom!" Its "Haha you do all this with no support, can't even get time with a friend in your own home, and also no muffin for you!" I'm sorry, no mom, working, stay at home,or otherwise, should be deprived of support, or muffins.

I just don't think that's the message I want H taking home for mother's day. I talked to her about why this is actually kind of a sad story and she should expect better.

To be fair it also mentions a checkbook, which she didn't know what that was, and had pictures of rotary phones in it. Clearly outdated. So, thinking of at LEAST emailing and suggesting this message sucks and this particular activity should be discontinued.

ETA: I was raised by a teacher. I understand how I overworked and undervalued they are across the country. But, material needs to be updated at some point doesn't it? One lesson updated once for future use, or a bad message sent to 30 kids a year, over and over again?

I am not looking for any punishment, pound of flesh or anything, just thinking maybe the teacher could re-evaluate this activity for next year and maybe print a different coloring book for the kids. The other class of the same grade did not use this book, or anything else that I know of so clearly not a mandatory lesson, more likely a quiet time activity.

Here's the "poem."

If You Give A Mom A Muffin

by Beth Brubaker

If you give a mom a muffin,

she’ll want a cup of coffee to go with it.

She’ll pour herself some.

Her three year-old will come and spill the coffee.

Mom will wipe it up.

Wiping the floor, she will find dirty socks.

She’ll remember she has to do laundry.

When she puts the laundry into the washer,

she’ll trip over shoes and bump into the freezer.

Bumping into the freezer will remind her she has to plan supper.

She will get out a pound of hamburger.

She’ll look for her cookbook

(How to Make 101 Things With a Pound of Hamburger.)

The cookbook is sitting under a pile of mail.

She will see the phone bill, which is due tomorrow.

She will look for her checkbook.

The checkbook is in her purse,

which is being dumped out by her two year-old.

Then she’ll smell something funny.

She’ll change the two year-old.

While she is changing the two year-old, the phone will ring.

Her five year-old will answer and hang up.

She’ll remember she was supposed to phone a friend

to come over for coffee.

Thinking of coffee will remind her that she was going to have a cup.

She will pour herself some more.

And chances are,

if she has a cup a coffee,

her kids will have eaten the muffin that went with it

My kiddo H, is 7 and gave me this coloring book called If You Give a Mom a Muffin by Beth Brubaker. She colored it beautifully, she read it really well, love it.

HOWEVER. The premise, mom sits down to have coffee and a muffin, can't finish because the kid spills it, she has to clean it, then she has all this stuff to do like laundry and changing diapers, including tripping and falling hitting her head on the freezer which for some reason reminds her she has to make DINNER?!

No help from dad, in fact no dad in sight at all.

By the time she remembers her coffee and goes to get a new cup, the kids have eaten her muffin.

Is it relatable and realistic? Sadly, yes for married and single moms alike. We all know about married single moms and the overstimulated moms who can't finish a single task because of all the others that come to mind. They absolutely deserve to be acknowledged and appreciated every single day for all the visible and invisible labor.

But the message is not "Thank you for all you do mom!" Its "Haha you do all this with no support, can't even get time with a friend in your own home, and also no muffin for you!" I'm sorry, no mom, working, stay at home,or otherwise, should be deprived of support, or muffins.

I just don't think that's the message I want H taking home for mother's day. I talked to her about why this is actually kind of a sad story and she should expect better.

To be fair it also mentions a checkbook, which she didn't know what that was, and had pictures of rotary phones in it. Clearly outdated. So, thinking of at LEAST emailing and suggesting this message sucks and this particular activity should be discontinued.

ETA: I was raised by a teacher. I understand how I overworked and undervalued they are across the country. But, material needs to be updated at some point doesn't it? One lesson updated once for future use, or a bad message sent to 30 kids a year, over and over again?

I am not looking for any punishment, pound of flesh or anything, just thinking maybe the teacher could re-evaluate this lesson for next year and maybe print a different coloring book for the kids. The other class of the same grade did not use this book, or anything else that I know of so clearly not a mandatory lesson, more likely a quiet time activity.

Here's the "poem."

If You Give A Mom A Muffin

by Beth Brubaker

If you give a mom a muffin,

she’ll want a cup of coffee to go with it.

She’ll pour herself some.

Her three year-old will come and spill the coffee.

Mom will wipe it up.

Wiping the floor, she will find dirty socks.

She’ll remember she has to do laundry.

When she puts the laundry into the washer,

she’ll trip over shoes and bump into the freezer.

Bumping into the freezer will remind her she has to plan supper.

She will get out a pound of hamburger.

She’ll look for her cookbook

(How to Make 101 Things With a Pound of Hamburger.)

The cookbook is sitting under a pile of mail.

She will see the phone bill, which is due tomorrow.

She will look for her checkbook.

The checkbook is in her purse,

which is being dumped out by her two year-old.

Then she’ll smell something funny.

She’ll change the two year-old.

While she is changing the two year-old, the phone will ring.

Her five year-old will answer and hang up.

She’ll remember she was supposed to phone a friend

to come over for coffee.

Thinking of coffee will remind her that she was going to have a cup.

She will pour herself some more.

And chances are,

if she has a cup a coffee,

her kids will have eaten the muffin that went with it

In the before times, when I thought I was just chaotic and over sensitive and doing everything wrong, I rarely tried anything new. I knew if I wasn't good at it immediately I'd get frustrated or upset and wouldn't have the bandwidth to get better at it. If I didn't believe I could throw myself into it and become the expert right away, I wouldn't go near it.

So I just existed. My hobbies were basically TV, audiobooks, and rotting in bed. After kids, I thought that was just my life, my role was to help them find hobbies and be fulfilled.

Now, about a year into treatment, realizing my neuro-sparkly brain just needed something different and in fact I was just a zebra trying to fit in amongst horses, that resistance to failure has lifted.

I've given myself permission to be terrible, permission to practice, permission to put something down for awhile and pick it up again. I've told myself and my kids that it is normal to not be good at something new and to keep at it and to celebrate the little accomplishments.

That being said, if you've experienced this sudden openness to new things, what have you tried? What was the thing you thought would be cool but always talked yourself out of?

Not ashamed to admit, I'm looking for future ideas.

So far, I have:

Taught myself line dancing (in my backyard via YouTube. Way more fun to get my steps that way!)

Got a puppy and learned a lot about dog training and behavior. Loosely involved in a rescue organization now.

Taken up axe throwing (husband even put a target in the backyard!)

Expanded my weight lifting routine and equipment at home to increase my knowledge and skill level. I do this in particular to help my kiddos see that strong women are badass.

Bought a drum kit and I am teaching myself to play drums (again, online with apps, so fun!)

Honorable mentions:

I have stopped blindly hating the following...

Camping (even went bought a camper to take the family! )

Yard work

Organizing things like closets and dressers.

Actually putting laundry away instead of doing the bed-floor-bed-floor-hamper routine.

Working without emotional support TV shows on.

So, chime in if you want. Hopefully my fellow zebras are also experiencing a renaissance!!