Always wanted to know since I have never attended a wedding save one. Do we have dowry system? I know there is gift system though but is it the same as dowry but named a little different? What is the culture like around these "gifts"?
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I was in Delhi the last few years and I noticed that most people were lonely while living in a huge crowd. No real connection, just superficial ones. So I wondered if it's was similar here as well? It might not be the case in busty areas but what about in the capital or bigger towns?
I rescued three fledgings a few days ago as their mother had died. Two of those are healthy and will probably learn to fly soon but the third one has some sort of nerve injury (I'm not sure) and keeps injuring itself. I'm scared that it'll die if it doesn't get professional help. Does anyone have any contact information of such professionals based in South sikkim? Please do share.
Pata hai aaj kya hua?? I was telling my family about the recent CJI remark about youths being cockroaches and I'm 25F unemployed studying for exams and I was visibly distressed about his whole comment and my dad goes "don't worry. You're not a cockroach for us. You're my princess. So be calm and study. Papa hai na." I'm crying 😭😭🧿🧿
Do you consider sikkimese are your brothers and sisters because of similar culture, traditions etc or do you not care about them? Would you choose to become a part of Sikkim if ever given the chance?
Rescued 3 barbet babies yesterday. Currently feeding it Banana pulp and egg yolk. Anyone has any idea how to care for primarily frugivorous birds? Please help.
I recently brokeup with my bf and I have realised that I have developed a really low self esteem. I'm not chopped and I know that since I've had many men approach me throughout the years and I've always ended up dating the people I had a crush on (I'm not bragging. Just wanted to prove that I'm not chopped). But lately, I feel this intense self loathing especially when I see pretty girls and feel very insecure about myself which I didn't feel before and it's probably because of my ex as he would say really mean stuffs casually that would make me feel small like "you back is hairy" when I'd wear backless or "your breath stinks" in the morning or "don't wear that. You look so fat in it" or "don't wear that. Everyone will stare at you" and at times also made me feel like he was ashamed of me around his friends. And after a month of breakup, I have come to know that he's moved on and found someone new. I don't know how to feel about myself anymore. I didn't feel this self conscious even when my previous ex cheated on me. My self esteem was okay despite being cheated on but with this guy, it feels like my self esteem has crumbled and all I feel is deep insecurity. I am writing this with tears in my eyes. All the people who claimed to love me have only damaged me and now all the love and innocence I had in my heart have turned into deep seated anxiety. Has anyone gone through this? Please help me.
I'm thinking of getting rid of my phone and only using my laptop for my studies henceforth but I'm worried about WhatsApp and calls but I don't really want my friends to reach out to me and I already live at home. Has anyone done it? How did you manage without a phone because despite everything sometime you will need a phone when you go out right?
I really need your personal opinion on this. So, we're basically being offered a land or flat in exchange for our land in South sikkim. Flat is in 5th mile tadong Hyundai area and land is 5mins walk uphill near tadong school and college area. What would be the best deal to choose? The land is stable and good but would cost a lot to construct a house there and the flat is also good. What would be the best choice?
I am a full time aspirant and I was looking into getting some freelance remote jobs in LinkedIn but I am so lost. I have never worked in my life and have no resume at all and my bachelors and masters is in Political science. Has anyone gone through this? Can anyone guide me? Please help. I don't have any skills other than my UPSC knowledge, Microsoft office, editing and creative writing.
I feel like this area has a lot of potential but idk how to go about it. Any ideas are appreciated!!
We all know that marriage is not forced upon daughters in Sikkim and we are very privileged in that sense however I (F in mid 20s) was having a conversation yesterday with my unmarried independent aunt (35F) and she asked me when I was going to get married and I replied that currently I had no interest and also that I didn't want to marry just for the sake of marrying or just because everyone else around me is getting married and added that if I find a guy who checks off my boxes then I might settle down but if not then I'll stay unmarried. To which she asked me the list of traits and I listed them as follows:
Emotionally mature
Knows how to cook and does house chores so that he's not dependent on me and shares the work(as I'll be employed too)
Can stand up for himself and for the family
Can adapt to real life situations without being engulfed by morality and ethics for family.
My aunt replied that such men aren't in my age bracket and I'll have to look for them in her age bracket. Is that true? I thought these were very basic adult qualities. Please share me your opinions.